Jewish boyfriend and issues?

[Anonymous]

We've had a romantic history together, but circumstances prevented us from being together when we first met, leaving unresolved feelings and a sense of unfinished business. We've now been dating for eight months, and everything has been great both emotionally and physically.

However, one issue deeply bothers me: his activism. I was aware of his far-left political leanings, but in recent years, they've become more pronounced. Despite being Jewish with an Israeli father, he actively supports pro-Palestinian causes, including groups like Hamas. He and his brothers have frequently participated in pro-Palestinian protests and only engage with one-sided narratives. Additionally, he views migrants as eternal victims and labels anyone advocating for controlled migration as fascists or racists. Before we started dating, he was heavily involved in protests and demonstrations.

Since we began our relationship, he has devoted most of his time to us, focusing on our connection, and we've avoided discussing politics. It wasn't until last Sunday that things came to a head. We had a significant argument after he mentioned how he and a few other anti-Zionist Jews dismissed concerns about antisemitism on campus, claiming they didn't feel threatened, while the majority of Jewish students were expressing fears for their safety.

This stance really upset me, leading to a major argument. I told him that his biased and unfair activism made us incompatible and suggested we part ways. However, he refused, saying he loves me and wants to put our political differences aside.

Now, I'm at a loss. He hinted that he initially got involved in student activism years ago because he felt unsafe as a Jew and wanted to make friends and gain acceptance. But the fact that he's still so deeply involved at nearly 30 leaves me unsure of how to proceed.

What should I do in this situation?

[oppai1]

To me politics wouldn't be that big of a deal but if he makes it such a big part of his personality maybe it's hard to ignore and just move on. If he wants to prioritize you over activism that's a good sign, like he wants to put his passionate beliefs aside for your relationship. So I would just avoid getting into heated arguments as much as possible and make it clear that you have your opinions too and you don't want to be labeled as anything nasty like racist for what you believe.

[DrPepper12]

This is NOT gonna work. He's a true believer and I'm not judging him using anyway but the fact is he's in deep. You would be looking at a lifetime of arguments and compromises if you were to stay with him.

[Billlewis]

Have you discussed this with him recently?

[Asker]

Yes and wrote about the argument above