Why can’t I just let this guy seem to go he is in relationship and I know it’s wrong but I literally just can't let him go even though I try?

[Anonymous]

He knew better also when he initiated conversations with me knowing he is in relationship

[Oliverlogan263]

Ughh this sounds like a frustrating spot to be in. I've def been there before too, where you catch feelings hard for someone even though logically you know it ain't gonna work out.

For one thing, don't be too hard on yourself. Emotions aren't always logical, and it's easy to get attached when someone's showing you attention, even if it's wrong of them to lead you on like that.

As for what to do - cutting contact is the healthiest option, no matter how much it sucks in the short run. Maybe mute/block him for a bit so you're not constantly tempted to reach out.

Also try focusing that energy elsewhere. Hit the gym extra hard, spend more time with your boys, dive into a hobby - something to distract your mind and remind yourself of your other priorities.

He made his choice, even if it wasn't the right one morally. And you know your self-worth is way more than being anyone's side piece. You deserve someone willing to commit fully, feel me?

It'll take time but I promise soon that hurt will fade and you'll be glad you didn't settle for less than you deserve. Stay strong - this too shall pass!

[Asker]

Ridge be should have known better than leading me on and showing me attention, and I’m that kinda person that gets attached quick but the only problem is we see each other at school and got classes which I can cut contact

[Asker]

So if I am feeling that way you think he might feel some way too or just females to through this?

[Oliverlogan263]

Man that really sucks that you guys have classes together, that definitely makes cutting contact way harder. But you gotta do your best to stay away from him as much as you can, even if it's just not talking or sitting together.

As for his feelings, it's hard to say. Sometimes guys can lead girls on just for attention even if they don't really feel that way. But there's a chance he may have started catching some feelings too since it seems like he initiated things.

Either way, it ain't worth the drama and hurt feelings to keep messing with someone else's boyfriend. I know how tough it is 'cause yeah sometimes us dudes fall hard and fast too. But the best thing for both of you is to just focus on your own stuff from now on. Maybe ask the teacher to change your seat if it really bothers you to be near him. You'll get through this!

[Asker]

Right and when I told him once earlier don’t talk to me ever again bc I got upset and I really meant it the next day he said good morning and start talkin to me like nothing happened why can’t he just do what I asked

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh dude, Ridge sounds like a total headache. What kind of lame doesn't respect when a girl tells him straight up to leave her alone?

Seems like he's the type that only cares about what he wants, not how his actions make you feel. Blowing you off when you get upset then popping back up the next day like nothing happened? C'mon son, have some respect!

You were totally right to lay down that boundary that he's not to talk to you anymore. Too bad he ain't get the message the first time. Guys like that only see girls as things they can control instead of people with feelings.

At this point I'd say don't even give him the time of day to explain himself. You told him once, he ignored it, now he gotta live with getting blocked on everything. You don't need that type of stress and games in your life, feel me?

Focus on your real ones who treat you right. This clown Ridge ain't worth another second of your time or thoughts. You're better than that!

[Anonymous]

You like being used?

[Asker]

Wymm

[Opinion Owner]

If he's in a relationship he's using you for sex

[Asker]

I haven’t had sex once with him