The guy I like makes some derogatory remarks about women and I don’t like it but don’t want him to think I take myself too seriously.. help?

[Finfin1981]

Any good comebacks or ways to get him to back off

[AmandaYVR]

Tell him when he makes the comments, in the moment. Can't say what you should say in return because you gave no examples or details. But you'll figure something out. If you're really worried, start with a look on your face, an expression that shows sort of playful disapproval.

Next level might be to tease back, finding an equivalent for men. If you don't believe it, then laugh about it after, and say, "Just kidding, I take it back. Just thought you sure hear how it sounds".

What you shouldn't do is let it go on a while, and them get mad at him, and reference all the priors. He'll feel blindsided.

But you need to find out if he can be educated about how sexist he is sounding. And, honestly, you need to give him the opportunity for rebuttal. He may say you are being too sensitive. Because you could be being too sensitive. Many females are, and don't like being criticized at all. But you'll need to reconcile this eventually, because it's a constant friction point between the genders. Men feel they have to walk on eggshells around women. And some women are constantly offended, or looking to be offended, it seems. Find the happy medium between you, hash it out a bit, see if you can find any common ground. No point sticking around and wasting a bunch of time on someone who is too staunch on this.

If those aren't helpful to you, consider these techniques:

Charisma on Command gives great advice.

(Ignore the title, it's not good, but the info is.)

https://www.youtube.com/embed/BSXoI9MDvU0

[DreamCrescent]

you might regret this, though. a passive-aggressive response is “what do you mean”


i honestly wouldn’t bother making light of his chauvinism. it’s time to unlike him, i think, girlie
it’s tolerable for some time but the infatuation wears off and you have a misogynist on your hands who’s got tiny brains. not worth it

[NathanDavis]

if you already know he's a douchebag...

and you're still going after him... well...

[Zestyassmf1997]

Hmmm…I mean, unless they’re about you personally, I wouldn’t get too worked up over it.

[LadyKitty]

Well you make your voice heard that you don't like those remarks. If it makes you uncomfortable don't worry about him thinking you take yourself too serious otherwise you can make remarks about men and see how he reacts. Though I personally wouldn't go for a guy who already show signs he won't respect me.

[Jennz6]

If he’s a really good friend, just tell him how you feel.

[LazerBean]

Maybe just stop hanging around trash.

[laly520]

he gives a sexist vibe