Why would a guy orbit you but not speak to you?

[Anonymous]

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I discovered that he’s a professional dater and probably an escort as well, for a living.

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+1 y

Lost wicket. Better luck next time 😊

[Anonymous]

He may be shy, but honestly, the way women and girls act nowadays with absurd political views, unequal views on males and females, seeing videos of guys getting scolded online for minding his business working out at the gym and a female is recording her workout only to call him, calling him weird, creepy or other sexist comments, those are usually the main reasons why guys don't want to approach women. Guys have this notion in the back of their mind either a) im not her type, b) she's going to reject me, c) she's probably someone who is going to play games, d) she's taken and I don't want to be in some physical altercation with another dude. Some girls and women love drama, it excites them, a humble/down to earth guy who keeps to himself, works hard at his job, or does well in school, treats his family right doesn't want that nonsense. Unfortunately, a lot of so called "women" are still stuck in child mode where they haven't grown up themselves.

[Asker]

Fair comment. If you’re the guy I called creepy and weird and you’ve come to answer my question, you were acting creepy and weird when I knew you. I can’t just automatically know your intentions when you weren’t approaching me like most men would. I personally hate drama. That’s why I get so annoyed by the people in our community sometimes. Acting like they’re fifteen year olds. Fair comment though, you’re implying you’re the guy I’m talking about and giving me your answer. Shyness and fear of being considered creepy and weird again?

[Asker]

I think that a lot of men and women are less mature these days and it’s getting worse, because of social isolation.

[Asker]

Had you just approached me about this earlier and made your interest clearer, from the start, then I would’ve been interested. You can’t get much more obvious than I was being, at the time. I’m sorry for hurting your feelings. I was trying to draw boundaries.

[Opinion Owner]

Personally for me, ill just be blunt. Im a guy in my 30s. I realized looking back in my 20s of girls who were interested in me but I never pursued it which I should have, I don't mean in a have sex/fling way, I mean I should have pursued a girl who showed interest where I could see them as a potential partner and get married down the road, that was my fault due to a lack of confidence and shyness. Today, problem is, I genuinely want to be a good dude and I don't like to assume the worst of women but I have wasted so much time on girls who flake, girls who have absurd expectations, girls who aren't appreciative, girls who are stubborn/argumentative and disrespectful and curse by call themselves God-fearing. I'm tired of it, pursuing women for me is like a gruelling part time job. I try my best to listen to what she's saying, to be patient, to be understanding, to be a gentleman and commit acts of chivalry. I'm not looking for sex right away, I'm still a guy who's a virgin in his 30s. It's crazy I see guys on here saying OMG I don't have a girlfriend and Im still a virgin and he's only 20 its like relax dude. I know girls and women fear -- he is a psycho, what if he stalks me if i break up with him, what if he has really weird fetishes, what if he's an abuser, what if he's not who he says he is, etc. Thing is, I personally think girls and women overthink. If I sat here overthinking every girl who hurt me, my assumption of you as a female is you're just like other girls who have hurt me. But I dont think that way because I don't know you. But slowly, I admit, my main concern with women and dating is -- either a) she's taken, b) im not her type (not tall enough, not muscular enough) or c) too good to be true, she's probably going to toy with my feelings, do a silent ghost or tell me off one day where she blocks me. I admit I have pondered many nights, am i going to find a young woman to marry one day.

[Asker]

Not with constant overthinking and assuming the worst about every woman that notices you, you won’t. Anyway, suppose you are an escort and professional dater, it’s none of my business. I won’t say a word to any of the people in our community. I promise. It’s not my story to tell. Besides that, some of my friends have been prostitutes. I won’t name them or describe them. I never judged them. It’s not for me to judge. All I thought was I wished I could help them, so they weren’t stuck doing that. But I couldn’t, so they were just my friends.

[Asker]

I think assuming you want a relationship with a woman, that maybe you just attract so many women by being handsome, that a percentage of them are bound to be unstable. How do you avoid that? Don’t go for a type. Go for people. Ideally, someone who you’ve built a friendship with. I find the rule of thumb for me, because I’ve met lots of unstable men, is to either pick a guy who’s already a friend, or pick someone who isn’t handsome, but cute, for a relationship, if he’s a good man. Many men can’t handle their beauty like women can (I’m not saying everyone).

[Opinion Owner]

If I was an escort and did some next level shit, I get the feeling the girl I was toying with would kick me in the balls 🥴

[Asker]

Fair enough. Well, I talk a lot but I’m saying you can trust that there are secrets real dirt that I know about everyone in our friend groups that I’ve never revealed to anyone. I know when to keep my mouth shut.

[Asker]

I saw a movie where a scary woman said that obedience is the biggest sign of love lol. I think it was Murdoch Mysteries. She got him in headlocks a lot, her husband. I do know scary women exist. I’ve been hit on by scary lesbian types. Usually get the girly ones, wanting me to be the man in their relationships (I’m not gay, it just happens sometimes).

[Asker]

I wasn’t trying to find out stuff…the harder you try to mind your own business, the more dirt you find yourself knowing about people.

[Asker]

Anyway, do you sort if get what I’m suggesting? Try one of your current female friends or don’t go for a type, if you’re looking to settle down with someone? If you’ve known her for years and she’s hanging out with you, she likes you and isn’t after your looks or money.

[Asker]

Katy Perry’s Hot n Cold and Arianna Grande’s Into You are appropriate songs and film clips for virgin guys and experienced women. I’m not mocking you, just explaining. I felt like both of these songs when we knew each other.

[Opinion Owner]

Why dont i just add you and you can chat through DMs on here

[Asker]

Ok if you want. What’s yours?

[Asker]

So, you are the same man, to whom I was referring in my question? Is that correct?

[Asker]

I’m going out with friends in a few hours, so I’ll probably be back tomorrow.

[Opinion Owner]

No, lol, I’m sorry to burst your bubble I’m not the same guy you are referring to.

[Asker]

I’d be happy to chat anyway

[Asker]

What’s your profile name?

[Asker]

You didn’t disappoint me. I wasn’t sure if I should add him if it was the same man. He’s done some weird stuff.

[Opinion Owner]

pass_the_celery98

[Asker]

I just sent a friend request

[Asker]

That was me messaging you…

[FunkyMonkee]

He likes you a lot but is too shy to say anything. If you like him, go sit next to him and talk with him.

[Asker]

I can’t really sit with him. We haven’t spoken in person for three years.

[Asker]

He has disabled his ability to send or receive messages.

[FunkyMonkee]

Kind of a long time to wait, isn't it?

[Asker]

Yeah I’d have thought so.

[FunkyMonkee]

If I made a girl wait even a few days, she'd be on some other guy's arm in a heartbeat!!

[Asker]

I waited a few months, then started looking at other guys, with him in the back of my mind

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Like a moth to a flame or a vampire to a neck he’s a lion looking for his next meal.

[coachTanthony]

he's a pussy that is why

[Lonelydudewantsagirl]

I had a crush on this girl who was in the same building I worked in. There was a bit of orbiting until I asked for her number and I was getting flirty vibes from her. When I told her about my feelings she told me she had a boyfriend and didn’t want anything romantic so that was out of the way. Second girl I get her WhatsApp and tell her about my feelings. She said she only wanted to be friends and didn’t want anything romantic even though she was single. Alright she’s out of the way too. Now what? Why continue the cycle again? If I’m in a woman’s space and I like her I just find it really hard to make conversation now since I know she doesn’t feel anything for me.

[Asker]

Look, I’d say, keep trying. There is such a thing as having random bad luck. Meet women at meetup groups, church groups, dating sites and through mutual friends.

[Asker]

You’re not this guy I was referring to, right?

[Lonelydudewantsagirl]

No haha if you are talking about a professional dater or an escort the guy would have probably been a near perfect 10 in looks. I guess that is the standard for what a man has to be these days to have a happy romantic life.

[rigmarole]

You're the size of a planet and the gravitational force is too strong to escape without rocket boosters. Slow down on the Krispy Kreme...

[Asker]

Lol! I’m actually not fat anymore, but I was, so maybe that’s it.

[Radiate143]

Well if he hoes for a living, that would make him fearful of trying to be in a real relationship.

Gross men who don't really value women or have a bunch of issues wouldn't mind their girl renting out their 😼.

I think most women wouldn't want their man hoeing unless they were also doing it.

[Novacane]

He is probably trying to build up the confidence to talk to you or simply put, trying to find something to talk to you about, kind of like waiting for the the right situation and timing it.

[McLlovin]

Smile and wink. You all really dont know the power you have.

[Asker]

What power? It’s not like he said anything.

[McLlovin]

🤦🏽‍♂️

[McLlovin]

All you have to do is smile and wink. Of course you could do something else, but if you’re feeling lazy😄 then thats all you need to do to reel him in. Flirt.

[Asker]

@YouSloppyLady you’re out of line.

[abc3643]

He's 200 miles above you going once around the Earth about every 90 minutes and his communication system is out.

[Joshydavid25]

He has a big ol crush on you, but is too shy to let you know..

[Joshydavid25]

Damn, that was a twist I didn't expect.. Lmao.. Well true enough better luck nextdoor time..

[Anonymous]

Why don't you start the interaction or you can't do it because you're a woman

[Asker]

I tried many times

[molonski2]

After the update , just book him for 3 hours and have a try... I remember this Giggilo this ex tenant of mine used to book , met him after in a club.. " Said , how could you do her? " , He said , I was lucky , she only wanted company.. Ohh , she was horrid , but he looked incredible.

[Asker]

I don’t pay for sex. It just repulses me, somehow.

[Asker]

I’m not horrid by the way. I’m beautiful. Just not like that.

[molonski2]

Ohh , I was not saying that at all. Was just telling my story..

BUT , interesting enough , this Gigillo and I became friends , and some of the women he slept with were incredible beauties , they did so for all differing reasons.

I was just having a joke about booking him hahahaha - Sorry , my humour.

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like you. Men are simple it's not rocket science

[litty736]

Perhaps he's shy. Doesn't know what to say and let's his mere presence do the talking

[Alex-Snow]

He may be nervous or shy

[Asker]

He’s got his ability to send and receive messages as disabled.

[Asker]

Oh turns out he’s a professional dater.

[Anonymous]

Orbit?

What does that mean?

[Asker]

Check out your dating profile but have his ability to receive messages disabled.

[Iron_Man]

Not serious, traitor,

[Asker]

Err I don’t really understand.

[Iron_Man]

Phony bologna character

[SunnyRS]

Maybe he is too shy to express his feelings.

[SunnyRS]

Professional dater?
Is that a thing?

[Asker]

Yeah it is. I met someone who said they are.

[SunnyRS]

What do they do exactly?

[Asker]

They promote the dating site. They put the really hot guys on there and make you unable to message them but hope they’ll add you.

[SunnyRS]

That's wrong

[WhitneySnow]

He’s shy

Updates: Damn! Sorry girl 😢

[Ms_Facesitter]

He could be shy

[Anonymous]

He probably is shy.

[Keith469]

Fear, insecurity, awkwardness, psychosis.

[MrZameer]

Wdym orbit you?

[Asker]

Check out your dating profile, but have his ability to receive messages disabled

[MrZameer]

🤔🤔🤔🤔

[MrZameer]

Lmao 🤣
I can't understand it 😞😞😞

[Asker]

Me neither

[MrZameer]

Hahaha

[whistlingwh0res]

If you show your skin they will swamp you

[whistlingwh0res]

They want your body

[Jmmmfi4]

NERVOUS

[Anonymous]

Probably can’t get up the nerve to talk to you

[Anonymous]

He likes you, but he's too shy to talk to you.

[sheikalana]

Orbit?

[VabAmy]

Bc he's sketchy af?

[Danny_dan92]

Orbit you?