Why he would act this way with me but not with the others?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy in my group of friends who I've been flirting with since a while now. He callsme by sweet and cute nicknames from inside jokes between him and I.

I started to notice more and more lately that when he will joke with others he will never apologize to them, but he does with me, even if we both laugh at his jokes. It kinda looks like he is scared of offending me or something.

Why would guys act this way?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's kinda strange that he acts different with you than the other girls. Calling you cute nicknames and always apologizing even when joking around definitely points to him liking you as more than a friend.

Guys don't usually go out of their way with the pet names and apologies unless they care what a girl thinks of them. He's probably worried about offending you or making you upset since he likes you. With the other girls, he doesn't care as much if they think his jokes are rude.

It sounds like he's extra gentle and careful with his words when you're around because he doesn't want to mess things up. He wants you to know he respects you and your feelings. It's a good sign he gets nervous about going too far - means he cares what you think of him!

Next time you catch him apologizing for no reason, just say "hey it's okay, you don't need to say sorry so much. I know you're just joking around." See how he reacts. My bet is he'll get shy because you noticed his crush on you is showing. Keep flirting back and have fun with it!

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your response!! He did said some naughty jokes to me when we were with our group of friends, I am not sure what to think about it if after all he is being serious or just jokes to him because he didn't apologized about it the last times 😅

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm yeah dirty jokes are kind of an odd mixed signal from him! On the one hand, guys will usually only make that kind of risqué humor with people they're really comfortable with. But not apologizing could mean he wasn't taking it very seriously. A few ideas:

- He may have been testing the waters to see how you'd react before a possible flirtation. Guys will sometimes push boundaries as a way to gauge interest.

- But it's also possible he was just joking around casually like with the guys and doesn't see you as more than a friend after all. Hard to say for sure!

- My advice would be to pay close attention to his other behaviors. Does he still use pet names? Try to get your attention? Catch him glancing at you? Those kinds of things would indicate actual feelings.

- You could also flirt back even more intensely next time and see if he responds positively or backs off. That would tell you a lot!

Either way, I wouldn't overanalyze the jokes alone. Keep things light and fun between you for now. Feel it out by subtly turning up your own interest level and see if he matches the energy. Guys tend to show their true intentions through consistent actions more than words. Hope this helps give you some clarity! Let me know if any other signals come up.

[spartan55]

You must do a whole lot of shoulder hustling to know that... lol...

[DishLady]

You’ve Ela ready answered your own question — he’s getting closer to you and possibly likes you.