If a guy tries to make you jealous on a date does that mean he’s not attracted to you?

[Anonymous]

I felt like he was glancing at the waitress.
He was hinting that he was sleeping with other women.
Answering text on his phone….

I’m extremely insecure about myself and how I look.. truthfully I didn’t want to meet him out of fear that he wouldn’t like me.

He never gave me a compliment..

[OlderAndWiser]

This guy is not boyfriend material! When he was on his phone, you should have stood up and said, "Obviously, you're too busy busy to devote your attention to me, so I'm going home." And then you leave, in your car or call a Lyft/Uber. Doing that will give you much more confidence in yourself.

[Asker]

I honestly regret that I did stand up for myself at all. He just responded to a text ect… but he also said some things that hurt my feelings.

I just never been on a date before and maybe I was shy and not talking as much but I still feel like he would rather be somewhere else.

He did offer to take me home or pay for my Lyft..

But I was very sad and he did ghost me. He only cared enough to reach out after I told him that ghosting me was weighing on my mental a bit.. I just liked him so much and I felt like I didn’t deserve all that.. he could have been more direct.

I am very insecure and I have a hard time speaking up for myself

[spartan55]

And how did you act on the date? What was YOUR conduct like? Do you remember?

[Asker]

So bc I’m a bit shy I should be treated like crap? I feel like you’re trying to put me on blast as if I did something horribly wrong or said something bad when I in fact didn’t.

Should I have talked more and asked questions. Yes.. but that doesn’t mean be a jackass. If he wasn’t interested he should have communicated that instead of being selfish with his actions. Hurting someone’s feelings is horrible.

[DishLady]

Sounds like a dbag. What we’re you doing out with him anyway?


If you see a guy is not respectful to you during your actual date, don’t order anything… just get up and make an excuse to leave. He’s free to stay with the waitress or texting mavens.

[Asker]

I probably deserved it because he just wasn’t attracted to me. I know if I were prettier or better I would be lovable to him.

[DishLady]

DESERVED? What nonsense. Are you practicing to be a doormat? Have some dignity. Don’t empower jerks like this.

[Asker]

In a way… I’m kind of used to it

[Asker]

He did say he hoped that I find a man who can love you the way you need to be but how can I believe that especially after being treated that way.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

He’a negging you, even if he thought it was attractive he’s manipulating you and that’s a shitty thing to do. Block his ass and find someone else.

[Asker]

It hurts so much but whatever after 6 months of being depressed about how he treated me I’m finally starting to accept it.

Only bitch made men do that. Feminine men who are insecure

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Don’t assume femininity is the reason for his cruelty.

[Alex-Snow]

There is no reason for that and I think it is rude... you can do better!

[Asker]

It hurts so much but whatever after 6 months of being depressed about how he treated me I’m finally starting to accept it.

Only bitch made men do that. Feminine men who are insecure

[Alex-Snow]

If he is saying that he sleeps with other women to make you jealous he probably is. Dump his ass.

[Asker]

He didn’t verbally say it but when I would ask him questions etc he would avoid answering

Or he would ask me personal questions and when I ask him he would look away and laugh…. But I think his actions overall just made me feel like I wasn’t pretty.

[Alex-Snow]

How old is this guy?

[Asker]

He’s 37

[Alex-Snow]

You can and will do better with a new boyfriend

[Asker]

He was never my boyfriend but I did like him a lot. I was hurt that he changed… that’s why I say that maybe he wasn’t attracted to me on top of being shy