Why are some men "players"?

[Anonymous]

Especially the attractive men. Why are they players?

[Confucious900]

Fact is most men see women as objects and not people with feelings. They do it for the thrill of it. How many can they score. The way kids are raised today compared to say 40 years ago are so different. A guy today that's genuine has to go through twice or more effort to land a girl compared to years ago.

If good guys did the things they do these days to try and get a women and did those same things years ago, they could have chosen any women they want. Today no one wants to put in effort, and because of that they just want to cut through all the hard stuff and just get what they want and bounce. And girls has a part in it too.

Women will knowingly go for guys they know are labeled players, because it triggers something in them, if he sleeps with so many women they must be attractive, and don't look on the inside.

Respect was valued back then. Society, expectations, influences and standards has changed so much that today sex, infidelity, cheating, dishonesty, playing is placed above respect, trust, chivalry, honesty and loyalty. Men are players because they enjoy the thrill of not having to commit so much time and effort to one person and just increase their body count and challenging themselves to see how many they can score with.

[Asker]

Great answer, thank you! I think you're right, especially about hookup culture and the glorification of it. And some women also like players because it makes them feel special to be "chosen" over other women by a supposedly "high-value man." They want to be the one treated well when other girls have been played, since it's a massive ego boost.

When women haven't matured yet, they see players as being high-value, because they equate sleeping with loads of women as the man being desirable. But (hopefully) after they mature a bit, they start to see that the truly desirable guys are the good guys who respect women and want a real relationship.

Just my two cents about women and players.

[Confucious900]

You are spot on annon. Great question. Thanks for posting.

[RebelinSteel]

Because they can, they learn that they have the confidence and socialising skills to get girls (or guys) and go for it.

Girls can also be players, however no one ever calls a girl a player……

[Asker]

That's true, women are usually called hoes instead haha.

[Claire2002]

It seems like there is a feeling, that is absolutely not cultural bug genetic, that men's value increases with the number of women they have sex with. They seem to think that they are better than their male friends if they have sex with more women, and they brag about it.

It could even be that they don't enjoy sex but they do it just to brag off with their friends and to feel more manly. So this is why they become players: to boodt their ago. That's the worst reason ever, but it seems like even the older ones could be players even if they have maturity.

[DishLady]

Sometimes it's just a status thing. Guys are considered "cool" when they're popular with the ladies.

[Asker]

That's very true. It might partly be a "status amongst other guys" thing. Like it gives kudos amongst "the boys" if you're a player. Think about how many men follow Dan Bilzerian and people like that.

Thanks for answering girl!

[DarkLegacy]

More karma for the shallow women going for a guy based on looks. Women that do this never deserve a good guy, people who play with fire get burnt.

[Asker]

I get what you're saying! Although I think it's not just attractive men who are players.

Thanks for answering!

[Bricealan]

You mean, "Why do some men THINK they are "players"...(whatever the hell that means)

[Bricealan]

P. S. "Men screw who they CAN, and women screw who they WANT" Why men think they are 'players' is beyond me... beggars can't be choosers

[Asker]

Very true. Thanks for answering!

[NetherlandsNar]

@Bricealan haha you seem jealous of these players. Some men screw who they WANT. Too bad for you

[Jersey2]

They are encouraged to be one. I have heard mom’s say with glee “he is going to grow up to be a player”. But they do come from dysfunctional families and neighborhoods but that is the culture.

[Asker]

Very true. I think being a "player" is celebrated in our culture for some reason, so men are encouraged to be one. Thanks for answering!

[KrakenAttackin]

Because they can be. If you are a top 5% man who has women fawning all over him why would he commit to any one women.

This is the same reason moderately mid to hot girls think they never have to commit to a man as they think there will always be a better/hotter man around the corner.

[ProbablyClueless]

Because the validation feels good, and they can get lots of it.

Same reason that women will entertain multiple men at the same time. It's sure as heck not because men love the chase so much.

[Anonymous]

Check out the Ohio River Valley. 3 out of 4 guys there are deadbeat ex con pill popping fentanyl smoking Walmart stealing wannabe gangster living food stamp collecting big talking douchebags. They'd be kicked in the nuts by any AmerAsian female in the Bay Area or Eastern Euro in N. Y. bUt there... they've got 3 baby mommas who all think he's "the shit." I GUARANTEE YOU... any female with an IQ over 85 won't describe them as "attractive." Water seeks it's own level.

[Quigly]

Playing games is a psychological disorder. It's not just men, it's women too. They never take relationships seriously. It has nothing to do with appearance. Other than you likely don't date people you aren't attracted to.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

That's the kind of guy women go for, even if they deny it.

[Anonymous]

In my case I play but I'm genuine also because I've not found the one. I might play but don't cheat or don't mess girls around either so there is a difference

[Asker]

Thank you for answering! Why do you play though, if I might ask? Is there a specific reason?

It's a judgement-free zone so you can be as honest as you like!

[Opinion Owner]

I'm just going with the flow and am really picky because of being attractive. each girl is really good looking I'm with and then last one hooked up with didn't want to meet me again after so
Moved on to next one each time. some I want to meet again some don't so either way I just keep going🤣 girls play big part too in what they want

[Asker]

That's fair enough. Thanks for contributing!!

[236color]

Same reason oil companies raise prices, because they can

[PapaJedi]

Sad truth is I know more (below average) dudes who fools around than attractive ones

[DrPepper12]

Charisma. Anxiety over LTR. Dad did it. Wealth. Fame. Good looks. Power. Got game. Intellect. Conversationalist. Humor.

[MasterKS]

because players get more opportunity to 'play'

[Asker]

So you're saying that every guy would want to be a player if given the opportunity to?

[MasterKS]

@asker may not be everyone but most of them for sure.

[sheikalana]

Because they have lots of women who want to be with them.

[HawkPerception]

Same reasons some girls are sluts and we have a whole generation of girls making a living from OnlyFans

[Anonymous]

They think it will better their chance with women.

[LiamJHayden]

Because they can be and take advantage of it.

[itsclearlynicholas]

They likely carry herpes and other stds or crabs ♋🦀 lol 😆 ♂️ be glad you're not 🚫

[itsclearlynicholas]

The best google answer I love is "most stds or STIs, have no symptoms"

[itsclearlynicholas]

Or until later life aka cancers, etc lol links supposedly and others. Lol people don't google or lol ask their doctors lol not that Google is medical advice no advice sssshhh just gossiping my assumptions above about "careless men ha" liar men

[YevBor]

Because it's easier way to have sex. Girls love excitement, and players can give them excitement. "Good guys" are boring and shy, and girls didn't like that.

[PeachyPie93]

Either very arrogant or very insecure.