Am I in the wrong?

[Anonymous]

I have friends on VR and every time these two guys fight I’m drug in the middle of it.

My one friend is a mod and he keeps figuring out my new accounts i make and it makes me super uncomfortable. He knows my address and one time they sent me food. It was a nice gesture but now I feel like I have to be friends with them. I was going to cash app them the money but they keep arguing and it puts me in an awkward situation, and I get in the middle of it each time.

I was going to message them in the group chat that I need some time to myself cause I met other new folks on there that don’t do it.
I’m 26 and they are 22 and 20. I’m just really irritated and done with this. I go on VR to have fun, and every night I’m dealing with two people who go through me to talk and I’m done. Like it’s pissing me off. I had to tell them.


Will I be the bad guy?

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Update: I did it and one took it well and the other took it with attitude, he said that “I don’t know how our fighting is involving you”

They drag me into it and I’m always in the middle of it. I even told them they need to work it out themselves and they kept telling me to “tell him this” and I’m like “no you need to hash it out together” and I got off my headset cause they pissed me off. And I was still put in the middle of it

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UGH I blocked him but am still cordial with the other one.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, you are NOT in the wrong here. Those guys were being totally inappropriate and putting way too much pressure on you. A few thoughts:

- Sending food to your address is crossing a line. You never gave them that level of personal info to start with. Red flag there.

- Constantly dragging you into their fights and using you as a messenger is manipulative and puts you in an awkward spot. Not cool of them at all.

- They're clearly not respecting your boundaries if every time you make a new account, one of them finds you. That's stalkerish behavior and would freak me out too!

- You told them nicely that you need space, which is totally reasonable. The attitude one gave you just proves he wasn't a real friend to begin with if he can't respect that.

I say good riddance to both of them tbh. You deserve friendship that makes you feel comfortable and trusted, not on-edge. Hold your ground, block them everywhere, and go enjoy VR drama-free from now on! If they keep bothering you, maybe tell the platform too. You did nothing wrong sis.

[strateguy632]

not bad. tell them.