Is he no longer interested?

Question

I’ve know this guy for a month. Recently we started hanging out in person he lives in the town 30 minutes away from mine and it was difficult for us to see eachother because he works 3 jobs and it takes over his day. We finally got to see each other and everything went great one thing lead to another while we were getting high together and we ended up having sex, we had an intimate conversation about his life and future plans some of them even sounded like he wanted me included in them. The next day we texted back and forth for hours he told me he’s really feeling me and I said the same. Few days later he asked me if I wanted him to come over after his shift he worked 12 hours and got home around 1am, I said it’s late are you sure but he told me him working is no reason for us to not plan something. He came over we smoked and talked again got really touchy and we had sex again.

The next day he told me he had a great time but he’s been tired from working 13 hours daily. For 2 days he would leave me on read but at the end of the night tell me he’s gotten home and he misses me, now this time I respond and he has left me on read for 2 days this time won’t tell me how his day was or that he made it home, I see him viewing everyone of my stores though.

Our last time seeing eacother he asked when he would see me again to which I responded I’m unsure because he works odd hours and we always plan to see eacother the day of, I’m wondering if he’s just really busy and will get back to me at some
Point by the end of the week because we both start college soon, or if he’s suddenly uninterested and is ghosting me… I’m confused and before I double text I wanted second opinions what do you guys think?

[ also about us sleeping together, we both don’t believe in having a high body count etc we didn’t even plan to sleep together it just happened]

teamvic · Accepted Answer

Hmmm well 3 jobs does sound like it'll take a lot of energy from him and a lot of time

But I will say dudes are prone to use girls for sex🤔

But if I had to give a guess based on actions here, I feel he might like you too?

So I say just give him the benefit of the doubt, cause 3 jobs is a lot

But at the same timee, if everytime y'all meet and just have sex and it's a repetitive cycle and he never asks you out for a date or to be his shawty🤔🧐🧐

Then that's a cause for concern. Cause then he may be using you for sex

It doesn't me you're worthless to him. But it may mean he just wants cheeks

But that's not something you need to worry about now I'd say

If you feel he's a good dude, and hasn't given you a reason not to trust him yet

Then I say trust what he says and just believe he's tired

Remember my friend, actions speak life than words

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I mean unfortunately sleeping with him probably ruined the chances of making a genuine connection especially if you don’t agree with that you did something wrong.

In any case be direct and ask him if he’s losing interest. If he says he is that gives you closure so you can both move on and maybe find someone whose a better fit without playing games. There is maybe something else going on too so that’s why you should ask.