Should I move on?

[Anonymous]

I have developed feelings for this guy, but he often behaves in a childish and rude manner towards me. Typically, I am attracted to kind individuals, but lately, he has been showing a more considerate side. Despite this, I don't find him physically attractive, and I'm confused as to why I have developed feelings for him. I'm also unsure about how to move on from this situation, especially since we attend the same school and it's challenging to avoid him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah dude, that's a tough one. On the one hand, sounds like he's been treating you kind of crappy sometimes, and you're just not that into his looks. Those are both yellow flags for sure.

But I get it too - sometimes people surprise you and show another side. And feelings are confusing, they don't always make sense.

If it was me, I'd try distancing myself a bit to get some perspective. Hang with your other friends more so you're not always around him. Might help your brain reset on how you really see him.

Don't cut him off totally though. Keep it chill if you run into each other. But don't go seeking him out or always being available either. May be he steps up his game and treats you better when he's not getting so much of your attention.

Also think about what you really want in a dude. Looks aren't everything, but attraction does matter too. If deep down you know it'd never work, best to shut it down before it gets more complicated.

Feelings this confusing are never fun. Just do you for now and see how you feel in a few weeks. No need to stress or force anything. You got this luv!

[Asker]

He refer to women as bitches. I can’t tell if he was trying to be cool.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, yeah any guy who refers to women as bitches is definitely not worth your time or feelings. That's just straight up disrespectful.

Even if he was "trying to be cool", that's a big red flag. It means he doesn't really value women or see them as equals. And behavior like that usually doesn't change - it'll only get worse over time.

Calling women derogatory names is never okay. You deserve way better than some dude who talks trash about females. Anyone who uses language like that isn't mature or considerate partner material.

At this point I'd definitely say move on. Don't waste your time trying to decode his intentions - his words showed you loud and clear who he is. Focus on the guys who treat all people, including girls, with kindness and respect. You'll be much happier in the long run.

[RavVid]

Strangely a lot of women are attracted to arrogant guys

[Asker]

I wouldn't say he’s arrogant he’s more weird, goofy, silly, and somewhat crazy.

[RavVid]

silly and crazy won't do you any good. So yeah move on.

[Asker]

Thanks

[2_beHappy]

If he is rude to you, then he doesn t deserve you. If he liked you back , he would ve behaved more nicely. Just move on.

[2_beHappy]

Thanks for the MHO!

[Anonymous]

Feelings develop regardless of what our active minds are thinking. One day you have a mild crush, and then boom, your are obsessed by one girl for mo known concrete reason.

[AngryCarl]

Aw, he awakened your maternal instincts. Move on, one day you can have kids of your own.

[Anonymous]

YES!!!

[Asker]

Thanks