Men, what do you get judged on the most in society?

Question

For women it's looks but I'm wondering what it is for men?

MisterWack · Accepted Answer

Maybe, it is coming across the ‘wrong way’?

I remember getting flustered about the Grammy ‘Rock And Roll Hall of Fame’ and a woman thought I was upset just because a woman was going to be featured which wasn’t the issue, the issue was people being added that weren’t in the genre. Janis Joplin, Grace Slick, Stevie Nicks, Jackie Chambers, Lita Ford, etc. are great rockin’ women yet this person absolutely wanted non rock genre individuals entered since I came across as ‘sexist’. When I made it clear that certain acts pissed me off being added since they didn’t fit the genre, wasn’t a matter of woman V. man culture wars BS.

There are times when in public (back in school), I wanted to express “I like your shoes” or “Love that outfit” to my female peers though didn’t want to come across like flirting when I would be friendly… And some find it off putting of a boy to compliment a woman so, I had these irrational fears from it when I just wanted them to feel good about themselves and go on with their day with a smile.

I saw a lot of young male fans gawk at a female athlete in support and love from her Instagram page then the media made it about how these guys were creeps / stalkers obsessed with her when in reality a lot of young female fans gawked at male entertainers (think boy bands for example) which they never get pushed as creeps / stalkers obsessed with them… I see it as fans whether they have a crush or not, just wanting to see their celebrity in person which is fine when not taken to the extreme.

That is how I feel. There are us in the male space that are looked at as ‘wrong way’(sexist, horny, and see women only as objects when that isn’t the case for the majority of us)

Love and support all you beautiful sweet kind members of the GAG community, bless you and have a lovely rest of your week and a lovely weekend coming up. Bye

Wallythewalrus2 · Accepted Answer

I'm gonna say height. I'm assuming you mean physical appearance? Next time you talk to a female friend, ask her to describe some guy you both know. 9 out of ten times, the first descriptive word they'll use is, "short" or "tall".

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

I'm not a man but I think they do get judged on appearance much more than they used to. Especially maybe whether they have 'a bulld' like biceps, broad chest, not a pouchy tummy.

And then next to that career. If a man says he works in a supermarket as opposed to a bank he will be judged despite fact both men are showing stability and reliability in going to work full time and bring home a pay check.

Men think they are judged on penis size... I think that's mainly in men's heads more than women's tho. I think we care about a good man and great sex and that is not dependant on a specific size/shape etc!

SeriouslyNotSerious · Accepted Answer

From another pov, and hearing it most of the time, men are frequently judged by their career.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Financial security has to be up there on the list.

ManOnFire · Answer

Your relationship status:  men who are single get judged, abused, and scrutinized at a far greater rate than women who are single. And men can be even nastier about it to each other than women can be towards a man. Your job and how much money you make:  that still remains to be a big judgment factor on men, and mostly from women. Being thought of as a predator:  if a guy flirts with women people tend to think of him as a horny loser who could be dangerous. If a woman flirts with men, nobody thinks that.

Lionman95 · Answer

I would say looks is also a part because it´s a myth that only men are visual. It might be more important for guys but women are also picky when it comes to how a guy should look. Other things is a guy´s job as a low paid guy has fewer chances with women.

But generally speaking anything can be a reason to judge a guy in modern society. Since a guy has problems if people think he´s too masculine as that´s considered obsessive and controlling. If he tries to not been seen as masculine he´s beta/weak/effiminite so bad as well. If he´s in the middle he could be as boring/average/mediocre.

There is no way a guy is not judged. If he keeps his emotions for himself he´s emotional unavailable/distanced, if he´s open with his opinions he´s a cry baby.

There´s no way not be judged by people.

Universaldance · Answer

What don’t they get judged for?

It’s relative to the environment they’re in. But pretty much everything that has to do with their gender as far as if they are masculine… is their style a representation of that, is their car, their financial management, emotions, behavior, character, hobbies, etc down to how they interact with everyone and every thing around them. It does become more relative as a man is judged around certain culture as well. In other foreign culture, they will be appreciated

blueonblack22 · Answer

Men often judged for things that are  completely out of their control  (height, age, etc.) more often than women do.  At least if you are overweight you can put in the effort to improve that. It’s not easy at all but it can be done. But what the hell can a short man do?

jahaims · Answer

It depends on the context. For example a 35 year old is going to be judged differently than a 20 year old. I get judged by people for being a stay at home dad. Especially if they don't know I am wealthy/retired. I think it is common for males to get judged when they do anything that is feminine.

Kaneki05 · Answer

For sure Looks.
The only real reason someone friend zones you if they like everything about you is due to looks.
Maybe there is a niche type of a person who's in it for the money but I think that's much less common and even less so with girls who I talk to. If they were in for that they wouldn't been interested in me in the first place.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Not sure if it's because I'm a man, but I play video games and have had the same group of friends for most of my life who I hang out a few times a month. I have zero interest in making new friends. A lot of people assume I have absolutely no social life.

I know some girls who are more homebodies with a small group of friends and they dont seem to get much shit for it.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

My height.
Otherwise, people, all my life, even my own family, have treated me like some kind of idiot when I'm a few points shy of borderline genius. There's also been quite a few people tell me I'm ugly.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Probably how society sees women regard us. How much money we earn is kind of similar to women's relationship with appearance, but it's not really a one-to-one comparison for men. Looks is to women as women's perceptions is to men.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Lots of stuff but usually as of late it seems like it's more career/money and how you look then anything else.

It's always fun when someone finds out you have a blue collar manual labor job and stereotypes you as uneducated and poor -_-.

RetroReviews · Answer

Probably how much money I make I remember years ago when chatting with a woman online she's like so what's the balance in your bank account right now? My answer was goodbye

LiamJHayden · Answer

For me it has been education level. I dropped out of college before sophomore year because my business was doing so well. Since then, I have been rejected several times for not having a degree, usually by women who earn a fraction of what I do.

turnpost · Answer

Financial Status and our behavioral decisions in how we would take care of things. Once married few should be seeing me as option for intercourse hence

The looks thing is very much like 30 marriage age thing after that I can't imagine it being that much of a big deal unless the wife is the type of moron who married a guy and hated his height.

KlinkyCoder · Answer

Talking about their problems as men. When women talk about their problems it is them opening up. When men try to speak up about anything negative they experience as men, other men and women say it is misogyny regardless if it is directly about women or not.

strangeatcircleK · Answer

Thank you for asking this question 🙂

It's hard being my prospective

But overall...

Financially and Stereotypical Male knowledge

Along with, "never trust a man", mentality

If no one trusts you, how can you trust yourself

adventurous-1 · Answer

my value, as I'm now retired I don't seem to have any.

Avicenna · Answer

I'm going to say it's the perceived quality of the woman we date or are married to (yeah, there may be a difference of opinion on that quality), in large part because that is a proxy for how desirable and successful a guy is.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Being single is considered a life failure. The term incel is thrown around so much because no one gives a second thought about judging men for this. And to add to this dogpile, young women these days often seem to have higher partner expectations in terms of good looks, height, etc.

worldscolide · Answer

If you're a single dad with his kids, you're either incompetent, a tragedy, or worse you're seen as a predator.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Status , since that can mean your ability to do things, achievements, how you carry yourself, or wealth.  Similar to looks for women in that one thing can cover a wide range of stuff they can be judged on.

Billlewis · Answer

I get hammered frequently by the 'ageheads'.

Dongie · Answer

I guess I would really have to try hard to give a shit what society thinks or judges me for. I'm not sure that I could even get half way there without cracking up.😂

Skinhead-1979 · Answer

That I have never been able to stay in stable employment and that I have now been deemed unfit for work.

People think I am lazy and can't be arsed.

I've been diagnosed with Complex PTSD, may have Agoraphobia, have had 5 suicide attempts... but yeah, there's nothing wrong with me and I am just lazy...

It's not like I have tried to find stable employment; I've been a chef for 22 years... Though admittedly that has of course not been continuous employment.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I think men get judge most on what they've accomplished in life

MrOracle · Answer

As a man, when I get introduced to anyone, within the first 3 questions I get is "so, what do you do for a living?" And men are DEFINITELY judged based on that answer.

Wiredone · Answer

I get judged on my ability to perform my job. My customers depend on me to fix their problems

tfan1 · Answer

Not me personally but in general - Penis size probably in this day and age.

SpeedAnswerDemon · Answer

[Speed answer demon has entered the chat] HEIGHT AND PEEN SIZE OH MEH GOD

Pegases · Answer

How much money I have/make, the kind of job I have, the kind of car I drive, my height, my "print". .

fuddly · Answer

It is a good question Maybe, we're judged on  success Looks Sense of humour /being funny Being easy going

convo_king89 · Answer

income and being pervs/shallow. And being in shape. Companies have no problem putting topless guys in their ads basically saying we’re lazy and a fat ass with out worrying about blowback.. put a girl in a bikini/sun dress on the ad somebody will complain saying it’s sexist.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I get positively judged for not following trends or being ''adapted'' :)

WhitneySnow · Answer

I bet it’s how much money they make. Either that or how good they are at sports.

AviatorTom · Answer

I don't notice society judging me. If anything, a guy would get judged on his intelligence.

nawtee_me · Answer

For all of those that say it doesn’t matter, penis size…. lol. No just kidding. Probably our ability/inability to be selfless/ selfishness. Or, maybe not listening….

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Job, money (or lack thereof), overall status.

Nifrayu · Answer

I have definitely been judged for looks more than anything else. Nothing else really comes to mind.

hello123456789 · Answer

There are a few categories that men get judged. Income is usually the highest on the list.  1. Job/Income (Socioeconomic status) 2. Height 3. Vehicle 4. Style

Hgfgbbgf · Answer

Jeez, just about everything hahaha. Our looks/physique, our height, money, our status, education/intelligence, confidence, humour, size of our manhood and everything you can think of.
Many trivial things too.

Women are just judged on their beauty, and they have the tools to falsify it. Other then that just don’t be a wh*re. Women can even get away with so much bad behaviour and delusional thinking.

It’s almost like god hates men. Yet we’re somehow so ‘privileged.’

Titanic1912 · Answer

I get picked on all the time for my autism! I just process things very differently and slowly.

Imsmurter1 · Answer

I don't think men are judged as heavily as women but on the flip side we also receive less support, attention, and resources.

standardguy · Answer

For "chauvinist" behaviour like watching women because they are sexy and a pleasure for the eyes.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Success, being capable of overcoming all odds without showing weakness

Anonymous · Answer

Most of the time its just existing if you take into the account the way they are portrayed in film/main stream and social media!

Unit1 · Answer

Poor Looks (previously) and no money 😡👿

Lynx122 · Answer

I think mostly looks tbh. I didn't realize how extreme it was cause I was clueless but today looks is the most important thing.

Sharkstealth · Answer

At the gym I go to young girls are always following me out to see the car I'm driving. I'm not a young girl and I own more than one. Maybe they want to see if the windows are tinted so that we can play with each other in the lot?

scooogy · Answer

Mostly my words. Had decided to withdraw and talk far less, which makes others wonder though.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I don't know and I don't care. I have other important things to worry about.

Anonymous · Answer

Height, money, status, penis size, muscular build, etc

BetaBucks · Answer

For my standards for women

A_Nihilist · Answer

Money, height, ambition, career, living with your mother.

Berethor · Answer

Strength, you can google the men are strong, women are pretty trope.

Anonymous · Answer

Height, physique & how badly you stare at other women.

NathanDavis · Answer

never had that issue

VoyeurGuy · Answer

Material possessions & social status.

moneymagnet24 · Answer

If I get fresh apple juice from between her legs every morning then Society judge me as a gentleman...

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Almost everything. From jobs, income, looks, height, physique, etc.

llorando · Answer

The actions of a minority of men who are complete ace holes.

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