What’s going on?

[Anonymous]

So me and this guy have been talking for nearly two months and we have been texting each other everyday and we call for 6-8 hrs each week. So today, the convo was flowing per usual and then he switched up on text and he started replying with ight and I asked him what he got from the fast food restaurant and he goes I got food. I gave him back the same energy replying with ok to all of his msgs and said message me when you want to talk to me properly. I don’t know what happened because we was talking from this morning and he was sending longer text messages and now he isn’t. Is he in some kind of mood and how do I approach it if they don’t really talk about their feelings.

[Anonymous]

All that “matching his energy”, doing what he does etc etc is so toxic and avoidant. After 2-3 months that man knows whether or not he wants to be with you, so put your big girl pants on and ask. Also the conversation should be leaving the texts and phone calls by now, instead having actual dates, hanging out, etc.

[Asker]

He has mentioned a few times about wanting to go to different places with me as a date or to hang out but he lives in a different city.

[Opinion Owner]

After talking for 2 months, if you’re not even able to go on dates because of the distance, is this really something you want to sign up for? This type of dynamic isn’t made for everyone, and he just may be showing signs of that. Not trying to be bleak, just realistic as someone who has done LDRs.

[Asker]

It’s fine thank you for the advice but what is the best thing to ask him in my current situation as I am so confused

[Opinion Owner]

I’d be very proactive and ask him how doable the distance is for him. Despite liking each other, you have to be very honest about how on board you both are. I also think there has to be a silver lining, like does one intend to move closer to the other at some point? By that I don’t mean rushing things along, but just knowing that the space is short term. Otherwise things become bleak when you aren’t able to hang out and make memories. You run out of topics, long for spending time together and ultimately can become depressed by missing the person. So if you can clarify those two things sooner rather than later (if the distance is doable and if the space is a short-term arrangement) you can spare yourself a lot of wasted time.

[Tharithi]

Did u establish what exactly is going on between u both , friendship or something more

[Asker]

We both said we wanted something more

[Tharithi]

He’s a wuss leave him. A real man would be on his knees with a proposal taking u out. Not telling he wants something more

[spartan55]

This is a perfect example of why texting sucks. Have you met this person irl? If not, why not?

[Keith469]

Ask him WTF is going on with you all of a sudden.

[Roudyrebel8]

Sounds a bit moody

[Anonymous]

He sounds moody.