Why did my friend mention to me that he’s got a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

When he was saying he and his mate are worried that my ex friend might get fixated on either of them; and I was putting lots of effort into giving them advice? Do men commonly misinterpret friendliness as romantic interest?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, I don't know girl - dudes can be kind of clueless sometimes! A couple thoughts on why your friend brought up having a girlfriend:

- He might've thought you were into him since you were giving him so much advice and attention. We don't always pick up on subtle clues.

- Mentioning his girlfriend was probably just his weird way of making it clear he's taken, in case your ex friend thought something was going on between you two.

- It's possible he's self-conscious and wanted to impress you by bringing up his girl. Dudes do dumb stuff to get your attention sometimes.

- He may have just been oversharing details without realizing how it came across mentioning his relationship out of the blue like that. We can talk without thinking!

I wouldn't stress too much about it. Guys can misread friendliness since you girls are just nicer than us. Unless he starts acting all flirty or something, he was probably just making conversation without meaning anything by it. You know your friend better than me - just go with your gut! Hope this helps give some perspective!

[teamvic]

Oh yeah thats very common. Remember it's generally a guy who has to initiate

So when it's a girl being friendly, two things can happen. Let's say she really is flirting, they could be completely oblivious to it even happening. Or they could mistake the girl being nice as flirting because they aren't aware of the signs girls do to show flirting. Remember a lot of girls by default are very secretive about throwing hints about liking a guy so guys get left to have to wonder if they're flirting or not.

Also let's say it's a guy who is use to seeing rejection from girls. Well they definitely know how girls react when they're not interested so when I girl is being nice. Well the forsure know that's not rejecting so they start to assume

[Asker]

That makes sense. Both men have hit on me in the past, but the one saying he has a girlfriend, only hit on me out of desperation.

[teamvic]

Wow that's sad

But they're not completely crazy thinking they could pull you. I mean you ever heard that old saying, men and women can't be JUST friends?

Well that could've been where they're getting that from. Perhaps they thought because you were being their friends that it was because you were into them. Or it could be that they were comfortable with you they could get away with it.

They don't really say it but most times it's because it's the guy who can't just be friends with the girl. But what do I know

[Anonymous]

He thinks you're into him?