The guy I’m talking to has a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

10 days ago I met this guy on a church trip. He seemed like a nice and decent guy so we exchanged numbers. We texted and he called me a few times after we got home from the trip. We also kinda made plans to see each other soon. But a few days ago I was stalking his social media and I’m 99% sure I found out he has a girlfriend. Well, is it too bad that I wish I wouldn’t have stalked him so I never found out? He really seemed like a sweet guy to me on that trip and I wanted to go on a date with him tbh. But it seems like him and his girlfriend have been in a relationship over 3 years. The crazy part even after I found out I still want to meet him. And no, I’m no home wrecker. To be honest I don’t know what I should do if he calls or texts me anytime soon. Ignore him? Just play along and call him out eventually? Tell his girlfriend? I mean it’s not like he confessed his love for me, but to me what he’s doing is definitely cheating. I’m really confused. Why am I still interested in him though? What would you do if you were me?

[8UniquelyBoring8]

It can be natural to feel conflicted and confused in the situation you're currently in. However, it's important to recognize the potential consequences and complications that may arise if you pursue a relationship with this guy knowing he has a girlfriend. It's important to respect other people's relationships and avoid causing harm to anyone involved.


If he contacts you, it may be best to be honest and direct with him about what you have discovered. Let him know that you were interested in him, but upon finding out about his relationship status, you don't feel comfortable pursuing anything further. You could also suggest that he takes the time to think about what he really wants and to make a choice that won't hurt anyone involved.


As for why you might still be interested in him, it could be due to the initial attraction you felt towards him and the positive interactions you had during the church trip. It's important to recognize that those feelings are valid, but that it's important to handle them in an ethical and respectful way.

[Asker]

Thank you so much, you are definitely right. I’m not the type of girl who breaks peoples relationships and I don’t want to be his secret side piece or affair. I don’t know yet if I’ll just ignore him or tell him I know he has a girlfriend. I mean since I found out by stalking him I don’t want to be pathetic. Also I’m kinda afraid that when I tell him, he’ll turn things around and act like he just wanted to be friends with me. But I’ll figure it out!

[LostandFound__x]

I would just say does your girlfriend know about me? And end it. I'm sorry girl but how you get them is how you will lose them.

[Asker]

You’re definitely right, what upsets me is just that he seemed so nice and sweet ugh

[LostandFound__x]

I know... they always know how to charm you

[integrale77]

My fiancé's Facebook is seriously out of date still showing her with her ex but that's because she doesn't use it for much more than marketplace and messenger.
This guy might not be using his social media I'd ask him if your his bit on the side or if he just is lapse in updating stuff?

Oh don't tell him your stalking him say you couldn't keep him out your head so you had to have a look learn some more about him.

[In_Trance]

I don't know what you're even doing

[Asker]

What do you mean