Did I do something wrong? Did I deserve that?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend who I loved a lot and we were so good together, talking everyday and making plans for the future, suddenly wanted to break up with me, then he came back and told me that he is confused and unsure and asked me for a one month break and during this break he may get back to me or not, I agreed because I loved him a lot, so I stayed no contact for a month and didn't open my messenger to see if he talked to me or not.. I was very scared and decided that if he really wants me he will call me or send me a normal sms.. after one month I opened my messenger and found that he did text me saying "Hey how are you?" After one week of the break, so I went ahead and started talking to him but he was so could and barely replying my messeges, so I went to his fb profile and found him "In a relationship status with another girl" already! I was shocked and couldn't believe it, when I confronted him he said that we can't be together because of the distance and didn't explain anything, also stopped replying and didn't pick him my calls.. he just left me. Is it my fault that I didn't see his message on time? Please tell me

Ps: I know him in person then he had to travel for studies abroad

[Anonymous]

You're only wrong if you wished harm or stated the incorrect. ﾠ

[BοοbSlayer]

Oh, my goodness! I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. Breakups can be incredibly painful, and it's completely normal to feel confused, hurt, and even blame yourself in such situations. But let me assure you, my dear friend, that you did absolutely nothing wrong. You deserve love, respect, and honesty in any relationship, and it sounds like your ex-boyfriend failed to provide those. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

First of all, it's important to understand that you are not responsible for his actions or decisions. Relationships require open and honest communication, and it seems like he didn't communicate his true feelings or intentions clearly to you. It's not your fault for not seeing his message on time or for agreeing to the break. You acted out of love and a genuine desire to make things work, and that's commendable. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

The fact that he started a new relationship so quickly after the break speaks volumes about his commitment and respect towards you. It's understandable that you feel shocked and hurt by his actions. However, please remember that his behavior reflects his character and not your worth as a person. You are deserving of someone who values and cherishes you. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

Long-distance relationships can be challenging, but they can also work if both parties are willing to put in the effort and maintain open communication. It seems like your ex-boyfriend didn't prioritize working through the distance issue with you. Instead, he chose to pursue a new relationship without giving you the closure or explanation you deserved. This is not a reflection of your worth or desirability. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

In times like these, it's important to focus on yourself and your own well-being. Surround yourself with loved ones who can provide support and understanding. Take time to heal and process your emotions. It's okay to feel hurt, angry, or confused, but try not to blame yourself for the actions of others. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

Remember, my dear friend, that you are strong and resilient. This experience may be painful now, but it will not define your future. Take this opportunity to rediscover yourself, pursue your passions, and nurture your own growth. The right person will come along who appreciates and loves you for who you are, without hesitation or doubt. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

I hope my words bring you some comfort and reassurance. Please know that you are not alone, and there are people who care about you. Allow yourself to heal, and trust that brighter days lie ahead. You deserve happiness and love, and I have no doubt that you will find them. Keep your chin up, my friend, and remember that you are worthy of all the love and joy that life has to offer.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that really sucks. I can't believe your boy did that to you. Definitely not your fault at all!

It sounds like maybe he was already checking out of the relationship and just strung you along with that "break" idea instead of being straight with you. Finding out he was with someone else so fast is super messed up.

I know it's hard, but try not to blame yourself. You didn't do anything wrong by respecting his wishes for space. He's the one who was being shady and not communicating clearly about his feelings changing.

Distance can be tough, but that's no excuse for the way he ended things either. Sounds like you deserve way better than how he treated you in the end.

It'll take time, but I'm sure you'll get over this chump eventually and find someone who appreciates you for real. Don't let it get you down - his loss, not yours! Just try to do stuff to keep yourself busy and hang with the boys to keep your mind off it. You'll be alright luv.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nope his intentions were that from the start when he wanted a "break" breaks dont belong in relationships, breaks is only an excuse created to break commitment and not be considered a cheater, he was probably with her the day right after y'all agreed on the break, or who knows, before, I don't think it was that week you didn't answer, he clearly made a decision and I think you should move on.

[Asker]

But I only saw his message a month later. He texted me one week into the break he asked for and I didn't see it until a month later, i was thinking he will try to call me or at least send me an sms, or anything.. when i opened my messenger a month later, he has already been in a relationship for two weeks.. so it is not my fault?

[ChicoFromThe305]

You said it was a week later, either ways he has a new girlfriend, you should move on

[slatyb]

Deserve it? "Deserve" doesn't apply when relationships end. You have no claim on anyone's future.