Is it normal for someone to have different personalities?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy online and we instantly clicked coz his personality was like my bestfriends but then after talking for few days his personality changed and he is like I have different personalities and all is real, you’re lucky to see this side of mine, then when I told him to have either one of the personalities he was like as a friend you should like all my personalities and u can’t control me, I said that so that it doesn’t confuse me and I genuinely wanted to get to know the real him, I don’t know what to do, I feel like he faked his personality when we started talking so that we get along and now he is being himself, pls give me advice should I stay friends with him?

[StarWarGirl]

We people generally have multiple personalities. We are different person among different groups. For example we are different in class before our teachers we act differently. We act differently among close friends. We act differently before our family members and differently before strangers or before our boss etc.

It doesn't mean we do fake our personalities but that's how we are.

When we meet someone for the first time we see a limited side of that person and as time passes we get to know more about them. And it's totally ok to dislike them later on if you feel so. It's totally ok to get uncomfortable with them later on no matter in starting we liked them a lot.

So it's totally ok if you wanna stop having contact with it. It's totally fine. Always listen your heart and always be honest to yourself you need not to force yourself to do something you don't feel like doing it. It's upto you if you want to give that person more time to understand him more or you want to cutoff. Only you can decide. But it's all about your feelings and your friends circle only you can choose what's good for you there

[osmanthus]

Nope. You don't have to like all his personalities. And you can choose to tolerate some. You can argue this point back but be prepared to walk away. You don't need to vye for his friendship by dismissing his statement as reasonable to yourself, because it is neither reasonable nor realistic to expect this of a person.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Sort of.

It depends what you mean exactly there is the multiple personality disorder which is a rare mental illness.

But there are also many people who behave differently in certain groups and contexts, like meeting someone new vs. meeting their childhoodfriend.

Many people are insecure and behave differently when meeting someone new and slowly show more and more of their actuall self. They hide certain aspects because they are not sure if the person will like these aspects and may judge them for these.

(meeating both online and physically)

[osmanthus]

I concur. MPD is very rare. Most people fall within the bell curve of of decency vs indecency in certain contexts but most do not suffer from MPD. One has to have DD (dissociative disorder) as a prelude to any alters prevalent in MPD.

[Astarlessnightsky]

I exactly said mpd is a rare mental condition.

[osmanthus]

It is rare and not categorically not so. If we're picking out the apple from orange then I still agree with you on its rarity; it's very rare on a global scale. Rare in likely a more national level.

[clampfan101]

Sometimes people try so hard to create a good first impression that they don’t act like their normal self during it.

[DishLady]

No, it's not. That's why there's a clinical treatment for this sort of ailment.

[Booklover_90]

Not normal at all. If anything, he needs psychiatric treatment.

[Iron_Man]

It’s not normal maybe he’s got multiple personality disorder