Was SA'd as a child continuously by the same guy for a while and still get triggered. Should I tell a potential spouse?

[Anonymous]

[Lliam]

Definitely. He wouldn't be a good spouse if you couldn't confide in him and if he wouldn't be compassionate, empathetic and understanding.

When I was 36 I asked a woman out who I discovered was 30. Long story short, we wound up living together for well over a year. She was the first woman, of all my girlfriends, who I fell deeply in love with. And she loved me.

She was hypersexual and orgasmic, but I loved and admired everything else about her.

She confided early in our relationship that her step father had sexually molested her for almost 10 years, from a very young age until she reached puberty.

It had messed her up emotionally. She had become an alcoholic in her teens.

By the time I met her, she had been in therapy for years, licked alcohol, gained a career, supported herself, and was determined to have a normal life. She was an extraordinary woman - very bright, plucky, hard working, kind, tender, honest and monogamous.

[Summeroflove]

I think if things are that serious. Yes you should tell him about what happened to you. It’s not something you need to bring up on the first date. But if things are getting to the point where talks of marriage are happening. I think it may be important to share

[BCRanger10]

Yes. Not on the first date obviously, but it should be discussed after you've developed a deeper bond and start becoming more vulnerable with each other.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yeah especially since it's an ongoing trigger. And please get help.

[Sorobor]

God please, i got a friend who got a girlfriend that didn't tell him, to this day she accuses him of SA because she had a panic attack during sex. Please tell your future partners.

[Worst]

Yeah you should, that's something I would want to know

[Anonymous]

Yes, if you're lucky he might put the prick in the ground

[Agape93]

Yes.

[Drumlin2001]

Yes.

[Kykiono1]

Yes please