Single people, does it annoy you when someone tries to hook you up?

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Especially if that someone is somebody you know and is in a relationship. By "hook up" I mean playing matchmaker. My best friend once tried to set me up with her boyfriend's best friend and my siblings do this often too. I get extremely annoyed and I have to tell them I don't need their help because I can handle it on my own, thank you. Also, I enjoy being single. Is anybody else this way?

boredgirl7883 · Accepted Answer

It doesn't bother me being set up because if it's a good friend of mine then I'll give it a chance if I feel that they know me and my tastes in men. I live by the philosophy that you never know how you'll find love so there's no need to be picky about how you find it.

However, I do not like when someone I barely know mentions that they know someone who would be "perfect for me". And it can be annoying because they may just be setting you up with their own personal ex (yes, that's happened to me) or some guy that is in love or likes them but they're trying to get rid of them so they thought of you.

I had a friend who would always try to set me up with these guys and for some reason, she would always end up hooking up with them after our dates did not work out. Granted she's a slut and got pregnant by some loser...but you get what I'm saying. Some people don't have your best interests at heart when they play matchmaker. So only let people you trust do it if you're into being hooked up.

windy-rose · Accepted Answer

The few times this has happened, it's always been a 'secondary' friend who tries to do this. Not one of my good friends who knows me well, and has an idea of the personalities I'd be attracted to. Nope, its always been the try to hard do gooder who just misses the mark or tries to re-direct someone who may have been interested in them off to me.

Its like, you talk to me once every couple months sort of, you don't know me that well... is my singleness a pet project to you?

Yes, its annoying.

If one of my close friends has a suggestion, that'd probably constitute checking out. But that's about it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I HATE it.

It makes me feel they feel sorry for me or something. Plus, they end up introducing you to a guy who fits THEIR standards, not yours and they come and tell you "HE IS A GREAT GUY". Oh well...and if you don't like him, they would say "YOU MUST BE CRAZY".

People are crazy lol

iSkydive · Accepted Answer

Well, if they do it once or twice they are just trying to be nice and you should appreciate their generosity. But if you told them that you aren't interested and they STILL insist trying to hook you up, that /could/ just the height of arrogance and superiority on their part. Then it isn't really because they want to help you, but because they think they know better than you and they want to try to exercise the power they think they have over you.

Or, maybe they understand you said "no" but they don't believe that you are happy being single because you give off mixed signals. Try looking into that. I've known a few people that claimed to be happy single but all the "vibes" and signals they give off say otherwise and I know, or at least I am convinced, that they are truly unhappy and sometimes even desperate. The ways that happy single people act and speak are totally different from the ways that delusionally happy single people act.

BeerME · Accepted Answer

Yeah. It's especially annoying is when someone is constantly trying to get you into a relationship with anyone and everyone (and frequently gets mad at you for turning anyone and everyone down), then when you finally find someone you're interested in, they don't like her (or him). Seriously, I can't talk to a girl for five seconds without it being front page news among my female friends but the second I actually express any continuing interest in someone the claws start coming out.

Thus concludes my rant.

Anonymous · Answer

OMG I feel exactly the same way. I get offended because I feel like they are saying I'm not good enough to get someone on my own. But sometimes it's funny because the people trying to hook me up usually...have the worst relationships. so it's like "help yourself before you try to help me." Overall, I do love being single especially since I've seen the way many guys act (in my age group) and there aren't people I want to date. It does get a little lonely sometimes but it doesn't really bother me that I'm single. That's another reason I get annoyed because I barely complain about my love life, so it's like "why are my friends treating me like being single is a disease?" I do understand where there are coming from sometimes but I love the idea of natural chemistry... I don't want you to force chemistry because you feel "bad" for me.

myspacemybroke · Answer

Haha, yeah. It was a girl I had rather massive interest in (which she was perfectly aware of, and even prentended the same for a while), and she apparently tried to hook me up with one of her friends who had a crush on me... it really kind of pissed me off.

Anonymous · Answer

I wish it would happen as long as he/she didn't try to hook me up with someone they know I wouldn't get along with.

Example: My requirement for girls is that they either be in college and/or have a job. They have to be able to understand (and use) the proper forms of "there", "their", and "they're" (sorry but it just sounds ignorant if you don't know and use the proper version). And they have to have goals in life.

If a friend tried to hook me up with a girl with no job and no goals in life it would be VERY annoying.

MrWrong · Answer

Yes. Just because I have a degree in psychology doesn't mean I want to date an emotional trainwreck.

I'm content being single, and it certainly beats having a relationship with a lot of people. Certainly the clientele my family and friends keep sending my way.

GoodManDave · Answer

As long as they make decent choices, I have no problem with it. I figure I can use the opportunities to meet new people, at the very least.

And if it doesn't work out, I expect them to not keep bringing up the subject of why it didn't work, etc (quickly).

Tigerbaby994 · Answer

Honestly it's kind of insulting as in I can't do it on my own. My eleven-year-old cousin set me up once, imagine my embarrassment. It wasn't that I couldn't find a date, I just wasn't looking..but still. Of course she had really good taste so I won't be upset about it anytime in the future.

sportdistant · Answer

its cool only if they show me a picture first or I've seen them before and I like them, then I'm glad for the help

one of my friends had loads of hot girls and he was always willing to help me introduce them to me, or vice versa...

maybe that's different?

Brando · Answer

I don't have people trying to set me up, so I suppose I'm fortunate in that sense. But if people did, it would probably annoy me because they're either not respecting that I just want to be single at that point in time, or leading into another point- they don't feel that I can do it on my own and choose who I want to approach.

blufrenzy93 · Answer

I don't get annoyed...I just kindly refuse.

My last two -failed- relationships were the byproduct of my good girlfriend and her ex playing matchmaker. They had good intentions, but the guys turned out to be a-holes. She still tries to set me up here and there, but I've told her no so many times...lol

WoIIie · Answer

I have an Asian aunt who said she could find me some girls. I was obese and hideous at the time so now I wonder what kind of girls she was referring to...

Anonymous · Answer

No, I don't mind it as long as they aren't too pushy if I decide I am not interested. I think it is a nice gesture, and the person usually has good intentions. In fact I would not mind if my friends set me up with guys, I know my friends would only do it if they met a guy who they thought I would really like or something.

I get that it can be offensive though, maybe make you feel like your friends think you aren't capable on your own. But I don't think that is their intention.

Anonymous · Answer

I can't stand it.  If I really wanted a boyfriend I would have one.  Not being conceded but since I am friendly, approachable and outgoing and apparently attractive, there is no shortage of guys who like me and want to date me.  The only people who try to set me up are ones that are too insecure themselves to be single I don't know if it's true for everyone but with my friends that is the case.

Freetobe007 · Answer

Yes! I love being single! I get so irritated with that as well! It's like they think just because THEY feel they need a relationship to be happy and have fun, interesting things going on in their life, so do you!

tbirdy · Answer

Yes. I am very happy single. I spent most of my life in relationships and about a year in to being single, I got spoiled to it. I have no desire to be in a relationship. I've been single for 2 1/2 years and it is very irritating when people try to hook you up. What is even more annoying is when men that make advances and you state your position and they then assume you are attracted to them just because they are attracted to you. I don't know why some people are so lost unless they are latched on to someone. I'm not saying this is the case for everyone who wants to be in a relationship, just saying that some people can't grasp the concept that some people really enjoy a life with no relationship.

BCRanger10 · Answer

No.  I feel a bit more on the embarassed side, though :/

ManaX · Answer

No one's tried to do that to me for a while, but when it did happen most of the time we just came out as friends. It didn't annoy me really, I just took it as my friends giving me an opportunity to meet new people.

Phoenix52 · Answer

Yep. Same way. Whenever someone tries to 'hook me up' - it's usually a girl I have no physical attraction for. F*ck that noise.

62893 · Answer

yeah, my roommate keeps trying to do that with me and her guy friends. they seem great and all but I'm not looking for a boyfriend.

Kain6th · Answer

I would find it annoying, but I guess from their pov they just want to see you happier or something. Or maybe they feel like they wanna have dating partners so you can all go out together.

But yes I would be annoyed myself.

Snar87 · Answer

I had it happen before. We were mutually disgusted of each other. I'm a whack azz  nyockhha and she's a ghetto hoodrat.

heartmedic · Answer

I appreciate it, sometimes it work out great, sometimes it doesn't, but hey, it was fun in the short run.

JennSG · Answer

Yeah, it can be annoying. Sometimes I go on the date just to humor them. They usually have good intentions though.

ragshow · Answer

Only if it is my parents...  Makes me feel so useless...

Yeahhbro · Answer

I don't care it might be fun and it might end up on something good like sex or an actual relationship...you never know.

bDizzie · Answer

No, we're single, we obviously need all the help we can get.

Mr_Solo_Dolo · Answer

Yeah, It's not that I can do it myself I just don't like getting set up.

bibmichael1 · Answer

i wish some one would do that for me I am very shy I have no self confidens when it come to women

CarelessWhisper · Answer

Never had that happen. They always say I'd make a good boyfriend but other than that nothing. Mind I would find it a little weird

stevo2 · Answer

Yeah. It used to happen more often than not, but not so much anymore, thankfully.

Anonymous · Answer

yea it'd be awkward and I rather meet someone on my own

doctorwhofan23 · Answer

I actually would like it I need help meeting girls

James557 · Answer

Absolutely! My friends are always trying to set me up with their friends, and sometimes their siblings!

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah it's even worse when they keep asking why don't you have a gf? !

Anonymous · Answer

not really because I want to meet someone

13until5 · Answer

yes definitely want to move at my own pace!

Anonymous · Answer

Extremely.  You should see my story.

visual · Answer

YES

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