Am I being sensitive to my boyfriend jokes about liking other women?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is a goofy guy who likes to joke a lot. He makes comments about other girls all the time about my friends and family members. Never has he ever complimented me and usually criticizes everything I do. At one point he saw my sister and told me she was prettier than me later said it was a joke. But he didn't tell me it was a joke until two days later when I brought it up. Then he asked if I had any cousins or sisters and were they pretty NOT were they pretty as me. I don't want to have a talk about it cause usually when I get offended by what he does he tells me I have insecurities. We already talked about this and he usually tells me that he does it unintentionally, is just someone who likes to joke and that I have insecurities + self esteem issues from men in my past. My ex-boyfriend wasn't a good person and a cheater but he NEVER talked down on me OR made me feel less to any other women. I don't know if I'm overreacting or if this is him.

[Summeroflove]

You know. If you feel uncomfortable tell him. Have a boundary. Don’t be ugly the first time. But if someone keeps doing something they know you don’t like.


It’s like if you’re doing something that bothers him. You would want him to tell you. Not be angry and you never know the reason until there is a blow up.


He might be innocent enough. He just does not know how he makes you feel. He can’t read your mind either.

[FilmGuy93]

You aren't overreacting at all. Those comments aren't jokes.