He’s worried about how I’m dressed but he’s not ready for a relationship…. Is he just negging?

[Anonymous]

He kind of tried to throw an insult but why is he concerned if he’s not ready for anything

[Anonymous]

It’s possible that he likes you but dressing the way you do is turning him off. It may not be what he wants in a girlfriend as far as how she dresses, but other things about you may be what he wants. So that may be what’s holding him back from committing to you.

[Asker]

Mmm I don't know

I didn’t appreciate him saying “ does your father know you have those pics up” it sounded like a put down/ insult

He’s never mentioned it before why now…. And I want to wait for sex and he doesn’t…

Why would I have sex with someone who doesn’t want a relationship or isn’t sure about it…

What was the point of our date

[Alex-Snow]

It is your body and your life until you are in a real relationship he has no business telling you what to do. Does he think you dress to conservatively or too exposed?

[Asker]

Oh I’m revealing but I’m confused on why he would even comment on it when 1 . He met me this way and 2. He said he wasn’t ready for a relationship lol

So just wondering

[Alex-Snow]

Sounds like a double standard to me. Are u sure you want to have a relationship with him? Are you sexually involved with him?

[Asker]

Hell no. I’m not with him.

[Alex-Snow]

Good for u.

[Asker]

I’m just still hurt about it

I thought maybe he said that because he did like me. I thought he just wanted me to dress like that for him

[Alex-Snow]

I'm sure he liked how u dress and probably thought about u when he masturbated... but it is his loss

[Asker]

Oh I know… I just thought he was being possessive

[Alex-Snow]

Well hang in there and take care of your own sexual needs until the right guy enters ur life!

[jahaims]

He likes you still duh.

[Asker]

Well this was on a date…

He said he’s not where he wants to be career wise but he kind of said “would your father approve those pics”