Why would a guy judge me before he gets to know me?

[Anonymous]

I matched with a guy on a dating app and he was planning to date me but we already met up and everything went well but then on instagram he posted on his story that he can sense that someone is fake and manipulative from a mile away and he definitely directed it towards me and he has been flaky and not been texting me now because he thinks these negative things about me and all my exes thought that about me too and now I’m single because every guy that tries to date me will think these things of me when I’m really a nice person and not all these bad things. What are your thoughts on this? And why would he think these bad things about me when it’s not true? I don’t want to end up single because guys will think these things of me when they mostly do for a relationship.

[BoopBoopBeep]

We judge tigers in the wild as capable of eating us before we walk up and poke them with a stick. People want to piss on "judging" others, but that's how evolution and society works. If people couldn't, we'd all be extinct of on a police blotter somewhere. The point is to make INFORMED judgements.

Why he felt that way, I have no idea... as I haven't seen what he's seen. I do see that you judged him to be flakey and potentially unhinged, which he likely is, so looks like you dodged a bullet there. Or a tiger.

[boggboss]

Either the things ubdo are off-putting the the men u date or u happen to date retards

[Anonymous]

That post could’ve had nothing to do with you, you’ve just convinced yourself that it does because you assume it’s what happened with your exes. I can’t imagine that every single one had the same issue unless it’s something you were doing. At some point you’ve got to look internally.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I think you've handled it all wrong. You should put on your Instagram..

I too can smell bullshit from a mile away.. How far away are you from me? About a mile?

[Anonymous]

Judging is the first thing you do when you see anybody.

[jahaims]

If everyone around thinks you are those things you probably are

[ImalwaysrightOK]

"all your exes" says it all.

[Asker]

Yes but why would he say these things too but he can sense that I’m like that when it’s not true? I only known him for a few days

[ImalwaysrightOK]

He knows you've been with a bunch of other guys probably so he's not interested

[Asker]

Ok but how does he know I’ve been with a bunch of other guys since I didn’t say that to him?