How are you not scared that your SO could leave you?

[Anonymous]

I've talked to 7 ish guys last year I live in the middle of no where. these were guys long distance. I'm talking to a new guy for 3 months and i really really like him but i know now that he could leave me like all the other 7 guys. I'm trying to not think about that and still love him fully. It's better to love all than to give it half heartedly in fear of being hurt. But like sometimes i think about him leaving at least couple times a day and break down crying or if he didn't reply for some time I'm like oh he might be fucking someone else. : ( I just have PTSD I don't know how to stop it

[laly520]

I won't feel scared cuz I'm realistic
I do have the thought of em leaving since day one
its how it has to be, considering all possibilities
to be mentally prepared for any outrun

[Anonymous]

You’re too focused on having a man and maintaining their love. Already lovesick within 3 months is so fast.

[Asker]

: ( ur right that is fast

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not sure what will happen with this relationship but if it doesn’t work, then you should really be done speaking with men online. At least a good long break. I feel like you’ve got an anxious attachment style, and LDRs are sooo triggering for that. Mainly because if there’s no plans in place to live closer to one another or see each other soon, the distance will eat you up. Then you start running out of topics and stuff because you’re not able to see each other and create memories. That’s when you’ll really think he’s losing interest and completely spiral, as if what’s happening in your mind right now isn’t bad enough. I know it’s hard finding men IRL if you’re in a small town or introverted, but dealing with them online could be so much worse than being single.

[Asker]

yeah in a super small town we are dating even yet but he made me aware he isn't talking to anyone else and hasn't since December. ur right i do have anxious attachment prob

[KrakenAttackin]

Welcome to a man's world. How quickly can you replace a man? Answer: a hell of a lot faster than an average guy can replace you.

[Asker]

i only ended 1 out of 7 of those guys relationships : ( talked to a million guys too but like guys want to talk to me but they dont stay

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker..."Talked to a million guys".. THIS is the problems, you are chasing Chad Thundercock.

[Asker]

wdym?

[Asker]

only got into a situationship relationship with the 7 like talked to over a month if that makes sense

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... No, it sounds like chaos.

[Asker]

yeah i went through shit last year after my ex broke up with me : (

[Asker]

just looking for love and finding it in the wrong guys. they want to mess around I'm sexy asf but none of them want to stay

[Asker]

now feel like I've gone psychotic bc I'm scared there's something I'm lacking or messing up so like I'm walking on egg shells making sure I'm doing the right things for this guy.

[KrakenAttackin]

Slow down. Take a breath. Perhaps limit taking to one or two guys at a time. Seek actual compatibility not just sexual attraction.

[Asker]

I only am talking ot him

[slatyb]

There's no indication that she's attracted to anyone else attractive attainable.

[In_Trance]

You said the reason in your answer. Long distance.
Stop with that nonsense