Why would a guy leave me on delivered after I threatened to sue him for sexual coercion?

[Anonymous]

He left me feeling completely like nothing. I feel depressed and rejected like most guys have done. It’s like he’s always letting me know that I’m not good enough

I told him that I think he’s a downlow guy who really desires men or trans. He’s an insecure man and a covert narcissist.

he’s also a sexual predator who coerced me by using my vulnerabilities to get sex… even tho we didn't sleep together he put me through emotional distress by trying to manipulate me after i set clear boundaries.

I want to take legal action because it just hurts.

[normalice]

To your relationship he sounds like the kind of guy you should have known right away was full of shit but decided to believe in him because it made you feel good or at least felt like less work. You have to come to terms with that before doing anything.

But to your question he probably stopped communicating with you because that's what any legal counsel would advise as the best first option when someone says they are going to sue you.

[Asker]

I honestly don’t think he gives 2 shits

[meepmeeperton]

Dear god did you post about this before? I think you did even though you’re anon I can tell it’s you and that’s hilarious that you made a big deal about texting him just to get left on delivered LOL.

[Asker]

As long as he knows the TRUTH

[Anonymous]

Continuing to speak after threat of lawsuit would be extremely dumb. But, you should know there's surely no chance of succeeding in a lawsuit merely because he's a crappy person.

[Asker]

Anything is possible with God.

[DreamLife7]

She's absolutely stupid. Lol

[Asker]

@DreamLife7 so is your mama

[DreamLife7]

@asker My mom is a happily married woman beautiful and not a rejected ugly loser like you🤣

[DishLady]

So you threatened him and then expect him to be all chatty with you? Don't be ridiculous.

[kylee2437]

He left you on delivered because you are acting insane. Just because you agreed to have sex with someone, does not mean they need to date you.

[Asker]

I’m not acting insane! Just because we didn’t sleep together doesn’t mean I wasn’t sexually coerced by him.

[kylee2437]

@asker the fact that you are even trying to still contact him after you feel that way says enough. Stop acting nuts, and block him. Problem solved.

[Asker]

So he gave me a false name and I saved it. I have another friend with the same name and I ended up deleting his contact instead

After I realized I still had it.

My point is I told him that I was protecting my mental and emotional wellbeing at all costs and I wasn’t interested in sex. He made me feel safe and he wanted to know the safest way to interact with me ect…. He just really played me…bad.

He knew I was unstable bc he mentioned it and he still wanted to play me

[kylee2437]

@asker this a valuable lesson for you. You never ever tell a guy what you are looking for. You observe a guy and remove yourself if he doesn’t mention anything in regards to what you are looking for. And while yes it’s a shitty feeling to feel used, the best thing you can do for yourself is block him and move on

[Asker]

No. He can pay for what he did. He can learn HIS lesson. He’s a predator and predators need to pay.

[kylee2437]

@asker this is not going to hold any weight in court, and trying to remotely get a lawyer for this is going to cost you. A lawyer might even take this as a joke. In a few months, you are going to look back at this and ask yourself why you were so bothered by this nonsense

[Asker]

It’s been 6 months already. I get it. I may not win but it’s not fair that I’ve had to go back into depression and suicidal thoughts. Why can’t he suffer too.

[kylee2437]

@asker that sounds like you need a therapist. You have deep seated issues as to why this is still bothering you after almost a half of a year. Not trying to insult, just stating.

[kylee2437]

Deep seeded*

[Asker]

I’m in therapy but why can’t men pay for their actions. Why are you dismissive towards me and calling me crazy when he was the one wrong

[kylee2437]

@asker I find it hard to believe you are in therapy when this is even a topic of discussion. You decided to go to the internet about suing a man, when you have an entire therapist that can tell you if suing is worth your time. And I had a man similarly do this to me back in February during my father’s death and I’m less pissed off than you are. You are acting nuts regardless if he’s wrong

[Asker]

She talked to me but it’s my decision

[kylee2437]

@asker she probably came to that conclusion because you keep going at it even though several people have told you it’s not worth your time.

[Asker]

Men need to be held accountable for their actions

[kylee2437]

You can hold them accountable by blocking and removing them out of your life

[Asker]

Ask yourself this. Why am I not blocked

[kylee2437]

Why does he have to block you? You know no offense , as much as he’s shitty, you hold lots of immaturity. That may stem to why you are still aggravated by something you should’ve moved on from already

[Asker]

But a 37 year old man tried to play me after I maturely told him what I wanted day 1 and he tried to play me

And I also felt drowsy after our date.. how ironic at even told my mother that. I was going to keep the tea to get it tested but my mother talked me out of it

[kylee2437]

So your mother gave you advice that an older man that is going after you is going to use you and you didn’t listen to her. It’s just lessons on lessons. You can either play victim forever, or you can move on from it , and apply whatever you learn to your next dating adventures

[Asker]

No she was saying I shouldn’t get the tea tested for drugs

She doesn’t know about the other stuff

[kylee2437]

@asker it’s been 6 months, the availability to make that hold up in court wouldn’t hold

[Asker]

I don’t have evidence since I threw the tea out but I wasn’t going to mention that

[kylee2437]

I don't know what to tell you here really. Continuing to victimize yourself when you have resources to help you through that is just extreme to say the least.

[Asker]

How is that being a victim? Are you actually serious? Have you not listened to what I said?

I know I may lose this case but I was a victim

[kylee2437]

Because you are actively choosing to ignore things people are suggesting to you out of immaturity and are stuck on doing something to him that isn’t benfitting you and won’t ever benefit you. Victim mentality

[Asker]

So what about him? I don’t get it. You’re on my case but why can’t he take some accountability

[kylee2437]

What about him? I told you to block him and move on. Take some accountability on your own end. This is plainly you not taking accountability for your own self. A guy in another answer said it best. You already most likely knew this guy wasn’t going to be a good guy

[Asker]

I didn’t know. If I did I would have moved on

I said I was coerced and manipulated

[kylee2437]

And most women go through something like this. There’s more bad men out there than good. You can either play victim forever towards it, or you can learn from it. It’s totally up to you.

[Asker]

Again nothing for him right. You both are full of it

[kylee2437]

He gets to live with the fact that his behaviors will never give him a decent woman in his life. I’m not quite sure why you feel the need direct karma towards him. You are the one that is full of it, full of completely immaturity. And then you wonder why you also can’t find a good man either

[Asker]

He can probably find one he’s trying to find a female doctor.

[Asker]

I was never looking for a man period. I told him that I was willing to be a placeholder until he moves on to someone else and I thought.. I honestly thought he saw me as more. I truly did

He even told me that I should take some time before dating and he wanted to know the safest way to interact with me…

[Asker]

I guess since he’s ignoring I have to take it to social media.

[DreamLife7]

So you're mad at him because he found you unattractive, your sex was wack, and you gave it up? Whose fault was that tramp? He doesn't like you get over it

[DreamLife7]

No one made u do anything you fuckinh retard

[Asker]

We didn’t have sex. Reading is fundamental

[DreamLife7]

Are 👏🏻you 👏🏻dumb👏🏻? This man doesn't fucking like you. Get it? Stop bothering the man he doesn't find you attractive. You said he makes you feel like you're not good enough and makes you feel depressed yet you keep communicating with him. He's showing you he doesn't like you. So you trying to sue will backfire and he can sue u stupid.

[Asker]

Fuck him. He can truly SMD and you can too

[Asker]

It’s not about him liking me

[DreamLife7]

Well then stfu. You're mad u were rejected. Not his fault you're ugly. Move the fuck on and stop harrassing this man

[Asker]

Really he’s not attracted to me?

[DreamLife7]

Duh stupid stop harrassing him

[Anonymous]

Bruh you’re F-ing crazy. Leave the man alone. You’re a full grown adult. You can make your own judgment on sex.

[Asker]

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