We haven’t talked in two days but he still views my profile. Why?

[Anonymous]

Some background…

He is 28 and has a past of being a player and somewhat promiscuous. He met me and he admitted to it but says he wants to change 😂🤷🏻‍♀️. Anyway, we became really close…told each other everything and I always looked out for him. If he got sick…. i would recommend clinics, home remedies and look up nearby pharmacies and suggested food medicines for him. I listened to him vent about his sadness in regards to his father’s death.

He claims to like me but I never felt it. I’m turning 24 soon and the thing about me is that…. i love hard and show it too but I expect it back or else I feel like they don’t care about me. Every time I asked him what he thought about me he’d say he liked me and wanted to see what the future holds for us. Then there were times where we would argue and I’d pull away but he’d act indifferent but would look for me again the next day.

recently his mother was supposed to go visit him and I’m guessing she might be there with him now…not sure. Anyway, it’s been two days and he hasn’t messaged me. The last message I received was “ 👍🏻 “ in response to me telling him “don’t pretend to care”. Since then, he hasn’t messaged me but he views my profile every morning and every night right around the time he goes to sleep.

What’s going on?

[teamvic]

Well first off you fucked up falling for a guy who is a player, not even a past player, homeboy said he's TRYING to change like bro. He could've at least lied and said he don't do that anymore🤔😂 that's red flag number one

It sounds like he does like you but does he like you for a relationship? That's a little iffy. He said he wants to see what the future has in store for you guys tomorrow whatever. That literally, to me, means. "We'll see, but for now let's keep talking" BRO doesn't that look like he's adding you to his roster😆

I mean perhaps I'm wrong but to me as a guy I feel like you know if you want a relationship with a girl or if you just want to keep her there as a back up or something else

Am I saying he's using you or playing you, not necessarily. He could definitely care about yo ass. But unless he gets that relationship going with you. I wouldn't keep your hopes up. Also even if he did ask you out. Could you sit there and tell me with a straight face that you'd trust that he would never cheat on you🤔😐

Also for the last part it sounds like he's a bit mad at you because you told him don't pretend to care. Like not furious more of like he's not trying to deal with that right now

I'm not saying he doesn't give a shit about you, cause it sounds like he could very well. But it doesn't sound he's necessarily in a rush to be with you either you know what I mean

I HOPE for your sake y'all haven't been fucking

Cause if so, ooooooooooooo ain't looking too good for you buddy

[teamvic]

Or* I don't know how the word tomorrow got there

[Asker]

I agree with you 100%

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he may be unsure about his feelings or is conflicted about commitment due to his past. His actions indicate he's still interested or curious about you, but he might be unsure how to express it or hesitant to fully commit. It's essential to communicate openly with him about your feelings and expectations to understand where he stands and if this relationship aligns with your needs. If he's unable to meet your needs or provide clarity, it might be worth reevaluating the relationship's viability for your emotional well-being.

[Asker]

What if I just pull away completely and just forget him? I ask because I’m not going to reach out to him. I feel like I’ve given everything for someone that just doesn’t care for me.

[Opinion Owner]

It's completely understandable to want to prioritize your own well-being and step away from a situation that doesn't feel fulfilling or reciprocal. If you feel like you've given a lot without receiving the same level of care or commitment in return, it might be a sign that this relationship isn't healthy for you. Taking time to focus on yourself and your own happiness is important. Trust your instincts and do what feels right for you, even if it means letting go and moving on from this relationship. You deserve to be with someone who values and respects you fully.

[kylee2437]

Why? Because he knows that you will still answer him regardless of how long it takes for him to get back to you. 28 years old and playing those kinds of games shows the kind of maturity level he is at.

[Kathy101]

Girl wait what profile are you talking about and how do you know he views it? 😭

[spartan55]

First of all, who is this guy? Boyfriend? Hookup? Friend? How long have you been together? Sounds like you have succeeded in driving him away with the constant questioning of his feelings about you and your relationship. But it's hard to give an opinion with the limited info given.

[kylee2437]

Ehhh I wouldn’t blame her for that. He pulled away because he’s tired of being questioned about his shady behaviors.

[spartan55]

@kylee2437
Fair enough, I'm trying to get a better picture of what OPs situation is with this guy..

[kylee2437]

@spartan55 I agree. From girl perspective, I personally think he knows he can pick and choose her on certain days , so he’s continuing to do that and continuing to cause confusion in this girls life. Two days of no response but looking at what someone posts is super shady and childish especially coming from a grown man

[spartan55]

@kylee2437
Something tells me he has been this way all along though and she thought she could change him. Hard to say though.

[kylee2437]

Possibly so. The false hope words with lack luster actions are super immature.