If you want to give someone a second chance how can you see if they changed if you only see them through social media or digitally?

[Anonymous]

[teamvic]

Well the pricked is people only show off the good parts about them online. So unless you got someone who is around him telling you.

You can't

[teamvic]

Problem*

[WhitneySnow]

Talk to them. Spend a long time listening to them and how they talk and how they treat you.

[Asker]

If they invite you out for coffee should you accept that invite or talk to them first?

[WhitneySnow]

Talk to them first

[Asker]

He already gave me a compliment. He said I was "perfection". I think he likes me

[WhitneySnow]

That could be a fake compliment. What was he like before he changed?

[Asker]

He was shy and introverted but very clingy sometimes. He showed interest. He wanted to hang out but I never would hang out with him. I would lean on him for emotional support. We had an argument because he felt like I was playing games and using him for attention.

[WhitneySnow]

You were

It does sound like he still really likes you. Do you like him back?

[Asker]

How was I using him? I just wanted to be friends.

He does like me. He likes all of my posts on social media. I'm not really attracted to him because I'm a 6'0 woman and he is like 5'7. It would look weird

[WhitneySnow]

Then if you’re not attracted to him it’s probably best not to go out with him for coffee

[Asker]

Absolutely. You said I was using him, why do you think that?

[Fanfare690]

Because you were using him for emotional support

[Asker]

You don't lean on your friends for emotional support?

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe you weren’t using him. It’s just that from the way you described him and your relationship with him it kinda sounded like you were. But I might’ve been wrong.

[kylee2437]

There’s no way to really see that unless if you do decide to give them that second chance.