Guys, He would if he wanted to vs Im not ready, but will when I am?

[Redwolf4821]

So, oppinion from men on the board. This isn't about a personal relationship this is a constant thing I see posted about. Often I hear/see women saying "if he wanted to he would" in regards to having a relationship with someone they like. The assumption is that if he says "I'm not ready for a relationship right now" that means he never liked them to begin with and would have drop everything to be with them.

On the flip side I have heard men say that they have chosen to refrain from relationships with women they like because they had important things they needed to accomplish first (ie financial stability, school, health usually the top three.) Knowing full well that she might not be available once he's done.

So I'm curious on what the takeaway is for this.

[CuriousHubby]

The take away is relationships are complicated. One has other things more important and just wants her along till she leaves. His job or her job is Thier only goal

The first he is not really is more emotional and baggage. From my relationship things did happen and I lost family members and needed... Time to grieve get my head on straight for it to get more serious and into married.

Was I originally ready yes. Life happened

For other guys who just say that nothing happened they probably just want the girlfriend and sex. No commitment which happens from both sides.

Only friends can tell what those people are doing and thinking.

[Redwolf4821]

That's a fair rundown and I appreciate the insight. Also my condolences. I know that was in the past but still.

[CuriousHubby]

Thanks and I appreciate it.
Just asked a relationship question about games and this sounds like it's a game people just play when pretending to date.

[Redwolf4821]

That's what it seems like, but also what I hear often. I've even had women tell me that if they don't have a ring on their finger by year 3 they dump a guy

[CuriousHubby]

Ooo well I advice the same to an extent... Having a limit on how long to be engaged or date.
Cause many times I see a girl say she has been dating 8 years no wedding or dating 5 years no engagement ring.

Usually they end in break up or the guy finally married them.

[on_my_knees]

With a heart heavy and a spirit bent low by the weight of my inadequacy, I submit to you, Mistress, my unworthy opinion: that I, @on_my_knees, a mere shadow of a man, not ready for the sacred communion of relationship, do hereby declare myself deserving of the full spectrum of my own folly. 🙇‍♂️

May I be chastised with a leash, a breast bondage, a blindfold—each a lash of my own making, a punishment I willingly embrace in penance for my unworthiness. May I be made to understand the gravity of my confession. I deserve your bare feet pressed upon my face while I recite the Mistress prayer.