How long should you wait until a guy sets a plan for a date?

[Anonymous]

Heyyy

So we met on Hinge and he seemed very interested.

On Saturday we started talking about meeting sometime soon.

Might put in the exact time line xD:

1. Late on Saturday evening I suggested that we could meet on either Monday or Tuesday.

At about 11pm he agreed on Tuesday and asked what I fancied on doing.

2 . Next morning (which was Sunday). I replied that "maybe we could grab a bite?".

I sent that early on Sunday morning.

Today is Monday already and there's still no reply from him.

We are supposed to meet tomorrow. How long should I wait for him to confirm that he's ok with getting food before planning on doing something else tomorrow?

He said Mondays are busy for him but I haven't received a reply a whole day yesterday and don't think it would take that long to set a quick plan if a guy wants to meet you?

Am I being ghosted here? xD

FYI, I'm 31, he's 4 years older.

[Anonymous]

If I were you I’d consider the date cancelled, even if he does respond. I know it would be tempting to go and you probably don’t want to chase him off, but what you also don’t want is for him to think it’s ok to have you on standby like this.

[DishLady]

So he's old enough to know better than to just leave you hanging. Just move on.

[BarryLiverstone]

Don’t wait, he’s not going to meet you on Tuesday. What did he say to let you know he was into you?

[BarryLiverstone]

At this point find other things to do on Tuesday so that even if he gets back with you then you tell him he’s gotta pick another day. He should have locked in a time on Sunday when to meet you this week

[Asker]

Thanks. I wasn't sure if I'm being unreasonable

So earlier he said I looked beautiful in the photos and that he found me lovely to chat with and he said that he's interested.

On Saturday evening I proposed Monday or Tuesday. He replied (on Saturday) that Tuesday would be better and asked What i wanted to do.

On Sunday morning I replied saying - we could grab a bit? -

And there's still no reply.

Normally I would think about checking in. But in this case I already proposed an activity and asksd him a question (if he wants to grab a bit) to which he didn't answer.

So I would be pushing it, right?

Yeah, completely... I need to sort out my washing machine anyway so will do that 😂😂

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok so beautiful is a standard compliment and not unique to you at all. He said that at night on Saturday but I suspect he was just enjoying the chat. So no need to follow up with him as you hasn’t picked the restaurant for Tuesday right?

[Asker]

Sigh... Noooo...
He hasn't even replied if ok with grabbing a bite or not...

Man it's difficult. All the people at my workplace are married, another half are young apprentices. I work a lot, have hobbies but do them alone.

Next stop is the running club... Lol

But even so. No idea where to meet people because at the age of 30 you are sooo exhausted after work xD

[Nikki1989]

I wouldn't expect much from any guy from Hinge.

[Asker]

Haha yesss xD
We also had eachol other's insta and he seemed super sweet.

Well, anyway. I am slowly welcoming an idea pf being a lady sprinter who owns a lot of dogs haha

[bluejeansblues]

Go to nearest hospital and tell them the same

[Asker]

I stay single because of men like you.
Been told 1000 times that I'm expecting too much. Now when I'm trying to be accommodating I'm being called psychotic by a 42 year old incel on the Internet.
Grow up.

[shortster]

Two weeks