Am I wrong for telling my boyfriend to go f**k himself?

[Anonymous]

I was asking my boyfriend an opinion on a dress I wanted to wear at a party, and he thought it was too figure hugging , but when I told him my parents would be with me, he agreed but warned me to stay away from creepy guys and tell them I have a boyfriend. He then started going on a rant about how I'm ashamed of accepting him as his boyfriend and that my friends said he looks average so that affected me in some way, all of which were very very wrong. I then told him to stop accusing me of things I never did or said, and he then said it wasn't an accusation as it wasn't said in a harsh tone. I then told him that he'll never apologize for being a dick and told him to go fuck himself, and he told me to stop using harsh language. I then told him that he's promised me multiple times that he'll stop with all this passive aggressive bs (yes, this isn't the first time he's done it) but he keeps on breaking them just because he's a self loathing person and expects me to be both his girlfriend and therapist. Was I too much?

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Edit : Forgot to add that after I yelled at him, he became pretty upset and didn't like that I said I'd eventually leave him if all this continued. Did I overreact?

[osmanthus]

Possibly acting a bit too extra. I have the impression you're a female whose taste in clothing is less conservative than he'd like. He's insecure and that's okay and normal for most men. You can choose to honor him by following his instruction or else maybe expect a little more male attention than you're used to, if you'd dressed more conservatively. I would, however, suggest you apologize to him and reconsider dressing down, especially since your parents would be there too and are likely more conservative than yourself. This isn't to say you can't dress however you want but in this context, if you want to maintain the relationship, you'd have to rethink the clothes.

[Nxtawm]

Could you have been less harsh with the way you said it/the language? Yes but you’re not in the wrong. It seems like it’s been an ongoing issue too so I’d understand you being fed up with how he’s acting. Sometimes when that happens, the smallest things can be the final straw and you blow up. Honestly he seems very insecure and is piling that up on you

[In_Trance]

Not wrong

Fuck that fucker

[Anonymous]

Yea this relationship isn't going to last.