Dating this guy just for a few weeks; we have great chemistry and have hung out quite a bit; have also slept together already a few times and that was amazing too. I'm an attractive woman and get hit on a lot; the two times I told him about it he was very strange. For context, I only told him in conversation of 'how was your day, oh I got hit on haha, im not interested' - however both times he said "hey, date whoever you want, im no one to stop you! go ahead please you can date anyone you want!" I thought this was a bit strange response - and today (V day) he canceled on our date kinda last minute. What are your thoughts on what his "date whoever you want" comments mean? Guys would you say that to a girl you actually like?
I would not say that to a woman I was taking seriously as a romantic prospect, no. The next question I have is why you would tell him something like that so early in your relationship with him?
A statement like that has one of two meanings: Either he doesn't want you to date around, but thinks you're testing him by telling him when you get hit on and he doesn't want to seem controlling or jealous. OR He genuinely doesn't care about you dating around because he doesn't see you as a serious longer term partner.
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He probably wasn't a fan of it. I'd personally wouldn't be a fan of it. It's also possible. He's like we're not official, Do what you want. Lots of people will date multiple people before they become an official couple. Personally I never would. If I'm seeing you, I'm seeing you. I don't think I would ignore you for comments like that, but you probably made him jealous and maybe he felt like you were telling you had more options
Oh gosh, that guy is just so very sly, isn't he? He tells me to "date whoever I want," and I'm sure he actually means, "Date any man you want, but Trump is the only one for me, my one true love." Silly me, I should have known that all along! It's just his sneaky way of saying that I can have my pick of men, and Trump trumps them all. 😂
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Your need to point out you were hit on is very off putting. Hell you pointed it out twice in your post. Guys don't appreciate a lack of humility.
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He doesn't want you to feel obligated to date him exclusively because he wants to feel free to date other women without feeling guilty about it.
It makes it sound like you are purposely trying to make him jealous. This isn't appreciated.
No I wouldn’t say that to a woman I liked
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