How am I suppose to act around my crush at work after I just found out he slept with another?

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Altheavas · Accepted Answer

So I’m still confused, so a Crush is a boyfriend? or someone you’re attracted to?
I thought a crush is someone you’re attracted to and you can see yourself falling in love fast for that person.
You allowed him to touch you? and at work?
What type of work is that?
I understand you can be attracted to someone, and crushing on them, but they have a life before you were there. How do you just insert yourself and act entitled of their attention is to you!
Having a crush, is a one side crushing, do you expect an imperative reciprocation..! What if you’re not even their type!

God help me..!

2_beHappy · Accepted Answer

Don t do anything. Be calm and neutral around him. He doesn t know you like him, and he doesn t know you know he slept with somebody else, in conclusion act normal, like he s  just  another coworker at your workplace (He really is).

MisterWack · Accepted Answer

If he is just a crush then let it be just a crush.

If you want to pursue a relationship ask if he is interested in a date or two to get to know you better, that won’t make him touch you or harass you if it is just a few dates.

If you are curious about how good at sex he is, don’t do that until a few dates later when you are going steady with him. If he gets touchy or something, turn it into cuddling and if he tries to turn it into something more explain to him that you aren’t sure if he is the one and after you know for sure you will have sex when the moment is right, just not now.

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

Was he aware of your feelings towards him, or was he clueless about that.
If he wasn't you only have yourself to blame for not making your feelings known.
If he did know, he probably did not have feelings for you.
Both of those senerios suck, so it might be hard to move on.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

How are you supposed to act? You’re supposed to be a professional and do your job. Did you think your internalized feelings for him meant anything to anyone, let alone him? Of course not. Just wrap your mind around the fact that he’s a man trying to find his place in life and a way to be happy. If he found that with somebody it’s not your place to weigh in on it.

Next time move on your sense of attraction to somebody instead of fostering hidden feelings.

edmwarrior · Answer

Touch you? He shouldn’t be touching you at all unless it’s like a handshake or something similar.

Anyway, I could I say I understand. I’d be crushed if my crush got into a relationship. We didn’t claim them, though, and all is fair.

The faster you realize he’s not your boyfriend, the faster you can move on and begin to not care. If he didn’t choose you, move on. If he lead you on, then I’m sorry.

AviatorTom · Answer

You need to separate personal from business. Your crush is a guy you wish you would date, but all he is, is someone you work with. He's totally free to do whatever he wants, including sleeping with someone other than you.

BadApple69 · Answer

Everyone sleeps with other people. That’s a desire we all have. He is your crash NOT your boyfriend. I am assuming he doesn’t even know how you feel about him.
What you need to do is make your feeling known and then let him choose.

GeminiDiamond · Answer

So, if you know this coworker, and let's be real, you know how this man acts by now from gossip. Hubba Bubba. Do you want to be next? Or are you seriously interested? Either way, it's your crush. Live and let live.

avery58 · Answer

You don't have to act any certain way around him except courteous and professional. If he finds out who cares? You don't have to like him. Nor be his friend if you don't want to.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

Like normal. He is not your boyfriend, so you have no right to be upset that he is sleeping with other people. You need to grow up

Alex-Snow · Answer

Well it sounds like you think he is your crush but he has no idea. He being a young horny guy is going to have sex if he is not in a relationship. Maybe ask him out on a date and see how it goes... the sex may be good!

HelpfulWoman · Answer

like he's a normal human being. you crushing on him doesn't mean shit if you haven't told him

midnightmoon05 · Answer

you are 108!! How old is he or the one he slept with.. i mean you don’t have much time … tell him you’ll sleep with him this weekend. 😂

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

I mean... He was a crush he owes you nothing. I assume he didn't know you were crushing on him.

sheikalana · Answer

Act normal and keep it professional. Workplace is the place where you do not mix your emotions with work.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Act like nothing happened. Also, did he even know you have feelings for him? If he doesn’t know, he’ll think something’s wrong with you if you start acting differently towards him.

JacobJordan · Answer

Should have made your move. Good thing you didn't though you are not emotionally stable enough to be in a relationship.

MGTK7 · Answer

Slept with another? Sounds like more than a "crush" to me...

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Control your behavior to hide how you feel about the situation and just wait until the feelings fade away.

DishLady · Answer

Just walk away and don't think about him. He's your crush, not your boyfriend. Move on.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Act like a normal person. Y'all aren't dating. He's your crush, not your boyfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

well whatever he does outside of work hours is only his business. as for him being your crush, just move on

Anonymous · Answer

He’s not your boyfriend he can sleep with whoever he wants. What do you expect, for him to be all alone and not f-k anyone in his adult life?

SotiCoto · Answer

Just behave normally. Is that really so hard?

Twalli · Answer

Well, you didn't make a move. Either she dud or he noticed her interest more.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Ask her what he was like. Maybe he’s not worth it. Or maybe he totally is and you can get in line to be next.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Step one stop crushing on people at work it never ends well

whistlingwh0res · Answer

I would give him a blow job and forget about him

At3mis24 · Answer

You should broke with him, men are scum!

spartan55 · Answer

How did you find out?

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

You should quit your job about it.

MatureMan40 · Answer

Don't spend your time with him anymore.

Asian-male · Answer

Keep calm

jimmy2 · Answer

Time to leave

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