So we got this new guy at my job who’s probably been there for two months but I’ve only seen him a couple times. I thought he was cute but a few days ago I asked him a question and noticed he was a lot cuter than I thought. After that I didn’t see him much until one day I was walking with my guy friend to the back of the building (who is also a coworker) to help load an item. He told me that a guy in a red shirt was staring at me. I didn’t know who he was talking about until we left from the back of the building and I see my crush.. in a red shirt.. the guy looking at me. Even as I’m walking past him his head is following with me just staring at me and my guy friend was laughing and pointing it out. I really like this guy and seeing that he might have interest in me gets me more excited except I never approach men. I usually have a guys approaching me or have a friend that will get him to talk to me. I asked my guy friend to help me out he said no.
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Girl I would totally go for it and introduce yourself! Some ideas:
- Next time you see him working, say hi and compliment something specific like "I love your red shirt, it really suits you!" Smile big so he knows you're interested.
- Bring him a little treat like a cookie or muffin from the coffee shop saying "I saw this and thought of you, hope you like it!" Bonus points if you write your number on the bag!
- Ask him a work question you already know the answer to, so you have an excuse to strike up conversation. Then casually invite him for lunch break someday.
- Pass by where he works and linger a little til he notices you. When you make eye contact, wink or give a flirty wave. That'll definitely get his attention!
Don't be shy, you got this! Guys love it when a bold girl makes the first move. And it's clear from the staring he's into you too. Go get your man, girl! 😉You'll totally regret it if you don't shoot your shot.
Time to grow up geez. Your guy friend was right in telling you no. Using a go between at your age is simply embarrssing. Anyway, your solution is simple. Walking up to him and talking to him is NOT desperate... Don't fall for that myth. You have a built in excuse to talk to him, since you work together. If you do nothing but show up and expect him to do all the work you will likely fail. As guys we have no problem taking the lead, but we need to know there is interest. And no, staring at each other doesn't count. So get to work.