Why do guys lie?

[Anonymous]

This guy told me he didn't have a girlfriend but said the girl in the picture was his sister. Now he claims she's his girlfriend but still flirts with me. He lied about not drinking and partying. He said he didn't do anything the whole week and I just found out by his friend he was partying the whole week. He told me he didn't drink or smoke either. I see he's drinking and smoking from the party his friends threw on Facebook. We're not even together or talking. At most we flirt and text

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I haven't had to deal with a lying sob for over 10 years. The people around me do not lie bc they know I'll cut them off the minute I find out. My ex spoiled me with the truth no matter how blunt it was. I appreciated that a lot more than going back to dealing with living human shit

[Finchie40]

The same reason girls’ lie , hoping to get laid basically , trying to impress you , so you fall for their shit. Sadly it happens a lot , because most people are selfish people that only care about themselves, they have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves. I am usually good at spotting out a liar and can usually see right through their bullshit in most cases. I had a friend that was a compulsive liar that it was pretty sad to watch, the only reason i stayed friends with him , was because underneath his lying he was a good hearted person , he just had no confidence in himself , He ended up killing himself eventually because all his lies caught up to him and backfired. Why I choose not to lie , but I have come across some lying girls’ in my lifetime that I broke up with the second I saw their true colors. Some people are really good at lying to the point that they believe their own lies , it’s the craziest thing , it stems down to insecurities and low self esteem about themselves , they want to make themselves better than what they actually are. Lying might get you laid , but it won’t last the long haul once the truth shines.

[Asker]

This guy is trying to impress me but I'm not really giving him a lot of attention bc he's probably used to getting attention. I can tell he wants me but I've caught him in several lies. He has a girlfriend but doesn't show her on IG and she's highly insecure. I'm assessing the situation bc I think he wants me to be insecure in some way for control. He also wants me bc I'm a pretty trophy but he said he wants to help me get more stamina/flexible and I know what that means

[Finchie40]

Yea he is clearly just trying to get into your pants

[Anonymous]

Most people lie. Even women as hard as that might be to believe. A lot of people lie especially in the beginning stages of dating. Women will lie about things like liking sports to try to make their chances better of ending up w the dude. I think women are just better at hiding it. I’m pretty sure the people you hang around have lied to you at one point or another. Some lies are just more extreme than others. Women encourage it at times. Like if she ask does this dress make me look fat? “Yes it does!” Then she gets her heart broken, mad at you. Won’t have sex w you for a while. So then you have to lie. I think everyone has lied at one time in their life. Some lies may have been to protect the feelings of others. Maybe a mother or father lies to their child to get them to do what they want. Manipulation. The husband lying to his wife that she hasn’t gained weight. The wife or girlfriend lying to her man that she has a headache to get out of having sex w him.

[Crazzyyworld]

I theory is that... men don't love anyone. They just find a woman interesting to have sex with. I mean they can fuck anyone. They just think men are boring. so when they are with women, they think it's ok to lie as long as he is having fun. I mean... who loves women? Women hate women too. so there we go. no one loves us they just using us for fun.

[Asker]

We're only recreational use to men if we allow it. And men are extremely boring.

[Crazzyyworld]

on second though... all men are coward.

[bobalife]

Guys lie about anything small or big things to look good…. and get a chance rather it’s talking, dates, sex, or etc
The most common one is to agreed with most of your opinions & values even if it may not be true to get on our good side 🙄 this site has been a proven fact to this as well.

[MisterWack]

The same reason girls lie?
We are human so, we all have the potential to: Cover things up, hold a surprise to be revealed later, keep secrets, be deceptive, manipulate, to spare people’s feelings, etc.

That is all.

[D_D_D]

Why would you even wanna date someone whose life style doesn't meet yours? I know I love to drink and party it's a stress relief for me and if a girl is not into it we probably don't fit together cuz if it means altering my entire life style for her and be miserable all the time then it's not worth it and we're not a match.
Also, everybody lies when given the opportunity if it's motivated by something it just depends how far you're willing to go that way and it's not a matter of gender or race it's simply depends on your reasons and how far you're willing to take it.
Personally I hate lying but occasionally you have to lie.. whether if it's to protect someone's feelings or if it's just something private or embarrassing that nobody should know about then it's okay to lie.

[Asker]

I would assume lying about having a girlfriend means you're embarrassed of them? And I don't drink or smoke bc there's other stress relievers and I don't like having hangovers or smelling like tobacco and shit.

[D_D_D]

Lol no that's fucked up thing on its own I agree.. but regarding the drinking and smoking.. sure it's fine if you don't like it for yourself or even if you're together and he starts doing it and it bothers you then sure you're entitled to ask him to stop but if he's been doing it before you were together or even known each other then I don't think you should make him change to be with you I personally think you should simply find someone more suited for you instead of going around changing the world to make it match. Unless of course you feel it's a catch or true love or whatever and is worth fighting for then sure but the change and acceptance gotta be mutual, and if he doesn't respect you enough to tell you the truth then he's a dick and you deserve much more than that.
(But that's just my opinion, I hope I didn't offend you or anything)

[Asker]

It's fine if he drinks and smokes but I don't want to partake and if the drinking/smoking is excessive - I don't want to deal with that either. Most of my past relationships they endulged but when heavily engulfing I left them all. I especially didn't want those genes passed down to my child once I had children. Alcoholism was a past generational curse in my family so that's why I'm against it. I've seen enough relatives die

[D_D_D]

I'm sorry to hear that I hope I didn't cross any boundaries or anything or hurt you in a way my apologies..
I only meant that you deserve better than a lying sack of shit and life to too short don't waste your time on people who don't deserve you and don't meet up to your requirements.
I sincerely hope you'll find the perfect guy for you who meets all your wishes and truly loves you enough to be honest with you 😊🙏

[Asker]

Thanks!

[ProbablyClueless]

People who lie are doing it out of convenience and a desire to be seen in a particular way.

I used to have a friend who would lie to me constantly. I eventually pieced together that the reason he was doing it was because he wanted to impress me.

[Asker]

Ah so he must see me as some holy divine thing if he's swearing singledom and no drugs/alcohol consumptiom

[Kelley1]

Because women punish guys by denying sex for telling the truth and they reward guys with sex if they lie. If a hot guy lies and tells you, "You are the girl I have always wanted," you will reward him with sex. However, if the tells the truth and says, "You are good enough for sex when I'm horny, but you are not good enough to marry," you will punish him by denying sex.

[MicahRaine]

Guys lie for the same reasons that girls lie:

• To get what they want
• To not get exposed for previous lies
• And also because in this terrible society, lying is more acceptable then telling the truth.

[Asker]

Yeah this society is pretty trash

[MicahRaine]

Yep. We're a part of society though, so we have a role to play. We CAN make things better just with everyday actions!

[Asker]

I'm checking out of humanity

[MicahRaine]

Nooo whyyy there's still hope I swear lol

[Asker]

I doubt it

[MicahRaine]

🥲 tough

[Billlewis]

We get squeezed out of that slippery slit, spend the rest of our days trying to get back up in that motha fucka

[Jbear27]

Haha nice

[Asker]

He's definitely trying but can't get nothing long distance

[PeachyPie93]

Just trying to trick his way into your pants. That is why the majority of most men lie they are either trying to get into your pants, or they don't want you to know they are trying to get into someone else's.

[RavVid]

He lied on the off chance he could get into your pussy of course

[Asker]

So why did he come clean about the girlfriend?

[RavVid]

Facebook I'd guess. You might post something that would catch his girlfriend's attention. I'm not on facebook so don't know much about it but you can respond to stuff can't you?

[Asker]

Yeah I'm on his posts and he replies back to me daily. But he doesn't know I know who his girlfriend is. He just told me he went to see his long distance girlfriend for 2 weeks

[Purpleronnie]

I think what irk’s me the most other than you inferring it’s only guys that lie is the fact that you care enough about this asshole to ask the question on here? Really?
People lie , for a huge and varied tally of reasons. Get over it !

[Asker]

Yeah I asked it her bc this is the site for it. You can give a reason or you can gaslight yourself into believing not all men. Pathetic

[Purpleronnie]

And this is also the site where people like myself give their opinions , you asked for them you got them I don’t care if you like my opinion you don’t have to but I’m certainly not wrong ! I never said that men don’t lie , read it again !!! As for gaslighting myself your use of the term is completely wrong. Gaslighting is being manipulated by someone into thinking you can’t trust your own thoughts , feelings and experiences , so how am I doing that to myself here? What’s pathetic is getting all sore about being told lies and then asking why do ALL guys lie , you knew that? .

[Asker]

If it's a question it's demanding an answer not an opinion. That's common sense and common use of English grammar. I asked a question why men lie. You didn't answer why so you chose to gaslight and avoid the question

[Purpleronnie]

You’re a simpleton , the app asks for opinions , it’s all over the app , the owner likes your “opinion” , you gave the MHO most helpful “opinion” you need to wake up !! , take a look through the site and check for answers , you wiont find many. And for the last time I never gaslighted anyone , again , check the definition of gaslighting I answered by saying that guys and girls lie , and to get over it , which is actually fair advice ! nobody can answer why men or women lie specifically because it’s not all for the same reason is it? You fail to understand that whether you like it or not my opinion is mine and you can’t correct it as it’s mine. I didn’t avoid any question because there is no answer to give. How long do you need to keep this going?

[Asker]

Your DARVO nonsense doesn't work genius. You're just wasting paragraphs

[Purpleronnie]

My Darvo nonsense? Do you actually think about the terms you use? , you know what , play the victim , I simply have no more time to waste on someone who just can’t accept that they have completely misinterpreted my initial response. You’re wrong and you know it so you deflect and counter trying to manipulate the conversation using terms you don’t fully understand. There is no abuse here , just your misunderstanding of my initial response / opinion that you have escalated and exaggerated beyond reason.

When people express an opinion that you either don’t understand or don’t agree with , you simply either ignore it or agree to disagree as it’s just an opinion we all have differences of opinion , it’s just a fact

So spare me your amateur psychology, there is no gaslighting or darvo , just a difference of opinion …. That’s it !!!

[Asker]

Keep writing paragraphs not explaining the point

[Purpleronnie]

🥱… u still here

[Asker]

Its my question. The intelligence just isn't here for you 😆

[Purpleronnie]

HAHAHAH…. yeah whatever

[strangeatcircleK]

It's tricky to know for sure because every guy is different. Sure he could be trying to be a player, being careful to check his calendar book not to mix with any other girls.

But sometimes I think it could be fear, it could be privacy concerns, it could be uncertainty, a lack of trust...

I don't the think it's always for one simple reason

[loveslongnails]

Everyone lies, some more than others, some a LOT more than others, and some almost ALL the time. In this case, he probably wanted to get into your panties and was ready to tell you anything that would accomplish that end. Why he thinks it's acceptable behavior is a totally different question.

[Nikki1989]

Most are hard-wired to lie. They are born that way.

[loveslongnails]

As the imaginary Dr. Gregory House said: "Everybody lies". Women are not immune. Everybody lies.

[Kingofkings1992]

You girls on gag are funny. Stating the opposite of what is true

[MackBoy]

Nobody is perfect in this world and whether it is man or a woman each person commits a mistake. That is why every religion has forgiveness to be asked from their God. just because you can be forgiven it doesn't mean that you can make as you can. even my girlfriend lie to me but I don't take it seriously even though I trust her very much.

[rienna888]

He lies because people have accepted it throughout his life. Likely, he lied to girls before and they all took him back. He never faced any consequences for them.

[WhitneySnow]

He wants to hook up with you so he tells you what you want to hear

[SugarSugarplum]

I would not give another thought to such a person. Imagine being married to him with 3 kids, and everything he says is a lie? I see no future here.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

It's because words are NOTHING. Find someone who will take real actions and prove themselves to you.

[genericname85]

well this particular guy obviously lies to get some more pussy. it's different for everyone.

[Sharkstealth]

I know a guy that when he opens his mouth he is always lying. In fact I have known several in my life. The whole boyfriend girlfriend claims I have heard both guys and girls lie quite a lot in my life.

[princessprettyxoxo]

Because when they want they want and lying has always helped them get to it, they’ll keep doing it. It’s like an impulse. It’s like an addiction

[Anonymous]

Everyone lies, but this dude was lying because he was trying to bang you.

[Friendlybro79]

Some guys... why do some lie? Because some people lie. And some people are liars. That's literally how simple it is. They just don't care to be honest.

[Angelo75]

Well for the same reason that women lie.

Men and women are both human beings living in the same world.

[Anonymous]

This is extreme narcissist behavior at best and psychopath at worst. Stay away from him. Let him get some psycho pathetic bitch and they can make one another miserable.

[spartan55]

He wants to look good for you, even if it involves lying.

[spartan55]

This isn't 🚀 rocket science.

[spartan55]

Update: great, so what are you gonna do?

[Bety23]

Wow that crazy I do not know why guy lie I trying to figure it out myself cause sometimes I catch my boyfriend lying to me I feel women are more upfront

[CharlieCutePredator]

Because they are all liars, pathetic, dumb
Look at the life on earth, it is doomed because of them.

[Anonymous]

because they've been feminized by feminists to avoid the truth

[Asker]

Disgusting

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Same reason women lie.

To get what they want.

[KrakenAttackin]

So you dumped a good man and now are dating lying thugs. Good one.

[Asker]

I had his child and he left. He wasn't a good man. He just wasn't a liar

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... So why make a baby with him?

[Asker]

His penis made the baby. He magically busted the condom. My body decided to keep it a secret without letting me know past 20 weeks. I went in for a check up and they said I was 24 weeks and abortion is illegal past 20 weeks 🤷🏽‍♀️

[Asker]

But I love my offspring. His dad is just lame but at least he spends time with him

[In_Trance]

For the same reason girls do

[TonyMetal___86]

Just like the girls they lie!
You know that not everyone lies!

[Anonymous]

Same reason women lie. Its comical that women ask these obviously sexist questions when the truth is staring them in the mirror.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

The same reason a woman might

TO GET AWAY WITH IT

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Because they are humans and humans are liars.

[Asker]

I don't like humans. I despise them all except babies and children

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker I feel your pain. I was thinking this the other day. Nothing turns me on like an Honest Hoe. Im tired of the sneaky shit

[Asker]

Facts frfr

[Anonymous]

Some guys lied to get what they want if it works for them

[Nirmroth]

So he could flirt with you

[DrPepper12]

Same reason girls do i suppose...

[Asker]

Girls lie for safety

[DrPepper12]

Thats ALMOST true but a POV i hadn't considered. TY

[Fireguy17]

Same reason that women lie, because they can.

[Grond21]

Do you mean, why do people lie?

[legalboxers]

same as you ladies do the same

[Asker]

What do ladies lie about?

[legalboxers]

Age for one. Last person I was with lied about her age. Ex fiancee lied about what she did for work

[Asker]

Lying about work is so the man doesn't take advantage. Same with age. We know how obsessed men are about youth in women. They think maturation is automatic

[captain_voidwalker]

People lie, get better and decering the truth

[Billlewis]

@captain_voidwalker You got that right. You what women, s favorite one is? The sick relative. " My aunt's in the hospital.'

[Asker]

I deciphered the truth the first week I met him. I'm just wondering why it took long for him to come clean

[jahaims]

The same reason why anyone lies. To manipulate

[ButtNakedMan]

I don't lie. I just... get naked.

[MacDaddyRico]

Ditch him, he's toxic.

[Anonymous]

For much the same reason women do.

[Kingofkings1992]

For the same reasons all humans lie

[Skyros]

Everyone lies, even kids lie.

[Skyros]

The reason is we’re all sinners.

[DishLady]

Why does anyone lie?

[Anonymous]

Why are you still talking to him?

[Danny_dan92]

Everyone lies

[HotManPlayboy]

Just because

[moneymagnet24]

😂😂😂

[NotSlowestSloth]

He just rejected you