long story i talked to a past teacher of mine a few months ago we talked about depression. i told her about my depression. & during
so i found out she is depressed because she does not have kids or married she is 34. would it be weird if i asked her to talk about my depression or hers?
i give her my phone number once i want to send it to her again.
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Yo man, I get where you're coming from wanting to talk to her about that stuff since she opened up last time. But I'd be real careful about reaching back out, here's why:
- She's your teacher, so there's a power imbalance there that could make things awkward or misinterpreted.
- Even if she was open before, she might not feel comfortable being vulnerable with a former student on a deeper level.
- Your depression and her regrets about not having kids/marriage are different issues - she may not relate or have the capacity to help you through yours.
My advice would be to find another trusted peer or professional to confide in rather than risk making your teacher uncomfortable. Maybe send a casual "how's it going" text to leave the door open, but don't dump too much personal stuff right away.
Focus on your own mental health first through your normal support system. She was real for opening up that one time, but protect both your reputations by keeping appropriate boundaries, ya know? You'll get through this - just be careful who you open up fully to.
When you asked for help that time you weren't aware of her mental state. So it can be forgiven. You are not wrong.
@StarWarGirl sorry its 4ami 'm a little out of it wanted you to know before i asked a stupid question lol. what do you mean by i was not aware of her mental state.
Oh sorry. I thought your question was "was I wrong to ask her for help?" So i my reply was about that. I ment to say that it wasn't wrong ad you weren't aware that she is depressed.
If you are asking that , "would you be wrong to ask for help from her"?
I think it depends. Sometimes people are willing to help others even if they aren't feeling okay themselves. Sometimes it makes them feel good. Let her decide she wants to help you or not. This doesn't make you bad person.
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