Did my boyfriend fall asleep, cheating, or ignoring me?

[Anonymous]

He was out at the bar and we were having great conversation for a long time and then he just suddenly stopped texting me. I've been texting him for the past three hours and no response. That's not like him. Usually he'll call me after the bar but he didn't tonight.

Maybe he fell asleep but it doesn't explain why he didn't text me back and let me know he was going to bed.

Usually he would tell me. I'm concerned because last time he said a girl came on to him.

I know he's a good guy and wouldn't do that so maybe he just fell asleep?

[Anonymous]

1. He fell asleep.

2. His phone died.

3. He forgot because he's out with his friends.

4. His friend got mad & stepped on his phone because why the fuck is he glued to it when he's supposed to be making memories and having fun. That would piss me the fuck off.

The fact that you jump to the worst possible scenario just because he stopped responding one time is ridiculous. Extra ridiculous considering he already had a long conversation with you when the man was OUT WITH HIS FRIENDS

Being your man must be exhausting.

[Danny_dan92]

What’s the last thing he said?

[Asker]

What boat?

He was responding to my question about being on a boat.

[Danny_dan92]

Hmm… yeah I don’t think he “fell asleep”

Does he normally tell you he is going to bed/ “goodnight” ?

[Asker]

Yes he does. That's why its so strange.

[Danny_dan92]

Not a good sign… sorry

[Asker]

Oh ok thanks.

[Danny_dan92]

Best case scenario… his phone died. Or he got so shit faced he stopped textinf

[Asker]

That's what I'm hoping. That his phone just died or he just got so shit faced like you said that he stopped texting.

[Danny_dan92]

Do you live together?

[Asker]

No we don't. We live almost 2 hours away from each other.

[Danny_dan92]

Oh fuck… honestly there are so many possibilities… way more bad than good ones honestly.

Not to be negative, more so realistic and honest… this is why I hate alcohol and don’t go out like that.

[Asker]

Yeah I know. That's why I'm concerned. He's never not called me after a bar session no matter how drunk he's gotten. It's strange and I'm honestly concerned. Last time he said a girl came on to him and wanted him to go back to her house. But he turned her down. I just hope that didn't happen again.

[Danny_dan92]

Oh yikes.

[Asker]

Yeah

[Danny_dan92]

Well good luck. Hopefully your man isn’t a drunk man hoe

[Asker]

Thanks. Hopefully he's not!

[Anonymous]

He’s out with his friends bro, is he really expected to be texting back and for with the entire time? Like god damn you sound insecure and insufferable. I feel sorry for this man, having to keep you reassured constantly otherwise you don’t know how to control your emotions. If you trust him then own it. Yes he could get hit on but he can’t control what others do, only what he can do. So have some damn faith that he isn’t out cheating if you really trust him. Otherwise you’re lying to yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s crazy for you to be like this over him not texting back and forth all night anyway. “We were having a great conversation”, liiike can he be out at the bar?

[Asker]

Yes he can but he usually calls me when he's done at the bar. It's weird that he hasn't called or at least let me know he made it home okay.

[Opinion Owner]

You say he can but clearly he can’t, because when he’s not responding then you start jumping to conclusions. To me this is a sign you’ve been hurt before and never healed. Don’t put that baggage onto another guy, if you trust him then act like it, that means going on ahead to bed rather than doing all this.

[Asker]

True. You're right. It's probably nothing. I just hope he's truly alright and nothing bad has happened.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know girly. I think a small part is worried about safety compared to your worries about him cheating. The distance doesn’t help. Ask yourself if you’re equipped for the distance when you’re an insecure person.

[IslaTheWitch]

and how would we know?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Have you considered his battery might have gone?

[Asker]

Oh maybe so but usually he keeps it fully charged but perhaps that may be what happened. Thanks.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Anyone can forget to charge a battery on their phone on occasion. You're welcome. and I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.

[Asker]

Thanks again. I think you're probably right. That's probably what happened or at least I hope.

[Anonymous]

I assume your boyfriend was the one who asked you out

[kareka]

Yea maybe got drunk

[Asker]

And passed out?

[kareka]

Yess

[Asker]

Oh ok maybe so.