I told my boyfriend to fuck off in anger?

[Anonymous]

I'm in a long-distance relationship. My boyfriend is usually busy with his work but we still had good communication, lately, he got even busier and rarely replied to my texts. I was trying to understand so I didn't say anything to him. One day I saw he's still active on all his social media. But I still tried to understand that he needs space and all so I tried to not bother him. So after a long time when we were talking properly, laughing and all he said he don't have enough battery on his phone. he was home back then, he could have charged his phone. I lost my temper and told him to fuckk off. He got offended by that and stopped talking to me. It's been 5 days already. I tried to apologise or start a conversation but he just say he's tired, busy or his mood isn't good. I even asked if he wants to break up but he denied it. what should I do?

[Screenwriter]

LD relationships are fraught with difficulties. You're never physically with the other person and texts have no "tone."

However, when someone is too busy to contact you and rarely replies to your contacts and is, on the other hand, active on all his other social media, seems like this is red flag time. He has enough time to answer these other people. Why not you?

He's not interested enough. And with LD, attrition happens too easily. People rarely admit they WANT to break up. Too hard to say. If he's Too tired, Too busy, Too moody, why are you bothering with this person?

[Icybread]

You need to make sure there's some level of trust and transparency that's maintained in a long distance relationship. It was normal for you to feel frustrated after how he responded and that's okay.

You should tell him to clear up his schedule or make some time where you can talk to him and tell him your problems. Be honest on how you feel about his responses lately and he might understand that and do better in the future. Either that or you can move on from him since he isn't spending enough time for you. From what you've said I feel like you're a patient person and he should spend more time with you. There's a reason most distant relationships don't work out.

[Asker]

We have trust.. we're just very different. I never ask for absolutely anything from him. I don't even want him to waste his time on me or anything but I just want the little time he can. Whenever he can. He talk to me. He reply to my good morning's in afternoon or evening. Sometimes I even tell him to at least spend his time with his family if not me but he don't even do that and to everything he says.. I don't even get time to eat..

[Icybread]

That sounds unhealthy

[DiegoO]

Geez. It takes me back to my LDR. I never went to the extreme of cursing her, but I was passive aggressive. LDR are extremely difficult to manage, specially nevermets LDR. Only thing I can say, is: do you really have the opportunity to see each other in person? (If you're nevermets). If the answer is yes, please cool down. If the answer is no: until when you'll have that opportunity?

[dustybiker]

Sounds like it’s over and neither of you want to admit it.

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, I know this is a complicated situation, and I wasn't there, and I don't have all the facts.

However, based on my gut, I'm on your side. And I think you had every right to be upset, and you were right to tell him to fuck off. And I don't think you need to apologize to him. And I think you can probably find a better boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

End it. That shit never works out. Find someone local.

and PS he’s pushing you away, but doesn’t want to be the bad guy bc he cares. He’ll never admit it but you both actually want the same thing and just haven’t realized it. Don’t waste your life.

Move on.

[UniquelyBasic]

You shouldn't have told him that but LDR are tough, I get why you're angry though.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Here's the thing. Long distance + social media = disaster. It's the fact that people can check on each other constantly.

[nawtee_me]

leave him as the long distance is not working at all...

[Iron_Man]

Apologized in the next two days

[legalboxers]

my LDR was a clusterfuck

[In_Trance]

You lost me at long distance relationship

[Anonymous]

LDR are stupid. Find someone in your area.

[JessieBellll]

It won't work out