Why can’t men grasp complex ideas or have personalities?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I talk to a guy and don’t dumb down everything I’m saying so that’s. 3rd grader could understand it they’ll tell me I’m using too many bigs words and that I’m too confusing.

I just want a guy who understands me but it’s like none of them have any thoughts that aren’t surface level. They don’t have hobbies, interests, favorites, embarrassing moments, or hot takes that aren’t hating fat women and feminists. Wow I’m so shocked you don’t like extremist assholes. Tell me more about how all you did all day is jack off! Where are the men with a personality?

[NathanDavis]

here...

"Invariably, when engaging in discourse with a male interlocutor, should I eschew the dilution of my lexicon to a level comprehensible by an individual at the elementary stage of education, I am met with critiques of excessive verbosity and obfuscation.

My aspiration is simply to encounter a counterpart who apprehends my essence, yet it appears an exercise in futility. The men I encounter seem devoid of profound cogitations. They lack avocations, predilections, cherished entities, mortifying recollections, or any vehement stances that transcend the mundane disdain for corpulent females and advocates of gender equality. It is utterly predictable that one would express antipathy towards such extremist misanthropes. Do regale me with tales of your quotidian self-gratification! I query, wherefore are the gentlemen endowed with distinctive character?"

[Asker]

I don’t mean I’m especially smart. There are smarter people than me. My question is since I’m average why can’t any guy seem to comprehend anything that isn’t the gym and sex?

[NathanDavis]

if you were truly smart...

you wouldn't be so obtuse and minimize it all to just gym dudes...

where are the big words though... I like those

let's hear them (=

[Asker]

Like I said I’m average. Not sure why your trying prove I’m dumb when I never said I was a some type of super genius. My point is even when I’m talking like these I will get comments that my words are too big and I’m too confusing when I’m speaking perfectly normally. I am surrounded my cellphone addicted neanderthal men. I just want one who isn’t like that

[NathanDavis]

well, if you're not smart enough to find one... are you worthy of one?

[Asker]

If I go to places where I would meet men of substance and they are not there and the men that approach me are developmentally delayed maybe I should just give up and circle around “wyd” and “fine wby” all day? How are anyone have challenges meeting people nowadays know your doomed to only attract guys who want hookups. When people don’t know something they ask. Asking questions is what makes smart people smart. I’m here asking how people meet men with personality.

[NathanDavis]

well... I'll be at Costco tomorrow morning...

you would now how to make it to there, right? won't get lost and end up at a, yet another... bro gym

[Asker]

I’m a high school senior, not the best idea. Once again though I’m not entertaining these guys, I pretty mischievous block or ignore anyone who acts like I’m describing

[Asker]

I pretty much* not sure how it autocorrected that badly

[NathanDavis]

anyone can shop at Costco

[Bricealan]

@NathanDavis I'm not sure you made your point clear, here.

[NathanDavis]

@Bricealan pardon my French...

[TommyMountainFigure]

I have to be honest here. You really aren't doing MUCH for Feminists.

As I understand it, feminism means equality for women. Putting men down as you are jokingly doing here purely for attention is doing you or your cause no favours whatsoever.

It is nothing more than floccinacunihilipilification, seeing as you like BIGS words!

[Anonymous]

Funny how you make it sound like all men are like this. If that’s so wouldn’t that tell you that’s probably part of our nature. I mean chances are dudes overseas are the same. It makes me laugh when women w all their feelings assume they’re the ones who are right because men “don’t have feelings.” We’re not women. Stop trying to make us act like women. Maybe you’re the one who’s wrong w all your feelings. Maybe the type of men you’re attracting or going for has to do w you. That’s why you attract these type of men. Many of us men have met a lot of women who can’t grasp complex ideas either. I mean let’s face it a lot of women lack logic especially in relationships. They argue based off their feelings rather than what logically makes sense.

[Bricealan]

I asked her to look at her social circle

[Opinion Owner]

@Bricealan but she won’t. Because in her eyes it’s the men, not hers or even other women’s fault. That’s the type of reality we live in.

[Mikeysoda]

You're just surrounding yourself with men that are not compatible to your intellectual preferences. There are plenty of men that you prefer out there. You will have to get out of your comfort zone and go places you don't usually go, change your environment, to experience different guys with different backgrounds and different depths of comprehension, consciousness, and scholarship. So, don't merely point the finger at them, but also reflect on why YOU continue to attract the same kind of guys.

[flautistnaturist]

are your observations unknowingly loaded with either false presumption, or are the paradigms or postures they invoke working less than the ideal most all around harmonious influence in all of reality as one, are they properly regardful of all consciousness everywhere?

[RavVid]

We save up the real conversations for when there aren't any women around.

Inevitably when a woman joins herself into a conversation she stops interesting discussions of geopol and shifts the conv to her fav topic - herself.

We're too polite.

[ProbablyClueless]

Most people in general are pretty boring and they aren't particularly intelligent. I do think that's a big part of it. Just a general human condition thing.

Beyond that, you might have better luck finding intelligent men if you can figure out where academic types are hanging out in your city. If there's a university nearby, you might meet men by going to university events, community lectures, and that sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

Women with attitudes like yours invariably have really bad personalities. They try to give off this persona of superiority, but deep inside they hate themselves, which is the real reason behind their issues. I hope you can learn to like yourself more and find some inner peace.

[LordMadara]

Stop the cap and go for older men instead since you're a smart 18yr old girl

You have matured beyond your age group

[tremendousfern]

Me Grug. Grug like booba. Grug not like grumpy women.

[gorydetails]

Honestly men under 40 have been treated like shit by society. I really doubt you’re as smart as you think you are.

[Asker]

I never said I was that smart In saying if all you can contribute to a conversation is “yo”, “wyd”, and “that’s cool” you’re below average intelligence and boring. The whole point is I don’t use big words, guys just can’t comprehend basic full speech. It’s dumb and stressful when you’re just trying to connect with someone.

[gorydetails]

There’s a lot of low-effort women out there. Why should guys put in the work?

[Asker]

You should put in effort because as people everyone wants to connect on a deeper level. Unless you want to be up in a loveless marriage and end up divorced. Men say shit like this then complain about their wives divorcing them, you’re admitting to never putting effort into cultivating meaningful connections with people you’re romantically interested in.

[gorydetails]

Women have become trash. Why put in effort for a chick who sells her pussy on onlyfans?

[Asker]

See how when I say men are being increasingly more retarded it’s a generalization and wrong but you can say women have only fans and that means no woman should get any effort and that a decent argument. If you’ve been outside you’ll see 99% of women are sex workers, stop watching rage bait online. How many girls have you actually met with an only fans. As an 18 year old girl, I’ve never met one.

[Asker]

aren’t*

[David94358]

you are just either not been lucky, looking in the wrong place, or maybe they are just avoiding you?

[Lokiion]

They just don’t listen and are think about either what to say or something else.

Also most of the comments aren’t even answering the question they just upset about something 😂

[Bricealan]

You might want to take a look at the social circles you travel n?

[Anonymous]

Tell us you're attracted to Chads without telling us you're attracted to Chads. I'm guessing you're so deep someone's liable to get thier ankles wet.😆

[Asker]

I don’t ignore anyone and I reject men like I described. This is the only type of man I see around me ever. I never said I was that deep my point is I’m average and they still act like I’m weird and confusing for not only talking about surface level things or having opinions. I don’t think I’m that deep but you couldn’t possibly know that from 1 post. I doubt you’re that deep yourself but everyone has depth and I’m actually willing to explore that which most guys just don’t want to do at all.

[Opinion Owner]

I know your age hun. Most people your age haven't had enough life experiences. The only thing that makes your age interesting is the potential and general idealistic nature (albeit naive).
My point was the guys that KNOW they can have you have no need to stretch themselves and develop a personality. You'll learn this as you age. It's the same for women. I'm not just picking g on one gender.

[Asker]

So you’re saying you had no opinions thoughts or ideas before 25. Wow that seems like a deeply personal issue. Either that or you never faced real adversity growing up. They know they can have me but they get blocked and ignored the second they start abbreviating dumb shit. I’m a virgin and I don’t give my time to anyone. Don’t assume I I’m complaining while entertaining intellectually disabled people. I care about people I am willing to show are care for people in interested in because I want a real connection. Either way my question is where do you meet guys with a personality not the reasoning why they don’t.

[Opinion Owner]

I never used the word sex hun. I know you think that's all there is at your age. No "have you" simply meant your attention (however brief).
And yes I had thoughts and opinions at 25. Most of which I now realize was so foolish.
I didn't insult you. And if I did I complimented you as well. I called you young (with potential) and idealistic. But most young people are foolish. Foolish is not a bad thing young people think outside the box and change the world with new ideas.

[Opinion Owner]

To answer your question. The guys you seek are all over. They're just invisible to YOUR view. I truly do wish you all the best in this endeavor. I want to help but I don't think you'll be receptive to my advice until your viewpoint changes a bit.

[Luckycharms12]

Not putting up with someone like you who put down other's. Thinks there better because you are Smarter than those so called guys. Who gives a fuck. What have you to offer anyway

[Tim2nice]

It seems you’re hanging out in the wrong places.

[KrakenAttackin]

Chad, pookie, and Ray Ray, don't need personality to get your panties down.

[Anonymous]

Lol, sure. We all know what you're really like and it's not what you're pretending to be here in the internet.

[OddBeMe]

Maybe it’s the type you’re attracted to. Becuase it’s still more men graduating that women

[ReelEGood21]

It's a shame you are attracting men that are beneath your intelligence, but I suppose it's bound to happen. Where are you meeting these guys?

[spartan55]

For being so brilliant your grammar sure sucks.

[Asker]

I’m not talking about grammar I’m talking about conversations that aren’t “yo”, “hru”, and “wyd” in rotation. I don’t think I’m special and smart I think men don’t have thoughts beyond surface a level because there are much smarter women than me.

[Asker]

My only ask is where do you find guys with a personality that isn’t basketball and the gym

[laly520]

u r going for wrong type of men

[Asker]

I don’t go for any type guy. These are the guy that approach me and are at my school. I don’t approach guys because they never contribute anything to any conversation or quality of life. If I ever met one I’d marry him and treat him like and king but they don’t exist as far as I’ve seen.

[laly520]

they do exist u just attracting/being around such bad type

[Asker]

I don’t dress or seem like I’d be interested in that type I constant reject them. I don’t go anywhere specific I just go to school and hobby classes but funny thing is men are never in hobby classes. I wonder why? Men don’t have hobbies.

[laly520]

they have hobbies lol u r just not that lucky enough
if u try to go to new places, get to know more people n expand ur social circle u would eventually get to meet great guys
those in ur school doesn't represent all the men

[Asker]

I’ll try but any girls I meet never know any guys that aren’t like that. The best ones are always taken or surrounded on the rare occasion I find one, maybe I’ll get luck though.

[laly520]

many great ones r single since they don't get enough attention from girls
good luck with it just stay away of the toxic ones

[Danny_dan92]

Sounds like you hate men

[Asker]

I don’t hate men I hate spiraling to people who can only text in abbreviations and tell you you’re weird for not wanting to talk about rappers and fucking 24/7. I just want a guy who can contribute any idea to any conversation.

[Danny_dan92]

You are having conversations with the wrong guys. Take a good honest look with common traits all these guys you’ve talked too share

[Asker]

I don’t choose these men or put something out for me to come around them. I know some good ones exist because my family is full of them but I’ve yet to see one in the wild ever. I don’t accept those guys either, no matter how many I reject that’s really all I see around me. I’ve seen other girls say the same but they’re just into it.

[Danny_dan92]

“In the wild” sounds like a pokemon game

[Asker]

That’s how it feels.

[Danny_dan92]

You’ll find a legendary shiny someday

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah, best of luck

[Massageman]

because they are stupid.

[jahaims]

We are just too inferior all mighty leader

[007kingifrit]

you're probably dating too young, try older men

[Dkfbrksnfbdksb]

It's just the guys you hang out with...

[boobliker]

too, complex