Guys, Why do most guys like most women?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

I have been saying the same thing almost daily for 13 years here, and still, most women don't understand the difference between a man LUSTING after a woman and wanting to bang her, and a man having romantic feelings and wanting a relationship with her.

The average man is willing to bang around 60-70% of the women who are in a reasonable age range from him. THIS is what the girl is talking about who wrote this phrase, EXCEPT it's clear that the THINKS she's talking about men having romantic feelings - but the average man only has romantic feelings for maybe 5% of the women in his age range. Those feelings are mostly NOT based on sexual attraction but rather on her personality, attitude, and behavior.

Women confuse and conflate these two issues constantly, and it causes them to endlessly draw the wrong conclusions and make the wrong choices. I understand that, for women, love and lust are very connected, but for men, they are two entirely different things that just happen to have overlap. Women need to always remember that, when they're thinking about a man, lust and love are completely separate things.

[Asker]

I never said anything about romantic feelings

[MrOracle]

If the problem is that guys have a desire to bang most women, well, I'm afraid that's how men are made. We had to be - for most of history, there was always a serious shortage of men, due to wars, dangerous jobs, travel, and disease - and this meant that men often needed to marry or otherwise take on multiple women, and give them all children. For most of history, children were your only "retirement plan" - if you didn't have kids, you could never "retire" even in old age, or even if you were sick or injured. Not having kids effectively meant not being protected or provided/cared for if you were unable to take care of yourself, and that could mean dying a horrible and premature death.

As such, it was HUGELY important, to women especially, to have children - especially with men being killed in wars, dangerous jobs, etc. And the only way to survive was to replace the men that were killed, which means repopulating. Thus, the men who survived needed to be attracted to a wide variety of women, because if they weren't, the ones that weren't attractive would die, often horribly.

[MrOracle]

Men's desire for multiple and varied women was quite literally bred into us - it is Natural Selection at work, just as women look for the strongest, highest-status man she can attract - that's the other side of the same coin.

Scientists believe it takes around 1,000 generations (about 20,000 years for humans, on average) to make a noticeable change to a mammalian instinct - based on testing done on mammals with much shorter lifespans. We only have known written history for 8,000 years, so that gives you some idea of how long 20,000 years is. In any case, you aren't going to be able to change how men work - the best you can do is understand how they work and why, and use that information wisely.

[Asker]

That's doesn't make sense. Men could have just avoided the ugly women. And mated with the beautiful women since they were more desired. 🙄 Or the ugly men mated with the ugly women?

[MrOracle]

So, the ugly women should have just been left to die? Or be enslaved or raped or otherwise abused? You think that was the right way to go?

[Asker]

No but you're speaking from an survival of the fittest perspective. Which is a real flawed theory.

[MrOracle]

Not at all. The world is and has always been a difficult and dangerous place to survive. The "modern world" has only existed a few hundred years, and, really, only the last 120 years has been reasonably safe and comfortable, especially for women who are at a physical disadvantage to violent criminals (who tend to be men).

There's a good bet that if I took you less than 40 miles from wherever you are right this minute, and you had to survive for a week in that spot (i. e., you couldn't go more than half a mile from a given spot), even if I made sure there was a source of water available to you. Even if I guaranteed that no criminal would mess with you, you are unlikely to be able to survive 7 days outdoors on your own even within 40 miles of your own house. Most people today could not, because most people have never had to and so they have no idea what to do. And if you think it's simple and easy, that's only because you've never had to do it.

Natural Selection - i. e., survival of the fittest and thus the most successful traits for survival and reproduction being amplified (and non-successful traits being muted) is ABSOLUTELY how evolution works.

[Anonymous]

Men need to learn how to have STANDARDS…. Not every woman is gonna treat you like a king. Not every woman is going to put the same effort into a relationship that you are. Not every woman is going to make you happy long term.

Have standards. If you don’t know what you’re looking for then sure date (DATING ISN'T SEX) around and see who you feel more compatible with and who you don’t.

A lot of men judge women on the outside. Some people can look good on the outside and be a horrible disgusting individual on the inside. If all some men are looking for is sex. Let them waste whores time who are wanting the same thing. At least they aren’t wasting yours. If that’s all they care about. They are going to find women who that’s all they have to offer

[Asker]

Wonderfully said. 👍

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks asker

[Randomdude849245]

Simple. I'm a heterosexual man. If you mean visually then yes. There's more attractive women out there in the world than not. If you mean personality than I'm way too picky actually.

[Asker]

I see a lot of average people not beautiful

[Avicenna]

lol, at most most guys will have sex with most women, but like? Nah...

[Asker]

You have to find them attractive in order to have sex though. So yes most men like (attracted) to most women.

[Avicenna]

Liking is not merely physical attraction

[Asker]

I'm not talking about liking as a person

[Avicenna]

Beig willing to have sex with a woman isn't anything particularly special. We're hardwired for that.

[Asker]

How do you find most women attractive though?

[Avicenna]

Not most, no, and it's going to vary with age. I don't see many women older than me that I find attractive, but most women in their 20s are at least somewhat attractive to me.

[Massageman]

Females have relationships first, and then the sex. Males have the sex first, and then the relationship. Somewhere, sometime, some two people are going to HAVE to meet in the middle!

[NamerOfStars]

Because SOMEONE has to be mature enough to not demand perfection.

[jahaims]

They receive different brainwashing

[DrPepper12]

Cuz theyre hot AF?

[Asker]

Most women are not

[DrPepper12]

False. There is always a feminity hiding under the grotesqueness