He say he is happy the way things are?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys and gals

I have been seeing this guy for 6 months , we met in IRL and it’s quite cute / romantic meet. From the get go he said he wanted kids very very soon and me too. We got along along a lot laugh a lot then he did s a lot for me like fix stuff etc. He love some hugging kissing him , he always blushes etc it’s cute. We had a fight last month and since he came back to me he was even more smitten , being in his best behaviour very helpful loving etc. But still no label for the last 6 months. We hold hands we kiss outside he let some of my fam etc. I go to his place maybe twice a a week top ( he works nights) and he come to mine once a week. He is always communicating with me everyday a bit in the morning midday and late night for a pillow sweet talk. on Saturday he woke up text me something sweet being sad we weren’t with each other which is silly because I live so close to him and we hadn’t seen each other for 10 days because I was on holidays.

and now we broke up somehow because I want a label and he doesn’t he says he is happy as things are right now and that he is sorry to waste my time that it is his fault for not knowing what he wants

[DannyUk2017]

Erm... what kind of label you want? 🤔.. Olis it sounds like He told You "everything you like hear", but did you Told Him what you want besides the Kids and Sweet talks? Sounds like he is nit decided, which that can "backfire" on Both of you, at some point... such as... You become a single Mom, and he becomes a "one time father", so if you want to Avoid that you better have a talk with him to see what He actually wants to do, does he want to commit, yes/no/maybe?

[Asker]

Forget the kids it was just to say from our first date we have talked about what we were looking for (serious )
He is very present , kind and sweet I actually thought he d say ‘yes we are together we are a couple ‘ but so when I asked this week end he said ‘ I am content with what we have right now I don’t want us to move in together I just want us to see each other from time to time , maybe more though ‘ especially I have never mention or shown any sign I wanted us to move in together , I am very independent and almost bought a flat last month. So kinda don’t understand.
This week He told me are you ion tinder? Like he was upset if I was ( I am not ) and also I cheeked kiss him in the street and he asked me I did that I told him ‘because you ain’t my boyfriend ‘ and he said ´but we kissed before in the street and front of my friends ‘ and I said ´well I don’t want problem with other girls you may be sleeping with he Said ´yezh but there’s no one just you ‘

I am so lost

[DannyUk2017]

That kinda starts to make sense... i guess the "tinder" put him off... i would be put off.
As my mind would think if you're on Tinder that means you don't want Nothing serious, so i guess he is Shielding himself from the heartbreak that he might get, if you would "talk" to someone else on there...

[Asker]

I am not on tinder
I said n this guy at work was swapping all the time near me obvs to find me on tinder ´ Which he replied tou On tinder?’ I said n no but he was looking for this and stalk me I am not on tinder

[DannyUk2017]

Oh, my mistake, i Apologise... got it wrong. 🙏

[Asker]

It’s ok..

[DannyUk2017]

Thank you for Understanding 🌹☕️

[Asker]

No trouble my friend

[Anonymous]

So what are you wanting? He wanted kids soon which means sex and you were open to no label till you were not.

So you were mad it was friends with benefits and he was fine with it?

Really waited 6 months most girls don't wait 2 weeks before posting about it making the guy Thier boyfriend!

Sorry it happened and he said everything you wanted to hear.

Guess just wait till the next guy proves what he says. Not just saying it