Guys, do you still stop women in the streets to flirt?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

Only sometimes (please explain)

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It makes me glad that most of the guys said no (so far)

[blueonblack22]

This is very risky nowadays unless the woman gives an obvious signal. If yes, I’ll smile and keep my conversation innocent.

But even then I’ve had two very unsavory incidents in the past where the woman was angry at her boyfriend/husband and just wanted to stir up drama.

I think deep down a lot of women want this to happen more often. But #metoo effectively scared a lot of guys off. Guys are slowly coming around again. But it’s not like it’s 2008 again.

[red324]

A lot of times it's not really appropriate to approach. It could be a safety issue for her or it could be thst you're hold up the line etc.

[blueonblack22]

@red324 well that’s just common sense. But I’m talking about just saying “hi” to a girl you see at a coffee shop or grocery store.

20 years ago a lot more guys could do that (appropriately) and not worried about being labeled a creep if the woman wasn’t interested. Sure some idiots make all men look bad. But most guys aren’t going to keep pressing if she isn’t interested.

[red324]

Depends on what you're doing too. They aren't too keen on me pulling up with my landscape trailer at the gas station and making small talk. Might be the gas station, but I'm sure it's them being judgmental about my job. I always seem to get snide comments about that now as if I should have moved on to something else by now... whatever

[blueonblack22]

@red324 i know I am a lot more cautious about this nowadays. While I do realize I’ve gotten older I also know things have changed.

If I make an innocent mistake and/or bad timing their is a higher probability of things going wrong now.

[dustybiker2]

Sure. Brief passing conversation doesn't hurt. Not necessarily flirting but enjoying a moment instead of ignoring the other person. It's usually over a medium though. This past week. My bikes always garner comments anywhere (stoplights, front of shops) sometimes people will add on something about me as I'm wearing gloves they can't tell my status. Had a funny exchange over picking out baking potatoes, another the legalities of blocking a fellow customer reaching cat litter.

[Seinna]

I'm not a guy, but it happened to me a few times from guys so it's possible.

Though not so much flirt, as that would be coming a bit strong to a complete stranger on the street in broad daylight, but a friendly chat with a clear intention of getting my contact information. It didn't go anywhere because I had a boyfriend at that time.

[MikeTheBartender]

Only if she gives me a signal. I've learned over many years and many women that the ones that want me to approach them won't hide it. That's not to say I can't randomly approach a girl that doesn't give a signal, but generally it's not worth the hassle.

[Inbox]

I do Day game all the time and I can tell you that waiting for signals is extremely limiting. Most girls I go out with don’t even give me a signal before hand.

[V_Injector]

No, I don't. I find people bugging people they don't know as very disrespectful... or at least very irritating. PUA dudes really strike me as a different version of a SIMP... Just like the SIMP's, they seem a bit overly focused on getting inside some panties.

[Danzigdawson]

Never did that once in my whole life, no matter how pretty/sexy a woman is. That's being interested in looks or sex only, in my opinion.

I like to get to know a woman a little bit more before considering asking her out. That's why my girlfriends have always been co-workers, friend of a friend, classmates...

[Finchie40]

I do , if I find her very attractive and she catches my eye and I notice she is looking back as well , I will approach her and say Hi , nice to meet you and introduce myself to her and try to start up a friendly conversation so she isn’t freaked out. It works most the time 😋

[Telekinetic-Potato]

If she looks at me a certain way or I can tell she's checking me out I'll do it. Some guys I know do it a lot and it's their main way of pulling in women.

It can get you in trouble if you're not careful.

[PeachyPie93]

Some do, when I lived in UK I would have guys start chatting me up I think it depends on what area you live in. Like if you live in a big city it is much more likely you will get approached.

[Inbox]

I heard it’s illegal to approach girls in public in the UK?

[PeachyPie93]

@Inbox I suppose if you are blocking her and making her feel threatened it is, but I literally never heard of that until now? 😂 I guess it must be an issue if they made a law for it.

[WindAtMyBack5]

I will just stop them as classmates in my Community College, or in Career Training School in my career field, they are likely more easier to talk to than on the street, are you crazy? They could be a street prostitute, cops will be rolling by looking to arrest you on the sole basis of that.

[RebelinSteel]

No thats creepy

i do flirt a lot but doing that in the street by stopping girls is creepy

[red324]

I saw some cute girl walking to her car while I was pulling away from the gas pump. Halfway thought about asking for her number by pulling up and rolling my window down. I thought about it too long though so nothing happened lol

[Anonymous]

In France this cat-calling is still happening but in a nice way because actually cat-calling you are "genuine" French guys not like here, immigrated drugged people. In France is really common to cat-call

[Opinion Owner]

by the way. I am French and for us French women it is normal.

[Asb_Samson]

I respect womens and wait if they themselves to find me attractive 😜 instead of jump myself to put in trouble may be.

[DrPepper12]

Not the street but online at the store, waiting in a lobby, at the bar, stopping them in the street is weird. But chatting them up while not intruding on their time is fine.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Not really, if I'm in a outdoor bar setting or a festival type event in the city then yes. Otherwise everyone in my city has headphones or is looking down on their phone. It makes me more hesitant to try.

[strateguy632]

that is stupid because she is out because she is busy doing errands. no time to flirt.

[DishLady]

Yeah they do. Adorably goofy, especially in the spring.

[genericname85]

no i don't. i think women have done a good job firmly establishing that this is sexual harrasment and not wanted.

[Caroline91]

Unless you are being suggestive in some way, I wouldn't really consider it sexual harassment. But, I do feel it is a kind of harassment because you don't know anything about me and what it is I'm doing that you are interrupting. Nor do you have any idea how many times men have approached me in the past hour that I've been out and about, minding my own business, and how irritated I am about it all. So, on behalf of many women, I thank you! Honestly, if you're interested in talking with me, give me a smile and, if I'm interested in interacting, I'll smile back and say something to you. But that's just me. It does seem that way too many women are way oversensitive about a lot of things having to do with men in the current environment which, if I were a guy, would certainly cause me to put the brakes on. Or, better yet, hit the gas and speed on by!!

[genericname85]

@Caroline91 what do you mean "being suggestive"? Getting to know a woman is always about getting to fuck her xD

[genericname85]

And obviously you can't start out talking to a person knowing everything about her already.

[Caroline91]

Good to know.

[Caroline91]

How does a woman even reply to that? Oh yeah: No thanks.

[genericname85]

@Caroline91 xD i've never met a guy who walked up to a girl with the intention to make a friend. hope i didn't ruin your image of men.

[genericname85]

@Caroline91 well if she wasn't attracted, she'd say no thanks. that's fine.

[Caroline91]

That's true. But what I'm saying is if I'm just out and about taking care of business, then don't interrupt me unless we actually know each other. Then it's ok to get my attention and say hi. If I don't know you it's ok to give me a smile and see if I give a sign back that I'm approachable at the moment, like smiling back or saying something to you. If I see you and would like to talk to you, I'll give you a smile to see what your response is. It is just so tiring to be out trying to do whatever I need to take care of and constantly having to fend men off. It also doesn't feel good to me to dish out all that rejection any more than it feels good to a guy to constantly get rejected. If I'm interested in someone who's indicated interest in me, I would actually prefer to do the man the courtesy of taking at least a few minutes to see it that interest might go any where, even if it's just for a cup of coffee. I'm just trying to give you guys. an idea of how you might face less rejection and have a better chance of a positive outcome when you see a girl out in public that you might like to approach. If she isn't showing signs of being approachable at that time, let it go. If she is and you really want to talk to her, then go for it. If you realize that it's really just about personal boundaries and not really about whether you're a good guy or not, it might make more sense. Guys so often say they want girls to be honest, so there it is, at least from my perspective as a women who gets approached a lot.

[Caroline91]

I'm pretty aware of that. No, you didn't ruin my image of men. Testosterone is a bear. However, whatever he does in regard to me needs to be done respectfully. I try to be as respectful of other people as possible, men and women. And, unless I am in a mutually caring relationship, I don't owe a man anything. If I am in a relationship, I owe him all kinds of things, depending on what we have agreed the relationship is all about. I happen to believe that women need to understand how men function and we need to understand that physical affection is paramount to their happiness. I think that has largely gotten lost in today's environment. Men also need to be equally willing to understand how a woman functions and actually want to love her in the way she needs in order to feel loved. Sincere respect and kindness will at least get my attention long enough for me to want to get to know you and let you get to know me. I have enough self respect that I don't have the time or inclination to deal with entitled jerks and that usually shows up pretty quickly, I definitely will put in the effort if I'm available (not in a relationship) and you're one of the good guys. Oh, and looks aren't that important. Good hygiene and confidence are. Good guys do not always finish last. Just sayin'.

[genericname85]

dude trust me: if a guy's main concern was to "display the maximum respect" and not going after their need of companionship and sexual attention, men and women wouldn't get together anymore and humanity would die out xD

you should be happy that men don't think like that. i am happy women think like that cause that's the nurturing character they need to be good at bringing up children :D

[genericname85]

i still find it weird to label a naive expression of ones need "disrespectfull" just cause they didn't abide by your internal checklist of things that need to be fullfilled so you can see them as respectful.

[Caroline91]

Not sure I understand what you're saying here. I would like to understand, so could you maybe explain a little more? Thanks.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I love when they do it…

Happened the other day, made me smile… 😍

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

What did he say?

[Lionman95]

No most people in streets are busy and so am I. I don´t have the time to flirt at those occasions.

[Nikki1989]

I don't know about flirting, but men approach me almost daily so it must be a thing.

[handsomelad70]

No. I talk to men and women on the street, especially if they're with babies or small children.

[Somoneelse]

Never did and most likely never will. I think its just disgusting to do.