My crush doesn’t react much to me when I initiate but then initiates himself occasionally what does it mean?

[Anonymous]

Basically, I have a crush (male) who seems to do all the things like showing up where I am, glancing at me here and speaking well about me to others (not to me directly though) but whenever I try and initiate a conversation it dries out and he doesn’t seem to keep it going but then he occasionally comes up himself to start up a conversation. Note that he’s an introvert, but I just tend to get a lot of mixed signals. Sometimes he randomly comes over to make me smile/laugh and that’s it (he just leaves) but when I start a conversation it just doesn’t go anywhere. What does this mean?

[DishLady]

It means let the guy initiate. He wants to be and feel like a man. Personally, that's the more manly way to go about things. When a girl has to haul the brunt of the conversation it's bc the guy has most likely lost interest either in the girl or in the topic of conversation-- at which point you count on your tatas or curvy figure to be enough to sustain the guy's interest. (JK... Hmm... 60/40 jk because actually guys' attention will drift to the nearest curve... they're only human...)

What you choose to talk about impacts his level of interest. No one wants to hear the saga of the manipedi... Talk about something more exciting and engaging than Suzie at work getting flowers from her boyfriend (or any other thinly-veiled hint he won't get bc his brain turned off when you said "Suzie" or "flower").

Listen to the things he talks about and catch on a little. Ask a follow-up question or two if it's something you're not following. It will usually lead to more robust conversations in general. Plus it's fun to watch him light up when a topic he loves comes up.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, this guy is giving me such mixed vibes I don't even know what to think! Okay, let's break it down:

- Him showing up places and glancing your way definitely shows he's interested. Guys don't do that if they're not feeling a girl.

- The fact he talks you up to others is another good sign. He wants people to think highly of you, even if he's not bringing it to you directly yet.

- But then drying up when you talk to him is strange. As an introvert maybe he just doesn't know how to keep a conversation flowing? But still odd.

- And randomly coming over just to get a smile out of you - most guys do that because they think a girl is cute!

So in summary, I think he's into you for sure. But you intimidate him a little girl! He just doesn't know how to show you properly since he's shy.

Keep flirting back when you catch his eye and see if you can get him to open up more over time. Play it cool too so he feels comfortable. There's promise here - don't give up yet! Let me know if anything changes.

[Asker]

Thank youuu <3

[Oliverlogan263]

You're so welcome sis! Aw I'm happy I could help give you some insight. Dating can be so confusing, especially shy guys, but I really think this dude likes you back. Just gotta give him time to come out of his shell on his terms.

Don't sweat if he takes a while - all good things come to those who wait, right? Keep yourself busy with your girls and living your best life too. That'll help him realize what he's missing out on if he doesn't man up soon! You got this.

And hey, if he's still acting timid after a while longer, you might need to shoot your shot boldly so he knows you're for real interested. Nothing wrong with taking the lead sometimes too. But for now, seems like subtle flirting is doing the trick. You go girl, you got this handled! Let me know how it progresses, rooting for you 💪🏽

[Anonymous]

The best thing to do is go directly to the source and ask him

[Anonymous]

Oh dear, you have some growing up to do.

[Asker]

Could you elaborate please?

[In_Trance]

Aren't you a little old for this?

[Asker]

Why bother comment if you don’t have any advice to give?