Hot and Cold... are we good? Am I just overreading it?

[Anonymous]

There's a guy that I've worked with on and off for two years now. We're pretty good buds, and usually work well together. We have a ton in common, and I feel like we generally have a good time together. A couple jokes, enough deep stuff, mutual respect, and plenty of awkwardness. It's obvious that we care about each other. I have deep rooted trust issues, though. I 100% believe him to be a good guy with good intentions, but I also got strung along for months because a guy had allowed himself to be told and believe awful lies about me. He didn't treat me much differently, and I truly thought we were fine. We definitely weren't, and I got BURNED. I feel like the guy this post is about is generally happy to see me and be with me, but I've believed it before and it was bad. I have 0 doubt that he cares about me, but he cares about everyone. Overall, he's generally sweet, complimentary, tells me I'm awesome, and is quick to help out. We joke around, and he did jokingly call me silly girl last night.

I also know him to definitely not be fake. He is honest, generally in the best way. I. e, still trying to be encouraging, but he isn't gonna lie if I make a comment about my hair or something. I LOVE that.

Here's what's bothering me:

• He's been a snappy lately. I haven't really noticed it until recently, he's generally super patient. He snapped 3 times today, though.
• He never did follow me back on social media. I think he's really only ever on Instagram, but still
• He's pretty introverted, but also in to people. He never seems to want to hang out outside of work. Which I'm a lot like that, I get it. But it also doesn't make me feel great. And he's usually down to hang out at work, but has made... less effort lately.
• I was having minor car trouble and he didn't stop to help. He's usually the first to ask if I'm okay.

It seems out of character for him. I'm just wondering what changed. Is he just stressed, or are we not as solid as I'd thought? I can't figure him out.

[ohsheeT]

When a person talks to you no matter what they're saying no matter if they're lying to you or telling you the truth if you look into their eyes and you really listen to their words they will be telling you two to three different things all at one time if they're lying to you they will tell you the truth in the same breath you just have to listen..

I'm sorry what happened to you with the first guy...

But to be honest it doesn't matter who you're with is a 50/50 chance that it's going to work or it's not going to work and those are pretty bad eyes but if you get to know somebody from the inside out and you really look deep into their eyes and understand each word that they say that percentage can go way up.

You can't make anybody in this world love you you have to love yourself and the more you love yourself the kinder person you become that and you are and other people see that and they want to be with that person and then if something was to happen if you don't know who that person truly is on the inside I mean if they go off on the deep end they will tell you and show you that before you even get together with them and if they're cool calm and collect under pressure and something happens and they walk away from it that's how they're going to walk away from a relationship too but you you never can tell you have to take that Gamble but read learn how to read the person that you're going to be with listen to their words look into their eyes watch how they treat their friends are they if they talk about other people if they talk about other people if they're rude to other people it's going to be 10 times worse with you when they break up so if you want to know the person really watch and see how he interacts with his friends are people that he says he likes but he doesn't treat them that way that will tell you everything but if you like the Geico for it if it doesn't work you have to just accept it and walk away acknowledge and say you know what this bullshit goodbye I'm not going through this again and walk away don't when you allow people to hurt you it's because you stayed too long it's because you thought you could change something you can't change anybody you can't change anything people are who they are and that's who they are and if you can understand that and read that in people you will know exactly if it's going to work or not