What am I supposed to say when someone asks what I’m looking for in a man?

[Anonymous]

I mostly get asked this by men. I feel like I’m lying because men believe whatever a woman says they think she’s lying. It’s why I dodge the question or just say I plan to be single. That seems to help and avoid being asked further questions.

[blueonblack22]

Funny whenever I ask a woman this question she either:

1) says one thing and does the exact opposite a few weeks or months later.

and/or

2) gets uncomfortable/cold and stops talking to me.

Most women nowadays catch feels for a man who meets their immediate “emotional” needs which are always fluctuating. They then decide to stay or leave after dating him for while once they determine if he’s ideal for the long run.

Not to say that men too can live for the moment in dating. But we usually have more shame about contradicting ourselves later. We get called out on it more hence the saying “I am a man of my word”.

[82lynx]

I’ve gotten the second one quite a few times, and all it took was casual conversation in what I thought was friendship. One who approached first, she began saying she doesn’t trust men (then why the hell did she approach me?), then came the usual gradual descent into radio silence. When confronted about it she said she didn’t want friends right then, even though she had others who are men.

Yet another entry for my ever-growing list of reasons not to waste my time on females.

[blueonblack22]

@82lynx I love it when women say “I don’t trust men”. How many men can get away with saying something like that? It often gets followed up with an insult like “oh just go gay” or something if a guy says that.

[JacobJordan]

The truth. The reason guys ask is because we are trying to get a sense of whether or not you are being realistic or delusional. For example many modern women who have a kid and a dozen+ exes want a rich, 6ft tall handsome big dicked man to take care of them. Something those women will never have. Another example would be a woman who is a good person decently attractive no exes no troubled past who wants a man to love and cherish and wants to have a partner for life. Of the 2 the second is likely to find herself a husband.

[Asker]

What do you mean by no troubled past? And why no exes?

[JacobJordan]

Generally a woman with a troubled past and/or exes ends up being a difficult partner because she typically brings the trauma of past exes or trouble into her next relationship. In addition the number of exes has a significant role in all future relationships. For example a woman with 1 or 2 partners has a very high chance of being in a happy relationship apx. 90-95%. At 3 and 4 it is 70% and 5+ it is 30% and lower. Women judge men on his future. Men judge women on her past. Not all for either of course but enough that it is an apt generalization. Other issues women with lots of exes have is increased chances of stds, stis, cheating, unhappiness, divorce, utis, infertility and a couple other things.

[Biancam13]

In general, it is realistic to want a partner who is the equivalent of what YOU yourself are.

So if a woman is attractive, wealthy and has a good body, it is realistic and expected for her to want an attractive, wealthy and fit guy. But if she's less attractive or whatever quality, it's not as realistic or reasonable.

Of course everyone should want someone to love and cherish them, but if men want attractive women, women can and should want attractive men as well.

[Biancam13]

People tend to match up with people in their equivalent "league" (I don't like the term league, but that's the only way of describing it.)

[red324]

It's amazing how many women have a school bus full of exes. A girl I dated changed out her man every 3 or 4 months. How can you expect to be any better than all those other guys? You're just a number to her.

[Biancam13]

I would be honest with them about what you're looking for. But please be careful, sometimes people will ask you this question because they want to morph into your dream guy/girl so you will like them. It's a disingenuous way of getting you to fall for them. They'll change or adopt their personality according to what you're looking for, rather than show you their real personality.

Not everyone does this, but I've seen it happen. So once again, be careful.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I wouldn't know. I also question the question as you do. No clue how to answer it or what answers they're looking for. Now, can I know what I want in a man? Yes, kind of. But it's different when the question is asked.

[Berethor]

So they right that you lying? as you don't really want to be single, anyway it not an easy question, especially if you have a lot list of traits that you looking for in a part partner, myself I am saying that I am looking for a woman who is not a ho, because it the most important thing for me, there of course other things that I care about, like if she okay with having children.

[ProbablyClueless]

I would tell them the truth, if I were you. Even if the person thinks you are lying at first, they'll see that your actions match your words, at some point, and then they'll start to believe you.

My father once told me that if you are someone who lives up to your word, you'll be a rare person. So far, my life experience has shown me that what he said is true.

[shoeboxcerealcard]

Easy. Don't tell him what you want in a man. Tell him what kind of relationship you want. Describe it to him. He'll figure the rest out.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Perfect answer

[Friendlybro79]

@shoeboxcerealcard love your answer.

[nawtee_me]

The truth is always good. If a guy doesn’t believe you then that is a good sign that he is not the one and move on. I see nothing wrong with having exes in your past or even being friends with your exes. Those things tell a lot about a person. However if a potential date or partner has a resent break-up then be on guard. Unresolved issues could make a relationship become a threesome between you, he and his ex as you get compared to them….

[Anonymous]

"I'll let you know if you qualify" is what i'd say.

Asking this is so stupid. Why? So he/she can change to be what you want? Then he/she is not being thier true authentic self.

I would NEVER answer a woman who asked me this.

[Krealot]

That is as much of a difficult question as "Tell me about yourself". I do not belive there to be a right answer here. I don't belive I have ever asked this of anyone either.

[Rei13]

I mean what is is the truth? I would start with that. If you plan on staying single that’s fine, if you want a relationship you can filter out the men you wouldn’t be compatible with anyways

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Just tell them, "I'm looking for a guy with a really big p***s. Like freakishly huge!"

That will probably end the conversation immediately.

[RingOfFire]

If you look carefully at the gesture, I think the picture that GaG chose to put on your post says what women are looking for in a guy. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

Oh my 😂😂

[RingOfFire]

😎
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[Friendlybro79]

Just tell the truth. If your truth is you're not sure, say that. You can always follow that up with I'm not sure but I'm sure I'll know when i meet the right person.

[laly520]

only u could answer such a question

u could list the qualities u looking for in man u wanna date

[TommyMountainFigure]

Simple.. Just say this:-

I won't know until I find it!

[Yannae]

You start off by saying "Believe it or not but..." and then you just answer the question.

[Asker]

Why should I have to start with that?

[Asker]

It sounds like I’m saying, “I’m not like other girls.” You know they’ll twist it like that.

[Yannae]

To me it'd sound like "because men believe whatever a woman says they think she’s lying"

[bobby_bush_eater]

You could describe your realistic most ideal man and the ideal long term or short term goals that you want.

[genericname85]

why are you talking to people that don't believe what you're saying?

[VV3ZZY123]

Cuz they wanna bend over backward cuz they needy af

[RedInnocent69]

Grab their crotch, then say “meh” and move on.

[Anonymous]

Generally, I find women can be pretty honest about what they're looking for in a man.

[CalmUntilAbused]

Just tell the truth.

[sheenagwapa]

Godly someone who loves Jesus too!

[dudeinohio]

Be yourself. Be honest.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand the question.

[Asker]

If you ask a woman what she’s looking for in a man, usually she gets called a liar.
For example, she would get asked if money matters. If she says no, she’ll be called a liar and be accused of being a gold digger.

[Opinion Owner]

There are things you can do to prove you aren't a gold digger. Paying for yourself is a start. My thing is when women say "money doesn't matter" I think it should matter. Women shouldn't want to be with a bum. Men should have their shit together. If a woman explained this to me, I would accept and respect that answer.

[Asker]

That’s the thing though. As soon as money is mentioned, that’s it! The guy is done.

[Opinion Owner]

Not always, as I just explained.

[DrPepper12]

The truth?

[Freakzilla4ya]

The truth.

[MaxUsefull]

That’s odd

[whistlingwh0res]

Diligent man