Is it normal to not be able to do more than 1 type of "chore" in a day?

[Anonymous]

My husband is like this and I never thought much of it, we have still been able to split responsibilities fairly evenly, he just has to do the harder weekly or monthly things while I do the easier daily things. (For example cleaning, I do the all daily stuff like dishes and laundry, and he does all the deep cleaning on Sundays.)

One of my friends when we were talking about this kind of thing, she was surprised by that and said she's never heard of it before, and was suspicious he was just making it up to avoid helping. But he doesn't care to do chores, he just can't do more than 1 kind in a day or he gets stressed out about it and has a very hard time getting it done. I don't really understand why, but I know he's not faking it because the same rules apply to recreational activities.

Is this really very unusual, or is it just a coincidence we don't know more people the same way?

[spartan55]

Completely normal. Most guys have a 'one thought/task at a time' mindset. It's just how we are wired. Be glad you don't have a husband who doesn't help at all. And by the way, stop listening to your dumbass friends trying to start shit. The system you and your husband use works for both of you. That is what is most important.

[Asker]

Good to know, thanks! My friend wasn't trying to start anything, she just thought it sounded suspicious at first since her ex used to pretend to get out of helping. Once I explained why we did things that way she understood that was not the case and just thought it was odd.

[spartan55]

Her bias because of her lazy husband came through. I mean, you said he does deep cleaning tasks. Some of those take some time. Just curious, who does all the outside tasks? Cutting the grass, landscaping, washing the cars etc?

[Asker]

Yes that's why I say we still split evenly. We do different tasks, but about the same amount of work overall. It's the same way with outside chores, such as he mows and I water/weed the garden.

[spartan55]

What about home repairs, maintenance?

[Asker]

That depends on what it is. He likes to do repairs, but if it's something that needs to be fixed that day then I will usually do it. Like if a light bulb goes out then I'll just leave it until Saturday for him, unless it's the one light bulb of the bathroom because I don't want our kid using the bathroom in the dark or with a flashlight.

[DrPepper12]

Unusual. I do 80% cuz I'm retired on disability and several chores a day is the norm