Am I wrong to get annoyed with the “no I did it” behavior?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are taking care of chores and I happened to say “I’m glad we did etc….”

He immediately turns to me and said, “no, I did that.” In an aggressive tone. It wasn’t like I was trying to take credit, I was just happy we collectively got it taken care of.

i always thank him for his help on things and acknowledging his hard work. Just unsure where this came from.

Tried talking to him about it and he just kept talking in circles. Making sure I knew he was right about the fact that he did something specific. Ended up just walking away from him to avoid a fight.

Am I in the wrong about getting annoyed with this kind of behavior?

[spartan55]

YOU'RE annoyed... of course. I feel like there might be information missing from this story. He is feeling snubbed about something. You say you didn't say to take credit, but what would you think if things were reversed. Easy solution is don't attach yourself to something if you had nothing to do with it. Intentional or not it's not a good look.

[Anonymous]

I suspect there is more to this story than you've shared here, especially in his mind. It seems clear he is defensive for some reason. Either he feels like he does more chores than you and was trying to make that point, or he has been shamed for NOT doing more, so he wanted to make a statement about it.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say it's wrong to feel annoyed about it, but if I were you I would be more focused on trying to understand why he reacted that way, and what emotion motivated his reaction. Sounds like there's something going on there that needs to be addressed so it doesn't fester and become a bigger problem.

[Anonymous]

Women these days complain a lot about doing more around the house than their man does, so you can understand why he might be defensive about it.

But regardless, this is an easy problem to solve. Just stop saying "we" when you had nothing to do with it.

[Tamera952]

Huh? …? WTF?