Do men get offended with repeated request to be gentle?

[Anonymous]

I’m a pretty kinky person but it physically hurts me to have rough sex from the get go. The pain is usually very minimal if we start slow and gentle and then pick up pace. Due to my past experiences I can’t help but say out loud “please be gentle” to my partner because I get scared they’ll go too rough and hurt me. They have never but I’m starting to wonder if they find the same request repeated every single time as offensive or annoying? Like I know they’ll be gentle as it’s been established but I still can’t help but blurt it out. Last time my partner kind of rolled his eyes when I asked and I’m starting to wonder if that’s a sign of annoyance.
Guys do you get annoyed when a girl asked you to go slow or be gentle while starting to make love?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I remember easing into rough sex being something I had to learn how to do when I was younger. The man should not take it personally as long as you communicate properly. Maybe when you're not having sex you should tell him how a vaginas works.

It needs time for the muscles to relax so that being rough like that can feel good and the wetter it is, the harder he can go.

Or some similar explanation

[ProbablyClueless]

Repeatedly saying it would get mildly annoying after a while, but it's not a big deal.

I would wonder if I was being too rough with her though, even if she assured me that I wasn't.

[Asker]

I don’t repeat it during. But right before penetration I’ll say “be gentle please” or “start slow please” but I just say it once right before we begin. Not multiple times during

[ProbablyClueless]

I know. I'm saying that you repeatedly telling me that before we have sex would get mildly annoying. Imagine that every time you went to cook your guy a meal, he placed his hand on your shoulder and said "please don't over cook the food."

Even if he told you that you aren't overcooking the food, it'll still fuck with your head because he's putting the idea in your head. Of course you aren't going to try to overcook the food. Who would try to overcook food? What you're trying to do is cook food, not overcook it. You don't need a reminder every fucking time you cook that you shouldn't overcook food! lmao

[Anonymous]

Take positions of control more. Or discuss this beforehand. Certain positions first.

[slatyb]

No, and if one does, then immediately stop what you are doing and either leave or kick him out.

[worldscolide]

No. In fact I prefer over communication over not enough communication.

[Anonymous]

No guy should ever have to be reminded to be gentle... other than maybe the initial entry into her love canal. After that's been done, gentleness should be automatic

[smurfwrangler]

of course it's annoyance

[Asker]

How do I communicate that it’s just a reflex and not distrust? I have told him that I don’t ask him to be gentle because I don’t trust him, I ask him because I’m scared of pain and want to make sure it doesn’t happen

[smurfwrangler]

then you've already explained