Who do black guys seem more friendly and open when meeting me for the first time?

[michelle4u]

I work as a waitress, taking orders from all different kinds of people. It is my experience that black guys are the most friendly, supportive and likable of all the people I've met. I'm just curious as to why this would be?

[ManOnFire]

As a black man I can explain it to you: No.1 you have a fuller body and prettiness about you. Most black men tend to like women with fuller bodies, and white women with fuller bodies will almost always appeal to black men, and I have to admit that they are appealing to black men even when she is not attractive at all, but luckily you are.

So combine your physical appeal with your humble job - and there is not a thing wrong with you being a waitress at all - and the way you (I am assuming) give polite customer service, this will generally appeal to a lot of black men. You don't act like a stuck up white woman who feels like you're too good for your job or too good to be polite. I've worked with quite a few like you in the past so I know the full scope lol. You're good.

[michelle4u]

Thank you for the reply, I think you know me very well, and described me as if you know me. It is nice to hear your thoughts. - Michelle

[ManOnFire]

No problem🙂

[Anonymous]

I noticed the same when I was a waitress as a side hustle, and that's how I met my current fiance by the way. I never would of thought that it has to do with attraction and sexualizing but hey.. i'll ask him too hah

[1073sucks]

As opposed to the second time? 🥴

Most people are polite when meeting people.

[lightbulb27]

Black guys seem to like curvy women and maybe you have a good personality, and they want a woman.

Because the non black guys you are around are lame or married?

[michelle4u]

i kind of agree with you. Black guys will give me more than just the time of day.

[lightbulb27]

just work for commitment, some just want to use women and that's no fun with the risks. I've seen white women happy with black guys, and white guys happy with their black wife. and don't forget about japaese guys:) hahah!!:))

[katiesmuff]

Give them a chance you can get a lot more than the time of day from them!😎

[michelle4u]

@katiesmuff I have to agree with you..

[Finchie40]

Because they probably have the hots for you , and want to bend you over is my guess lol. I can’t speak for every black guy, but from what I have witnessed , with a lot of black men I came across , they like girls’ that are proportioned a certain way , basically a girl with a bigger ass and bigger tits , with some meat on her bones. I don’t want to sound stereotypical because that’s not what I am implying. It just seems that’s what they are into. Why that is? I don’t know that answer you have to ask them yourself lol

[michelle4u]

Thanks for the honest answer.

[Finchie40]

No problem, I am just an observer , I tend to observe a lot of things , not sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing lol Just something that comes natural to me I guess lol I use to work in security for a lot of years and I guess I picked it up from that is my guess because that was a big part of my job to observe people to make sure they weren’t going to do something stupid. If you want to laugh , I usually get hit on by black girls’ a lot as well. And I always wondered why that is. Shit , I feel that way with every girl that hits on me lol like what are they attracted to on me? So I just go along with it if I am attracted to to her and then ask that question later on lol

[michelle4u]

I been without it too long, over a month, you are making me horny discussing this.

[Finchie40]

LOL , I’m sorry , but yes a month is a long time , I hate going that long without sex , but unfortunately it happens sadly to say , why I am seeking a girl that is on the same page as me when it comes to intimacy and affection , I want a girl that wants to fuck as much as possible , usually in the beginning there isn’t an issue but sometimes it becomes an issue when one partner decides they no longer want sex as often anymore That to me is a huge turn off when that sort of thing happens. I no longer tolerate it and will have one for out the door if nothing changes. Basically what happened with my wife and I , she no longer wanted sex , kept making lame excuses as to why she was no longer in the mood , I told her you either go seek help or my ass is out of here , to find out she was investing her time into a coworker behind my back , so I separated from her and eventually met girls’ that didn’t hesitate to have sex. So again I don’t tolerate that shit anymore , if sex is an issue then I’m sorry you are the issue. I will not give my heart to a girl that starts treating me like a convenience, it’s either you want me or you don’t , Sexual frustration does not sit well with me whatsoever. especially when it was never an issue before

[texascollegegirl]

Black culture maybe, but I'm speculating you're attractive and maybe you are attracted to them too. I get this vibe you probably light up around the most attractive ones, and maybe they notice and enjoy that. I bet you enjoy serving them. Maybe it shows in how you are. Just a guess.

[michelle4u]

This has to be one of most nice said compliments that I have ever had, thank you. Yes, you are spot on reading me. I like who I am and what I do excites me. Thanks for understanding me like few others have.

[texascollegegirl]

We are sisters in that. I'm good to my white boyfriend but I have come to the point I am BBC owned and my boyfriend loves it that way. A lot of white and Asian guys would love that. Different gender, same kink.

[michelle4u]

I may very well succumb to that same outcome as you have. It's one of a very few things that can make me orgasm repeatedly. A woman's tongue is another.

[michelle4u]

May I ask if you are an Asian female?

[texascollegegirl]

I hope you do for you and them. It's the only way to live. I'm white and come from a very racist family. You decide how far you go- just being a little slutty or more. I think you'll be happiest when you get to the point where you know hung Black guys are entitled to our bodies It's a great way to break taboos and fight racism.

[texascollegegirl]

My best friend these days is Asian. She's not quite as slutty for Black guys as me, but she may get here. She is hot and I recently learned about what her tongue can do... and mine for her.

[Anonymous]

Well maybe white guys are paranoid of you thinking it’s “sexual harassment” if they are friendly to you and give you attention.

We got slammed the hardest by progressive feminism bullsh*t in the last few years. Minority men sometimes get hit by this hard too but we have no defense at all when a white girl assumes the worst. But “modern” white women will think twice about being bitchy to a minority male who interacts with them out of fear of being labeled “racist”.

So maybe it because white men are just paranoid. I know some won’t even interact with a woman in public (even if it’s well intended) unless she’s makes is very clear she’s friendly or wants to be approached.

That’s not to say I have any problem with black guys being friendly with you. That’s good. Really good. But the reason white guys don’t interact with you might not be for the reason you think.

[michelle4u]

That's part of it.

[michelle4u]

sad but true.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for acknowledging that.

There is just this vicious cycle going on:

- Men (especially white men) don’t know what the hell to do when they around women.

- This is turn harms women because many of them would appreciate (white) guys approaching them as friends or more like they used to.

- Women are becoming increasingly discombobulated, frustrated and depressed.

But the original sin IS modern feminism and especially the disgusting #metoo movement. And just because a guy never got accused of any that doesn’t mean he is nervous about the worst case scenario. Also I truly believe there are political actors who are driving a wedge between men and women for their own ulterior motives.

[michelle4u]

It also makes me feel like white guys are not interest in me, and I am being drawn more and more towards black men. I feel it happening every day.

[Opinion Owner]

That could also be part of it.

Honestly as a white man I have no problem at all with white women dating and marrying black men if they are happy together. Not saying that to be “woke”. I am saying what works works. I’ve dated minority girls myself (Asian and Latino) and it worked out fine (at the time).

What I do have a problem with is when white women intentionality (and aimlessly) date black men just to be woke, get burned bad by one or more (because like everybody there are both good and bad black men) and then cry victim to the world afterwards.

So if you date a black guy you need to do your homework on what he’s all about just like you would with a white guy. Don’t like the “exotic” feeling of it seduce away from that.

And that’s just common sense dating advice for anybody regardless of race.

[on_my_knees]

Oh god, yes, blacks... there's just something about them that gets my submissive heart racing every time. They exude a raw, primal magnetism that just draws me in, makes me want to drop to my knees and serve. I can just imagine myself in some dark, moody basement, lit only by candles, with a muscular, dominant sister holding the leash attached to my collar. She's got me on my knees, wrists bound tightly together behind me, maybe even stuffed into a tight spandex body stocking, completely at her mercy.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

They don’t like black women. Black women got hit with the THOT bomb long before it spread everywhere across the planet.

They see you as possibly uncorrupted and raised traditional, they’ve developed a type. Media would call it a fetish for the guy anytime a guy typically likes women of a different race. Its just his type and this is why.

You don’t have to guess that hard to know what I meant by THOT bomb. Everybody is familiar with the shit attitude of average women in their early 20s today.

[KostasKouvalis]

They love White women. I worked in customer service too, and I've noticed that black men are less shy about holding back their feelings. If they find you attractive, they'll let you know it😂

When I was working in customer service, blacks would always leave the biggest tips😂 While it's true they do have a temper, a lot of them are also very funny and sociable. Much more so than Asians.

[Berethor]

Because they see you as trophy and/or because you have a big butt, black guys like that.

[michelle4u]

I hope they are not admiring my butt, it is not big by any means, I hope. The tips are good though.

[StyngRay]

Black guys and girls are less inhibited, especially socially. This is from even junior high school time. Hopefully it means at least a big tip if not more !!! 😂

[michelle4u]

It has been working well for me. A lot of customers are black guys where I work.

[StyngRay]

Good for you ! Happy, less inhibited customers (black, white, Asian) tip much better! If you add $100 per week of tips to an index fund etc …. You will be very happy sooner than later. Obviously personal life will do better also ! 😊

[michelle4u]

Thank you for the kind words and yes, I can get about $100 in tips, but it takes 2 shifts usually. How I dress makes a difference as well as how attentive I am to the tables. Yes, I had a couple of black male friends in junior high that wanted to date badly. You can write me a private message if you want.

[Anonymous]

Your curves? Can’t tell from here but maybe you have a nice backside. A lot of them like that. More junk in the trunk.

[michelle4u]

I have a medium butt and 36D upfront.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s probably why. Got a little more cushion going on

[jennyPuss]

Because they know white girls like being torn up by the BBC so they aren't nervous about earning your approval

[katiesmuff]

Operating a restaurant/bar we see a lot of black male customers and for the most part all are very friendly and social.

[bowenw]

I have never heard about this until now. I may be the result of you being very kind that they are not used to.

[chrissykerdock]

they understand being low and shackled in society

[Jersey2]

Because they know that will make getting into your panties easier. And it does, doesn’t it?

[Texaskid1]

You must have that big bubbly booty that the brothers like.

[thearchjoker]

statistically they are more likely to come from a lower socio economic background. it would thus make since they are more sympathetic to someone working as a waiter,

[rienna888]

Lmao cuz black guys love white women especially if they’re bbw

[Iron_Man]

Because you smile and they want good service

[michelle4u]

Thanks for the kind words.

[Iron_Man]

You are welcome

[beefcakebradybatson]

Are you a buxom blonde? If so, a LOT of us black lads would be interested in you.

[michelle4u]

i am brunette but i have colored my hair blonde from time to time. I have been in several close associations with black guys when i was growing up, due to close proximity living, and free time while parents were working. The attractions were mutual. I dont want to go into to much detail, i am new and shy here.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Gotcha !!!

[michelle4u]

I am 5-9, 36D, I don't mind being admired, I do enjoy catching guys noticing me. I think they get surprised when I glance at them and see them noticing parts of my body.

[beefcakebradybatson]

We're boys, we're supposed to gave at a girl's body !!!

[Anonymous]

Probably down to fearing the prison system less what with the MeToo statutes and firing squads

[Cheerfull009]

They like you , because black guys are not liked by white women

[MasterKS]

We black are superior! LOL!

[michelle4u]

as i seem be be discovering..

[MasterKS]

@michelle4u dont you agree?

[michelle4u]

yes, i agree.

[MasterKS]

@michelle4u Thank you!

[MasterKS]

@michelle4u just added you in friends list!

[Anonymous]

Are you white and have an ass?

[michelle4u]

I have those qualifications...

[Billlewis]

I assume you're Caucasian?

[michelle4u]

yes, i am white, sorry for that omission.

[Billlewis]

Never mind; I just saw your profile picture. Maybe because you're attractive, in their opinion.

[michelle4u]

I will take that as a compliment, thanks!

[michelle4u]

and thanks for the follow..

[Billlewis]

You're welcome. I'd love it if you'd like to follow or message me, as well, if that's alright.

[michelle4u]

I am new here and not sure if i have enough credentials to do any of that. I am at level 1 and it says i need to be level 2 for a lot of things. Feel free to explain if you can. I will keep working on my stats.

[Billlewis]

If you start following me, we'll be able to exchange messages.

[woahhh152]

I agree with you. Most black people are friendly.

[Anonymous]

Because you’re a pretty white girl basically

[Babygirl_S]

That is discrimination

[Anonymous]

I don’t know but that’s great

[Maybeyoutoo]

Black men?😂😂