Why is it I keep meeting guys that beat the shit out of me?

[recklessrose]

Tired of this but every time i make a conmection with a guy that lasts more than a few months. Then they turn abusive

[Finchie40]

Probably the same reason I end up dating selfish girls’ that only care about themselves , it’s always great in the beginning , but then they turn on me once they get bored or they think grass is greener on the other side by lying and cheating behind my back. So my advice to you , is to stop dating assholes , only date someone that gives to you the same way you give to them , Prioritize him the same way you want him to prioritize you , learn to remove selfishness for your partner , the same way you want him to remove it for you. Every single one of us has selfishness in us , if you can’t remove that selfishness for your partner , don’t expect them to remove it for you. These guys have no right hitting you at all , but there has to be some kind of reason they are doing so? Something is triggering them to attack you or are they beating you up for the hell of it , because they are controlling manipulative assholes? It’s weird that you keep ending up with abusive guys’ so really ask yourself if it’s you that is causing them to attack you? Are you selfish? Do you always think you are right and your boyfriend is wrong? Do you have set boundaries that you don’t follow but expect him to follow for you? For a relationship to survive and for love to grow both partners’ have to prioritize each other and wear each others’ shoes before making decisions , if you can’t do that for your partner they aren’t going to do that for you. It needs to go both ways for it to work. Boundaries are not controlling , boundaries are set for the both of you to respect each other and choose each other , so if you aren’t following those boundaries you are going to experience negative things from your partner and probably end up single again and again and again

[razelove]

If it happens over and over again that you're repeating the same pattern look at yourself. It could be a combination of the guys you choose and how you interact with them, also where you meet them.

It's like how all the red-pill videos interview women outside clubs as evidence that women are easy. I met women in clubs because that's where you meet easy women. Trying the same approach in an art class or church would fail, though that's where I would find women for relationships rather than a ONS.

I saw that with women who were meeting guys at waffle house. The same women didn't like me because I wouldn't beat them. They enjoyed drama that I didn't provide, or put up with.

[SueShe]

The question is: Why do you even make contact with those people? What are you seeking? What do you want? What are you expecting?

I never have that kind of problem because I don't look for people and neither do I let those people get the best of me. It is a simple principle that has worked for me since I can remember.

If you want to protect yourself from people that are abusive and toxic, refrain from meeting those people. It is simply a matter of reason and then you will not have any problems whatsoever.

The problem is that most people are not reasonable.

[jojouzumaki]

We treat others how we wanted to be treated. Set your boundaries and learn your self worth.

[genericname85]

the odds are cause you're been beaten by your dad or mom. or cause your dad beat your mom or vice versa. we learn to love from our parents. so if we end up with partners who beat us then cause our parents taught us to associate being beaten with love.

it sucks but the only way around that is to drastically change what you're looking for in a partner.

[Jackblue]

Well look for warning signs, if a guy can't take being shushed or scolded he has issues and might be an abuser. If a guy talks too much about old fashioned values even if they appear to be chivalrous like taking off his hat to you he might feel justified in abusing you. If the guy is an alpha male it might seem hot to you making sure that other people get out of your way, but the same anger he shows to others might one day be directed at you.

[FunkyMonkee]

Apparently, women have shit taste in men! I was with my ex-fiance for 10 years and never hit her! But, apparently, women aren't interested in guys that ACTUALLY love them and treat them quite well!

[Daniela1982]

Where are you meeting these losers? You definitely need to stop going there. what attracted you to them to begin with?

[exitseven]

I had an uncle who was a cop. He used to say that the sadists always find the masochists. You need to figure out what you really want from a relationship.

[Nik1hil]

You have a Type, perhaps you go looking for those kind of men only!

[ProbablyClueless]

There must be something in the behavioral patterns of the men you find attractive.

[DrPepper12]

Shitty coincidence. Be more selective and file charges 1st time it happens

[LiamJHayden]

Are they addicts? That is very common among that element.

[noohair]

Try looking for guys in a different town. Where you are is not good. WTF?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Stop meeting a**holes and strive to meet ONLY good lads !!!

[seviyorummm]

I would like to ask what's going on, send a follow request

[Anonymous]

all my chosens turn out to be psychopaths/controllers

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I refer to Bill burr for this one

[msss98]

You might need to look elsewhere

[Anonymous]

That is not uncommon, unfortunately.

[jahaims]

You are just a moron

[Walksbehindtherows]

This is your destiny