My boyfriend is crazy skinny & doesn't eat; he will eat like one meal a day and black coffee. I think he's a health nut. Usually will eat like toast and a small salad and he's full. He did long distance running/tennis in college. He's just a skinny guy & athletic & I can see all of his ribs (like 5'9 and 130-135 lb). Also he does vape.
He's very athletic and used to weight a lot more but since he moved home he doesn't eat at all.
Anyway I gained a little weight over the pandemic and said I want to lose some, just casually. But i look fine, maybe 15/20 lb. Sometimes he makes comments like "Yeah, you did eat a lot today" or "you're going to eat all that? You just ate a whole 500 calorie ice cream/shake" when we went out to ice cream or "Yeah, I noticed that you did have a lot of sweets over the holidays.." when it was my bday. Even if we go out to get food together
A boy has never said this to me before; I was an athlete in college and thought I ate pretty good (meat, vegetables) but I won't turn down a special occasion treat and eat decent portions. I also had an eating disorder in college so probably better for me to be 15-20lbs heavier now than ultra-starve? (just in my opinion).
Anyway it annoys me cuz I'll be eating a full meal , healthy, too, then look over and he eats nothing or just orders a salad. makes me feel bad. I can never eat at his house cause he has no food. He also brags about never eating snacks.
We just have different body types and guess he doesn't understand. He's a nice guy, and I know he's an athlete, it just sometimes comes off weird. I didn't like the calorie comment. It was triggering, as I used to count calories like crazy and was bulimic. I haven't heard one like that in a few months but could expect one again. What do I do next time?
Probably won't break up with him soon as rest of relationship is fine. he can be critical about other things but guess it's his nature.
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