Am I over reacting?

[Anonymous]

My fiance is getting a second hand car , and we have been discussing about that... he said that the car he liked was 12 year old... so i was telling him to go for a much recent one's and to rethink his decision... we have been talking this for quite sometime and i understood he was going to buy the car no matter what... so at one point i told him , its about him so i dont want to bother any longer giving my opinion... but he would still discuss about this... so when it again came up i was telling him about the troubles a old car would cause.. to this he replied since am not putting in any money... i shouldn't have an opinion about it.. i was taken back by the way he responded this... am qyite actually rethinking about what kind of a perosn he really is... am i over reacting or is it okay of me to feel disturbed by this? i feel it to be a disrespect , is it or is it not?

[DishLady]

So guys tend to be sensitive about their car selections… even if it’s old, even if you’re worried for them… they’re focused on that particular thing, just let it be. He’ll then tinker with whatever’s needed to make it a good, safe drive and everything will be fine.

[jahaims]

You need to communicate better. Let him know you expect to help make decisions even if you can't provide equally financially. You might be out of line as far as not wanting a 12 year old vehicle depending which one of you knows more about them. Age doesn't matter for a vehicle nearly as much as the condition of the vehicle does. I don't know what your financial situation is obviously but when I was young and broke I bought cars at 100,000 miles and ran them until 250,000 miles with no issues.

[Asker]

I totally agree... i might lack knowledge in the subject of car... but i really feel offended by the way he reacted to it... he could have assured me that its nothing big and he will be able to manage it... he didn't have to like tell me to keep my opinions yo myslef? @jahaims

[exitseven]

He could have handled this a little better. He will certainly be pissed when it turns out he bought a lemon. You will show great restraint by not telling him you told him so.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Jessikaah91]

I think when having a partner you should probably discuss things together especially when buying things that is beneficial for both involved.

[boggboss]

Sounds like you two lack a decent ability to communicate

[msc545]

Ony offer opinions you know he will agree with in order to keep the peach. He really just wants validation of what he thinks is right and correct.