Why does my husband have many online relationships with woman?

[Anonymous]

I have been married to him 15 years, he is the perfect husband to me and an amazing father. I want for nothing, and we have a very happy life together. Since we have been together I have always found him talking to other woman on social networking platforms and way back in the past, dating sites. This hurt so much but sadly I have became used to it. I know it’s nothing more than an online fantasy. He always maintains these are friends only, and he’s not interested in meeting them. I do believe since hitting 40 he has calmed down, or found less time or interest in talking to random woman…. But he keeps the same 4 around and engages in weekly, daily, lengthy conversations with them. They are usually platonic but on occasions I have found sexual photos from these woman.

one he says he’s never met in person, she lives the other side of the country. One we both befriended years ago through a car company club, I lost contact with her but he kept it up, the other is a wife of his close friend!!! And the other is a girl from high school, who he knew before me.

when I bring it up he says I’m being paranoid and they are just friends, that he has no intentions of seeing them in real life and it’s not relality, that me and the kids are his real life and he doesn’t speak to them when home with us.

I just wondered what on earth is going on in his head to want to maintain these relationships. Are they really just friends, why does he feel a need to have girl friends to talk to regularly?

[Sunnysunny123]

"It's not reality"? In his 40s? With a family, talking to his online girl friends EVERY DAY?
Woman, are you crazy? You are too late to the dum him party. You beed to talk and tell him you are not okay with this or leave his ass he can have his girl friends if they are more important than his family.

I get that people need socialising i am totaly okay with my partner having girl friends too but everything has a limit. Plus you said it was sexual HELL NO!

[Anonymous]

Are you trying to gaslight yourself ir what? You’re conpletely delusional for calling him the perfect husband. He’s a cheating asshole who doesnmt give a crap about you, your feelings and your marriage. He has zero resoect and you defend him and still call him the perfect husband. Wake tf up.

[Anonymous]

The married guys I've had sex with are usually 40 and been married 15 years because they don't get sex from their wives anymore, so sounds like he's right on time, except much more harmless than actually having sex with a young girl. Just let him do it.

[HelpfulWoman]

"perfect husband" yet at least emotionally cheating.
give over

[itsannalee]

Clearly he is asshole, most people who cheat are narcissistic.

[Nerdvana]

Do you feel his other "friendships" has affected your sex life?

[Anonymous]

He's a "team player"?

[Asker]

What does this mean? Is he truly happy for me, what do these other woman mean to him if he doesn’t even bother to see them in real life but will talk for hours via text messages. So he’s closer too than others, like the friends wife who he sees the most in person, and the old friend from school who lives in our area, so I know he sees her in passing from time to time.

[CubaPirate]

Because he's obviously an asshole